Is it wrong to leave a girl for someone better?

[Twentyfirst]

Just now, Buck Edwards said:

The photo is an implication that she doesn't want to be second choice. If she is told she is second, then she can walk out freely without second thought.

You would be surprised then. I guess it's something you have to see first hand. Btw what I said was to tell her ahead of time that she will probably be second. I am not sure it will work if you reveal to her she is a side piece. Although women sleep with married men all the time which is second choice 

[Buck Edwards]

Just now, Twentyfirst said:

You would be surprised then. I guess it's something you have to see first hand. Btw what I said was to tell her ahead of time that she will probably be second. I am not sure it will work if you reveal to her she is a side piece. Although women sleep with married men all the time which is second choice 

A confident woman never wants to be second choice. Men who want a woman to be second choice feed on their insecurities and weaknesses, their inner traumas and emotional issues to get what they want. It's an inherently selfish motive. 

Women who sleep with married men often already have self esteem issues which get exacerbated by their entanglement with married men, most of it doesn't end well especially for the woman, such women learn it the harder way. A man who engages in having a relationship with his wife and riding another chick along is just doing bad karma to both. It ends up like the Bill Clinton Monica Lewinsky situation. 

If you're talking about Ryan Reynolds, Scarlett Johansson and Blake Lively kind of a situation, the woman ends up with the man she likes. Although this is not the best for the wife, but it's better to be single than be with a man who chooses another woman over you, so sort of Scarlett Johansson is better off without Ryan Reynolds. 

 

[Twentyfirst]

10 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

A confident woman never wants to be second choice. Men who want a woman to be second choice feed on their insecurities and weaknesses, their inner traumas and emotional issues to get what they want. It's an inherently selfish motive. 

Women who sleep with married men often already have self esteem issues which get exacerbated by their entanglement with married men, most of it doesn't end well especially for the woman, such women learn it the harder way. A man who engages in having a relationship with his wife and riding another chick along is just doing bad karma to both. It ends up like the Bill Clinton Monica Lewinsky situation. 

If you're talking about Ryan Reynolds, Scarlett Johansson and Blake Lively kind of a situation, the woman ends up with the man she likes. Although this is not the best for the wife, but it's better to be single than be with a man who chooses another woman over you, so sort of Scarlett Johansson is better off without Ryan Reynolds. 

 

Too much logic. All that gets thrown out the window when dealing with a woman. Yeah healthier women are gonna have higher standards 

I don't know what to tell ya. I think otherwise so agree to disagree

[nerdspeak]

@Twentyfirst is basically right, not every woman is looking for a long-term serious relationship. Many are scared of commitment and getting hurt, so prefer something casual, or think the whole idea of long-term monogamy is politically problematic haha. 

Edited Sunday at 10:37 AM by nerdspeak

[Buck Edwards]

2 hours ago, nerdspeak said:

@Twentyfirst is basically right, not every woman is looking for a long-term serious relationship. Many are scared of commitment and getting hurt, so prefer something casual, or think the whole idea of long-term monogamy is politically problematic haha. 

Even if they don't want a long term serious relationship, at least they don't want to be considered second. It hurts her self-esteem and it might come across as being played with. The rules are pretty much the same whether it's long term or casual. 

[Schizophonia]

On 15/01/2025 at 1:28 PM, Something Funny said:

If I were your girlfriend, I would rather prefer you dumping me as soon as you started having those thoughts.

Staying with her now is cruel and is doing her a disservice.

I can sense that you are afraid of being "second choice".

[nerdspeak]

50 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

Even if they don't want a long term serious relationship, at least they don't want to be considered second. It hurts her self-esteem and it might come across as being played with. The rules are pretty much the same whether it's long term or casual. 

Yeah so you say, “I don’t think we’re compatible long term.” And leave the door open for both to date other people. 

You don’t directly say you’re looking for someone else or have another gf, that’s just rude. 

[Something Funny]

22 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

I can sense that you are afraid of being "second choice".

Second choice? He is already in a relationship with her, but is thinking that she is "kind of meh" and is actually into somebody else. Who wants to be in a relationship like that? Would you?

Be a man and make up your mind about who you want to be with. Why waste everybody's time?

[Schizophonia]

36 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

Second choice? He is already in a relationship with her, but is thinking that she is "kind of meh" and is actually into somebody else. Who wants to be in a relationship like that? Would you?

Be a man and make up your mind about who you want to be with. Why waste everybody's time?

I'm not saying the opposite.
I just have fun showing when people are in mirrors.

[Something Funny]

6 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I'm not saying the opposite.
I just have fun showing when people are in mirrors.

Okay, but that's like saying: "I can tell you don't like being ass raped"

Duh... Do you know many people who do like it?

[Schizophonia]

5 hours ago, Something Funny said:

Okay, but that's like saying: "I can tell you don't like being ass raped"

Duh... Do you know many people who do like it?

It's not about not liking getting your ass raped, but being afraid of it.
If you decide, choose to comment on a rape in someone's anus rather than seeing anything else objectively unpleasant, it's because it highlights a personal insecurity. Everyone has sensitivities and this affects their reactions to the outside world, it could be what's happening in Gaza, it could be incest, it could be torture, it could be the black pill, it could be a whole bunch of things.

The real question is why are you particularly afraid of getting fucked in the ass 🤔

This topic and those who respond to it say about me, in a mirror since i respond to it and then respond to your comment, that still tend to be afraid of being abandoned, "betrayed" for someone better, and generally of not being enough.

Faced with the threat of castration, there is acceptance (those who in fact will not respond to the topics) and there are defense mechanisms.
The defense mechanism involves regression, either to the anal sadistic stage (for example NoSelfSelf, me?, Leo Gura and those who generally adopt a stoic, introverted, dry and "disillusioned" character) or oral (those who give the impression of exploding).

But in the end, those who come out best are those who accept castration.

[Schizophonia]

@Sugarcoat is my giraffe fixed in the anal stage, and @Princess Arabia my lioness fixed in the oral stage.

 

Edited Monday at 07:11 PM by Schizophonia

[Sugarcoat]

10 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

@Sugarcoat is my giraffe fixed in the anal stage, and @Princess Arabia my lioness fixed in the oral stage.

 

Is that a good or a bad thing

[Schizophonia]

19 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Is that a good or a bad thing

I just tease.

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, Schizophonia said:

I just tease.

I know I still asked 

[Something Funny]

@Schizophonia i get your point, but you got it wrong. I don't have any special fear about getting raped in the ass.

I do find doing what OP is doing larticularly annoying, but I wouldn't call i a fear.

[Something Funny]

@Princess Arabia why are you fixed on the oral stage?

@Sugarcoat why are you a giraffe?

[Sugarcoat]

@Something Funny ask schizo

[Something Funny]

2 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

@Something Funny ask schizo

I know its in his nickname, but still 

[Sugarcoat]

1 minute ago, Something Funny said:

I know its in his nickname, but still 

Hehe