How is Being Social Considered Selfish?

[Innerview]

In Leo’s recent video, he pointed out the conforming to social structures is a sign of a lower perspective, and that this is a survival mechanism rooting from selfishness.

 

My question is how can caring about the people around you in a social situation be selfish? Seems counterintuitive.

[Hojo]

Why do you care about them? Would you care about them if they were mean to you?

[Innerview]

@Hojo I see, that makes sense.

[Jowblob]

Yeah and you might have noticed that people that talk to you are like on "auto-pilot", the talks are all about this world and mostly simplistic. I think neville goddard said something simillar like , don't bother with others they're just a mirror showing you who you are. 

I noticed when you engage with them it actually brings you down more vibrationally to their level or this realm in general. Then you might witness something that you don't like or whatever and your mind starts creating a story around it, changing these people behaviour and it's all coming from you.

 

I've already tested by putting my ear on the neighbours walls, it's all coming from you or your mind. That's why being conscious of  emotions/thoughts is so important.

Edited 4 hours ago by Jowblob

[Innerview]

@Jowblob Fascinating. Are you saying your reaction to people’s presence (whether they are aware of you or not) affects their behavior? Like your emotions direct their consciousness?

[Jowblob]

1 minute ago, Innerview said:

@Jowblob Fascinating. Are you saying your reaction to people’s presence (whether they are aware of you or not) affects their behavior? Like your emotions direct their consciousness?

Yes, when your thought and emotions is aligned you direct their behaviour

[Innerview]

1 minute ago, Jowblob said:

Yes, when your thought and emotions is aligned you direct their behaviour

I see. I wonder what happens when you have a conversation with somebody who themselves is awakened? If you aligned your thoughts and emotions in their presence, would you direct their actions too? Sorry for all the questions, this is just very interesting to me.

[Salvijus]

3 hours ago, Innerview said:

My question is how can caring about the people around you in a social situation be selfish? Seems counterintuitive.

Seems like a valid point. You can join a community which is focusing on helping others and adhere to their ways of life for practical reasons such as better efficiency and coherence. And it will be not in pursuit of survival. But in pursuit of love. 

 

 

Edited 4 hours ago by Salvijus

[integral]

So there's a misunderstanding of what he said.

The topic is social conformity. To follow a specific groupthink methodology unconsciously because it suits your survival agenda. It is a low consciousness because you are unconscious of your own Survival agenda and how it's playing tricks on you. And how you're attracted to all the things that suit your own Survival unconsciously. Which of course leads you down the path of untruthfulness in everything. Because what suits your survival is rarely true, you're just biased and you cannot see your own self deception mechanisms. Fooling yourself into thinking you know what is true.

• Basic emotional responses are largely learned through early family dynamics, like whether crying was met with comfort or punishment shaping our relationship with vulnerability.
• Our "personal" aesthetic preferences often trace back to what our early environment celebrated or dismissed, from music tastes to ideas of physical beauty.
• The very language and concepts we use to think and process reality were installed through our cultural and educational conditioning.
• Our sense of life purpose and what constitutes "success" is heavily shaped by familial and societal expectations we internalized before we could critically examine them.
• The range of "choices" we believe are available to us is unconsciously limited by what our social conditioning has framed as possible or appropriate.
• Our deepest moral instincts, while felt as universal truths, largely reflect the specific value system we were raised in.
• Even our perception of time and relationship to past/future is culturally conditioned rather than objectively given.
• The ways we experience and express core human needs like love, belonging, and self-worth are patterned on our early attachment experiences.
• Our default ways of relating to authority, conflict, and power dynamics often unconsciously recreate our family system's patterns.

• The fear of ostracism and social rejection activates the same brain regions as physical pain, creating a powerful motivation to align with group norms.

• People quote studies they haven't read just because they support their existing beliefs

• Changing your natural accent or way of speaking to match the dominant group
• Buying specific brands or clothes just because they're popular in your social circle
• Hiding interests or hobbies that might be seen as weird or different
• Laughing at jokes you don't find funny to seem agreeable
• Pretending to like certain music or movies just to have common ground with others
• Adapting your personality to be more extroverted/introverted based on the setting
• Changing your opinions to match whatever group you're currently with
• Censoring parts of your life story that don't fit the "normal" narrative
• Mimicking others' body language and mannerisms unconsciously
• Downplaying your intelligence or success to avoid standing out
• Pretending to share common struggles even when you don't relate
• Hiding cultural practices or traditions that might seem different
• Avoiding expressing controversial opinions even when you feel strongly
• Changing your food preferences to match what others consider normal
• Suppressing emotional reactions that might make others uncomfortable

 

Edited 4 hours ago by integral

[Innerview]

7 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

Seems like a valid point. You can join a community which is focusing on helping others and adhere to their ways of life for practical reasons such as better efficiency and coherence. And it will be not in pursuit of survival. But in pursuit of love. 

 

 

Even if it is a positive emotion, your ego is relying on that dopamine hit for selfish reasons. But maybe I don’t fully understand yet.

[Salvijus]

1 hour ago, Innerview said:

Even if it is a positive emotion, your ego is relying on that dopamine hit for selfish reasons. But maybe I don’t fully understand yet.

Desire to be happy is not a survival instinct, it's a desire to be infinite, like God and it comes from god itself. 

Edited 3 hours ago by Salvijus

[integral]

Claude 

 

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# Key Insights on Social Conformity

## Core Conformity Patterns
* People adopt beliefs and worldviews primarily to fit in with their social circles, not from independent inquiry
* Most perspectives are inherited from one's environment (family, culture, education) rather than developed through personal investigation
* Social survival and fitting in drives more behavior than genuine truth-seeking
* People conform to get social benefits: relationships, business connections, community belonging
* Even seemingly "rebellious" positions are often just conforming to alternative subcultures

## Hidden Forms of Conformity
* People who think they're being non-conformist (e.g., counterculture groups) are often just conforming to different social standards
* Alternative communities and subcultures can be just as rigid and conformist as mainstream ones
* Small cults or fringe groups can demonstrate extreme conformity despite their small size
* Social media creates new forms of conformity through echo chambers and group reinforcement
* People often adopt entire belief systems without questioning just to belong

## Professional/Social Media Conformity 
* Content creators conform to audience expectations to maintain followers
* Podcasters/influencers feel pressure to produce regular content whether they have genuine insights or not
* Fear of losing followers/advertisers leads to self-censorship and pandering
* Echo chambers form where similar views constantly reinforce each other
* Platforms reward content that confirms existing beliefs rather than challenges them

## Mechanisms of Conformity
* People rationalize conformist behavior as independent thinking
* Social groups develop shared language and beliefs that members must adopt
* Fear of rejection drives acceptance of group beliefs without question
* Communities create punishments (formal or informal) for non-conformity
* Members internalize group perspectives to feel secure and accepted

## Breaking Free from Conformity
* True independent thinking requires stepping outside social pressures
* Must be willing to question inherited beliefs and risk social disapproval
* Development of genuine perspective requires solitary contemplation
* Need to distinguish between social acceptance and truth
* Important to recognize how survival needs influence our thinking

## Impact on Truth-Seeking
* Social conformity prevents genuine inquiry and growth
* Group beliefs become more important than evidence or reason
* Fear of social consequences blocks honest self-reflection
* People avoid questioning fundamentals to maintain group belonging
* Conformity leads to intellectual stagnation and closed-mindedness

 

[Salvijus]

Even survival is not antithetical to truth. Fear of death is not the only motivating factor to survive. You can live driven by love for life and you'll survive perfectly.  

Edited 3 hours ago by Salvijus

[Leo Gura]

Caring about people isn't the issue. The issue is when you care about a small tribe of "your" people at the expense of everyone else.

And also the issue is that by socializing with them you fall into group-think, not thinking about reality on your own.

You not only get corrupted by survival and ego, you then get corrupted a second time by social survival and collective ego. So you are doubling up on survival bias.

[Innerview]

5 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Caring about people isn't the issue. The issue is when you care about a small tribe of "your" people at the expense of everyone else.

And also the issue is that by socializing with them you fall into group-think, not thinking about reality on your own.

You not only get corrupted by survival and ego, you then get corrupted a second time by social survival and collective ego. So you are doubling up on survival bias.

I see, there is a nuance between social structures and socialization, thanks for clarifying.