Feeling suicidal and depressed

[Majed]

Mainly because of some health problems, which are preventing me from studying and working seriously so i have no money, which is preventing me from having a girlfriend. I tried pick up and the bottom line is you need a car, a phone, a place where you have intercourse with girls... All of which i don't have, and i don't know how to get. Life is rough. I am 21 years old and never had a girlfriend, and it's making me sad. 

[Sugarcoat]

Relate. I wanna die. 

Edited January 15 by Sugarcoat

[Yimpa]

That is exactly where I was when I was 21, do not give up.

[Salvijus]

1 hour ago, Sugarcoat said:

Relate. I wanna die. 

That "I" is not you. 

[Sugarcoat]

52 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

That "I" is not you. 

I don’t see that

[Salvijus]

1 hour ago, Sugarcoat said:

I don’t see that

Just have faith. 

[Tristan12]

What kind of health problems do you have?

[Tristan12]

1 minute ago, Salvijus said:

Just have faith. 

It doesn't help, it's just spiritual bypassing

[Salvijus]

1 hour ago, Tristan12 said:

It doesn't help, it's just spiritual bypassing

Faith is not a belief. Faith is a state of conciousness. 

[Sugarcoat]

18 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

Faith is not a belief. Faith is a state of conciousness. 

How

[Salvijus]

1 hour ago, Sugarcoat said:

How

Beliefs are in the mind. Faith is surrender and trust in the heart, it has nothing to do with the mind. And your heart simply knows what is true without any mental activity. True Knowledge comes when one rests in surrender and trust, vulnerable and open. That is synonymous with faith conciousness. It's the simplest and fastest way to know everything worth knowing. 

Edited January 15 by Salvijus

[Sugarcoat]

1 hour ago, Salvijus said:

Beliefs are in the mind. Faith is surrender and trust in the heart, it has nothing to do with the mind. And your heart simply knows what is true without any mental activity. True Knowledge comes when one rests in surrender and trust, vulnerable and open. That is synonymous with faith conciousness. It's the simplest and fastest way to know everything worth knowing. 

Ok I don’t know what to respond so empty I am 

[Salvijus]

1 hour ago, Sugarcoat said:

Ok I don’t know what to respond so empty I am 

It is well with me 🙏

[Sugarcoat]

24 minutes ago, Salvijus said:

It is well with me 🙏

Good

Edited January 15 by Sugarcoat

[PurpleTree]

15 hours ago, Majed said:

Mainly because of some health problems, which are preventing me from studying and working seriously so i have no money, which is preventing me from having a girlfriend. I tried pick up and the bottom line is you need a car, a phone, a place where you have intercourse with girls... All of which i don't have, and i don't know how to get. Life is rough. I am 21 years old and never had a girlfriend, and it's making me sad. 

 

5 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Relate. I wanna die. 

Have you tried carnivore or lectin free diet etc.?

I think i’m going to try it (again) for health issues. Fatigue, pain, inflammation, mood etc.

[Sugarcoat]

3 minutes ago, PurpleTree said:

 

Have you tried carnivore or lectin free diet etc.?

I think i’m going to try it (again) for health issues. Fatigue, pain, inflammation, mood etc.

No

I don’t have any issues digestion fiber 

[PurpleTree]

8 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

No

I don’t have any issues digestion fiber 

It could still cause some inflammation which can cause auto immune or mental disorders or whatever. I think carnivore and other very restrictive diets suuuck. But still give it a try.

[Sugarcoat]

4 hours ago, PurpleTree said:

It could still cause some inflammation which can cause auto immune or mental disorders or whatever. I think carnivore and other very restrictive diets suuuck. But still give it a try.

I ate similarly now and when I didn’t have mental problems . I have zero digestive issues, amazing energy levels, nothing suggests I’d be inflamed from my diet. Plus science recommends a plant dominant diet. 

[sholomar]

Yeah having faith and all the other bullshit that people will tell you who have never been in this situation isn't going to help at least as a man, where nobody's going to save you and you're not going to find a companion simply by leaving the house like a woman can.  Here's the raw advice you need... you gotta cultivate healthy habits and stop making excuses. The things you typically do every day out of habit, stop doing them and replace it with better habits. Do small things each day that make you feel proud of yourself and make you feel like you've grown as a person.  Read the book "atomic habits" ... ditch this "it's not real" bullshit because it will feel real to you. These self help types use "it's not real" as escapism to get away from the harsh reality that life on this planet is savage and survival of the fittest.  Brush up on your ability to be playful and not take life too seriously and the ability to fail and try again and again like an infant learning to walk.

Your mindset is also poor. You are only 21 and you're worried your life is already over because you don't have a girlfriend... first of all, thoughts create your emotions so think better.  Ditch the screens and work on building your body... if you are fat, stop fucking eating, get a side gig, take a class, learn a trade, and other things that will build value in your life, no fucking excuses and no sitting around pining "woe as me" which will only reinforce this bad habit in your brain to try to play the victim to get brownie points. That only works with women because men are biologically wired to want to "save" a woman, but nobody will save you except you. 

Some might say I'm encouraging you to find external validation rather than being at peace with with what is, but the truth is that is extremely hard to do and 95% of people who claim to be "happy" with their life circumstances that are shit are burying subconscious rage and disappointment and deluding themselves. Maslow's hierarchy typically needs to be approached in order.  Take each of the "problems" you mentioned in your original post, one at a time try to find a way to fix each one. If you happen to live in an area where the the cost of living is insane as far as housing , you might need to relocate. 

Life is not easy, and has never been easy. Good luck. If you have a genuine health problem that keeps you from working, my condolences.  I have to believe if you can have intercourse, you can find a source of income though. Mindset causes so many health problems in people's lives without them knowing. It's a chicken or the egg thing.. you're never going to get healthy with a shit mindset.

 

Edited Wednesday at 08:53 PM by sholomar

[Raze]

Try break through difficult emotions and break through pain by Shinzen Young

There should be a state program to help people with health issues get jobs