Hugging opposite sex

[Sugarcoat]

22 minutes ago, Candle said:

Yes, by experience. By socializing. After 50 hugs 🫂. I have faith I'll overcome every problem (related to personal development) in my life, eventually. 

Good 

[Michael569]

18 hours ago, Candle said:

Does a woman find it uncomfortable to hug a guy bcz her breasts press against him while hugging

I can't speak for women but in general hugging is uncomfortable when it is inappropriate (time/enviroment/familiary-wise)  or inappropriately done (too tight, too strong, too eager, too creepy such as touching her butt with your lower hand). It is usually the earlier, you need to be very familiar with the woman to be allowed to hug as a man. If she initiates the hug, you're fine. 

18 hours ago, Candle said:

Should you ask permission before hugging someone of the opposite sex?

see above. In general no, you don't ask its creepy and needy. You either know you can hug and if you can you do. If you don't know, you don't hug. 

18 hours ago, Candle said:

Should you avoid hugs in professional settings altogether?

99% of time inappropriate in professional setting, 1% constitutes a colleague you are very familiar with and haven't seen for a long time and have hugged before, I'd still wait for her to initiate the hug. Again, if unsure, the answer is 'no hugging.'

Handshakes only most of the time and even then not with everyone. To a senior executive you don't walk to and shake hands unless he initiates it. But every professional conversation with new person who you are meeting is initiated with handshake. 

18 hours ago, Candle said:

How can you determine someone’s comfort level with hugs?

Use your intuition and common sense. There are no guidelines. If you are unsure...don't hug. Also, read their body language and their facial expression. If their face seems warm, they wear a genuine wide smile and their body seems open and approachable..maybe. Sometimes the person makes a sort of jerky-like movement towards you and may also stop herself if she is unsure. Or if the encounter is almost as if she is opening up her arms as she is walking towards you (tends to be very obvious) then you're fine. 

If she says "hi" but her facial expression and posture remain stiff, then absolutely no hugging. 

18 hours ago, Candle said:

Can a simple hug ever be perceived as flirtatious? 

no, you will be perceived as creepy and weird. There is nothing flirty about hugging a woman you dont know, you're violating that person's most intimate space without permission and you will instantly make her dislike you. 

18 hours ago, Candle said:

Is there a “proper” way to hug someone of the opposite sex?

My god, the social media is ruining kids!

Yes there is an appropriate way to hug, once you hug you just know it. Hugging isn't the same as hearty embrace, you don't fully embrace the person. It's more of a light body to body contact, rest your upper arm (usually right one) over her left shoulder (not too close to neck, closer to the edge of the shoulder) very lightly and keep your other arm somewhere bvetween armpit and waistline but not too tight and not too clingy. If you want exact guidance , look up spinal anatomy - no touching below T10 - T8 under any circumstances allowed unless she is your girlfriend. 

Every person hugs differently. I've received unexpectedly warm embraces (from people I didn't know were as familar) before where I was squeezed like a teddy bear and I've received cold almost bro-like chest bumps that lasted 0.5 second (that one got me really surprised but the girl was really cold so that time maybe it was not even appropriate, it was a long time ago). 

It all depends, you have to read the situation. The only way to learn social skills is to be social with people and you'll get those subtleties. 

Edited 19 hours ago by Michael569

[Candle]

9 minutes ago, Michael569 said:

My god, the social media is ruining kids!

I'm not a kid. 

I am not active on any social media. My social media is almost 100% clean with good suggestions only. 

That question was framed by chatgpt, not me. I just pasted without thinking too much. That's not my question really. 

I just had to ask the first question. 

Thanks for responding. Great answer. 

Edited 19 hours ago by Candle

[Michael569]

@Candle fair enough.  Hope the answers were helpful then. 

[Princess Arabia]

4 hours ago, Candle said:

That question was framed by chatgpt, not me. I just pasted without thinking too much. That's not my question really. 

Why do we even bother to communicate with each other. Chatgpt is thinking and responding for us. No need to use up thinking resources. Let's all just press a button to think. Kinda cool, actually. What will they think of next. 

[Lucasxp64]

10 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

You need to be intuitive enough to know when it is appropriate. [...]

Read her face. Her face tells you all you need to know.

Yesterday I did a cold approach, and we finished it with a hug and a kiss on the cheeks.

Before that, we were laughing and speaking about our love life, and looking at each other's eyes for extended periods, etc.

And I had to actually go, it felt the most natural way of ending it, it even felt to me, it would have been even wrong not to hug her goodbye. And I was already craving a hug, perfect timing, she loved it.

The vibe was totally asking for it.

We even waved goodbye to each other from afar, she scanned visually for me inside the bus after it went away even past some obstructions between us, I waved from the inside, she waved back.

(Btw, I tried to close with clear intent, but she was much older than I'm, and she laughed at our age gap and told me about her son that had a similar age I do 🤣. But feel like she genuinely appreciated it, she had the "puppy eyes" expression all the time)

10/10 warm hug. 😍

Edited 14 hours ago by Lucasxp64

[Peo]

Girls never ask me for premssion for a hug. They just open up their arms and expect me to hug them. This was also random women i only just met. 

[Candle]

11 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Why do we even bother to communicate with each other. Chatgpt is thinking and responding for us. No need to use up thinking resources. Let's all just press a button to think. Kinda cool, actually. What will they think of next. 

Don't preach too much. You are on my ignore list from day one. 9/10 times you have to argue and to write bs. Even when it's not needed. I don't want to see you. So don't quote me again. 

I'm using my thinking resources 20x more than you!!!! 

Edited 3 hours ago by Candle