Hugging opposite sex

[Candle]

1. Does a woman find it uncomfortable to hug a guy bcz her breasts press against him while hugging? 
2. Should you ask permission before hugging someone of the opposite sex?
3. Should you avoid hugs in professional settings altogether?
4. Can hugging someone in distress ever be seen as inappropriate?
5. How can you determine someone’s comfort level with hugs?
6. Can a simple hug ever be perceived as flirtatious? 
7. Is there a “proper” way to hug someone of the opposite sex?

 

Edited 19 hours ago by Candle

[Jannes]

1 hour ago, Candle said:

1. Does a woman find it uncomfortable to hug a guy bcz her breasts press against him while hugging? 

Isnt that something that is only detectible when when the girl has very big breasts? I personally pretty much never noticed. But okay from the girls POV it can be different. 

1 hour ago, Candle said:

1. Should you ask permission before hugging someone of the opposite sex?

Depends on the setting, the vibe, the connection. I dont think it's appropriate to hug a stranger without permission for example. 

1 hour ago, Candle said:

1. Should you avoid hugs in professional settings altogether?

Why? what do you mean with professional setting?

1 hour ago, Candle said:

1. Can hugging someone in distress ever be seen as inappropriate?

Yes, especially in cases like this it's important to ask. 

1 hour ago, Candle said:

 

1. How can you determine someone’s comfort level with hugs?

You can hug more or less intimately, shorter or longer.  

1 hour ago, Candle said:

1. Can a simple hug ever be perceived as flirtatious? 

depends on the setting. It signalizes a certain degree of closeness. 

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

I swear, only Indian men ask these types of questions. No offense. Just is what it is

[Sugarcoat]

9 minutes ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

I swear, only Indian men ask these types of questions. No offense. Just is what it is

Lmfao😹😹😹

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

10 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Lmfao😹😹😹

It's not that funny, actually

[Sugarcoat]

3 minutes ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

It's not that funny, actually

I didn’t laugh my f* ass off that was an over exaggeration, but I did find it just so slightly funny 

Edited Monday at 07:48 PM by Sugarcoat

[Sugarcoat]

3 hours ago, Candle said:

1. Does a woman find it uncomfortable to hug a guy bcz her breasts press against him while hugging? 

Never heard of it

3 hours ago, Candle said:

 

Should you ask permission before hugging someone of the opposite sex?

Usually one doesn’t ask for permission to hug someone, one decides if it’s the appropriate context for a hug and if it is one goes for it by using body language to signal a hug is coming . Someone could back out but usually the context is appropriate so they won’t 

3 hours ago, Candle said:

 

Should you avoid hugs in professional settings altogether?

 

Depends on the setting

3 hours ago, Candle said:

1.  
2. Can hugging someone in distress ever be seen as inappropriate?

Depends on your relationship to the person and the context

3 hours ago, Candle said:

1.  
2. How can you determine someone’s comfort level with hugs?
3. Can a simple hug ever be perceived as flirtatious? 
4. Is there a “proper” way to hug someone of the opposite sex?

You assess the context to know if it’s appropriate and watch for body language cues that would suggest they don’t wanna hug when you go for the hug but usually you assess the context right so it doesn’t happen most are comfortable with hugs in right context 

 

It could be flirtatious depending on context wow I am repeating my self. I sometimes feel I lack access to my own brain that’s why

 

No it’s like any hug 

[AION]

 

[Yimpa]

No need to overcomplicate this matter

 

[Candle]

6 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Never heard of it

Saw this on Quora  : 

Quote

Quora answer....

We do realize that our breasts get pressed up when hugging a guy. That is why most of us only hug sideways.

We hug front ways only when

1. we are sure that the guy will not hug us tight to cop a feel. This will be mostly reserved for immediete family members.
2. We like the guy and want to give him a feel of our assets.

There are these rare cases where the guy we are hugging sideways moves and hugs us from front. Our breasts do get crushed and it does feel a bit violated. Will try to be careful with these guys after that.

Other answers : 

https://www.quora.com/When-a-woman-hugs-you-do-you-think-she-realizes-that-her-breasts-press-up-against-you

 

7 hours ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

I swear, only Indian men ask these types of questions. No offense. Just is what it is

Only the first question is mine, all other questions have been framed by chatgpt.

 

5 hours ago, AION said:

 

I hated every second of this video. 

Edited 21 hours ago by Candle

[Emerald]

Does a woman find it uncomfortable to hug a guy bcz her breasts press against him while hugging? 

No, that's not what can be uncomfortable about hugs. The only thing I feel uncomfortable about is getting a hug that I didn't want.

Should you ask permission before hugging someone of the opposite sex?

Yes... and of the same sex too.

Should you avoid hugs in professional settings altogether?

Most of the time, yes. But if you know someone really well and they're going to another job, it can be appropriate.

Can hugging someone in distress ever be seen as inappropriate?

If the person doesn't want a hug it's inappropriate. But if the person wants the hug it isn't.

How can you determine someone’s comfort level with hugs?

Ask them directly.

Can a simple hug ever be perceived as flirtatious? 

Yes, it can be. If you want to avoid that, give a short hug that avoids anything that could be construed as sensual.

Is there a “proper” way to hug someone of the opposite sex?

If it's a friend, then probably a short hug... or even a side hug. For a romantic interest, it depends on how sure you are that she reciprocates those feelings.

[Candle]

2 hours ago, Emerald said:

....

Yes, these are obvious answers based on common sense. It's not rocket science at all. Only the first question was mine. All others were framed by chatgpt. Thanks for responding. I saw many answers on Quora, people were saying it's feels uncomfortable bcz breasts press against.....

https://www.quora.com/When-a-woman-hugs-you-do-you-think-she-realizes-that-her-breasts-press-up-against-you

 

Edited 19 hours ago by Candle

[Princess Arabia]

Certain issues just never crosses my mind. Hug or no hug will just happen automatically on it's own. Why would someone you don't know want to hug you and why would someone you know well feel uncomfortable to hug. 

[Leo Gura]

Too many pointless questions.

Just hug when you feel like it. Adjust afterwards.

Don't be a fucking dork by asking for permission for such things. You need to be intuitive enough to know when it is appropriate. Until then, trial and error. Push the boundary to find out where it is.

Read her face. Her face tells you all you need to know.

Edited 19 hours ago by Leo Gura

[Candle]

21 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Too many pointless questions.

I agree. Pointless questions. 

21 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Don't be a fucking dork by asking for permission for such things.

Thanks for validating this for me. I knew this. I just have too much self doubt. 

21 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

You need to be intuitive enough to know when it is appropriate. Until then, trial and error. Push the boundary to find out where it is.

Read her face. Her face tells you all you need to know.

❤️ Great. I'm intuitive. But I have some self doubt. 

Edited 19 hours ago by Candle

[Candle]

30 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Too many pointless questions.

Just hug when you feel like it.

I have never hugged a "man" in my entire life. Let alone a woman. I am a bit socially awkward. (some people say it's autism, I don't know). Once I hesitated and became conscious during a hug. I watch videos on youtube how people are hugging. (too ridiculous and embarassing, I know). 

Why? Bcz I have always been in solitude in my life. Bcz of my family circumstances (I don't want to make excuses, still...fact is the fact). @Princess Arabia @Emerald @Sugarcoat

Edited 18 hours ago by Candle

[Sugarcoat]

1 hour ago, Candle said:

I have never hugged a "man" in my entire life. Let alone a woman. I am a bit socially awkward. (some people say it's autism, I don't know). Once I hesitated and became conscious during a hug. I watch videos on youtube how people are hugging. (too ridiculous and embarassing, I know). 

Why? Bcz I have always been in solitude in my life. Bcz of my family circumstances (I don't want to make excuses, still...fact is the fact). @Princess Arabia @Emerald @Sugarcoat

It can be overcome

[Raze]

https://www.girlschase.com/content/tactics-tuesdays-hugs-handclasps-arm-shoulders

[Jannes]

4 hours ago, Candle said:

I have never hugged a "man" in my entire life. Let alone a woman. 

Has anybody ever offered you a hug? You can learn from the person leading the hug. 

[Candle]

Just now, Jannes said:

Has anybody ever offered you a hug?

Yes, but then I was confused and awkward. But I understood it well afterwards how many types of hugs are there. Before that, I had never paid attention to how many types of hugs are there in the world. 

2 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

It can be overcome

Yes, by experience. By socializing. After 50 hugs 🫂. I have faith I'll overcome every problem (related to personal development) in my life, eventually.