How to not let bad experiences radicalize you and make you bitter?

[integral]

It's hilarious how we have to defend ourselves against ourselves.

[UnbornTao]

19 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

In the end you ain't doing shit. God runs you. And if God deems you to be bitter you will be bitter over a glass of spilled milk.

Thank God you are God and are running your self. 

 

[Schizophonia]

Being nuanced.

[cjoseph90]

17 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

That is solved by a commitment to genuine truth-seeking.

If your focus is to get your epistemology right then you will see that:

1) Negative emotions come from the ego's needs, as a form of survival, and do not lead to truthful perception of reality. Just because you are in pain doesn't make your view any more true.

2) Overgeneraliziation from a few anecdotes to entire classes of people is untruthful. The truth is that there is a huge diversity of different people in the world and no simplistic pattern of which of them are good or bad.

It is true however that long-distance relationships will almost always fail. Because if you really cared about the relationship deeply enough you would change the situation to make it short-distance.

Thanks for the reminder. Number 1 is gold!

[AION]

The key is to not identify with the feelings and thought patterns of a victim. If you make an identity through identifying with situations you becoming your false self which is based on these false patterns that are not based on love, joy, fulfillment and peace.

God's premise is that you are love, joy, fulfillment and peace and you are these because you are, no conditions or evidence is needed to mirror yourself in the image of God which is made in love, joy, fulfillment and peace.

And if you notice you do feel emotions of separation. No foul or condemnation.

Edited 4 hours ago by AION

[Spiral Wizard]

22 hours ago, UpperMaster said:

When you get  abused by some black migrants for the 6th time, how to not become racist?

If your wife cheats on you, how do you not become bitter, and adopt harmful ideologies like redpill and blackpill? 

When you get betrayed by a friend continuously your whole life, how can you continue to trust people?

I learned how to do this.

Learn how to process your pain. Easier said than done but extraordinary simple.

Then these situations won’t contract but expand your consciousness and liberate you from keep on attracting them through subconscious self sabotaging patterns. 

Michael A. Singer’s book: The Untethered Soul is a good start. 

Edited 4 hours ago by Spiral Wizard

[Leo Gura]

If the suffering is severe it causes trauma. So you would want to look at techniques for processing and releasing trauma. Teal Swan has a good book on that topic.

Of course psychedelics are one of the most powerful trauma-processing tools.

Edited 4 hours ago by Leo Gura

[mmKay]

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13 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Teal Swan has a good book on that topic.

Are you talking about " The completion process" ?

[Leo Gura]

17 minutes ago, mmKay said:

are 

Are you talking about " The completion process" ?

Probably, can't recall.