Let's decode : Prostitution is good or bad?

[NoSelfSelf]

Just now, Twentyfirst said:

Im celibate. Not gonna just have sex with random women like that. Sex is sacred and not to be shared lightly 

Most of world/ancient religions think this way

I can respect that,believe what you want to believe.Only critique is that religious people are so judgmental mistaking religion as absolute truth,so you must find a religious women.There is nothing wrong with a woman who loves sex thats all im saying.

 

 

[Twentyfirst]

Just now, NoSelfSelf said:

I can respect that,believe what you want to believe.Only critique is that religious people are so judgmental mistaking religion as absolute truth,so you must find a religious women.There is nothing wrong with a woman who loves sex thats all im saying.

 

 

Women SHOULD be sluts. With their husband  

Or if they don't want that then why not get paid for it? Society will look at you the same way anyways

Is it better for a one night stand to get paid or not? Either way the guy is gonna leave. Might as well get paid for it

[NoSelfSelf]

3 minutes ago, Twentyfirst said:

Women SHOULD be sluts. With their husband  

Or if they don't want that then why not get paid for it? Society will look at you the same way anyways

Is it better for a one night stand to get paid or not? Either way the guy is gonna leave. Might as well get paid for it

Women will do whatever anyway, so Should this and that, be careful with making those statments they will rebel because all their life they been told should this should that.She wont be a "slut" because you and her wont have experience with that.

I guess its better for the, but then they are not doing it out of finding a guy sexually attractive but who calls her on random.

[Twentyfirst]

5 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Women will do whatever anyway, so Should this and that, be careful with making those statments they will rebel because all their life they been told should this should that.She wont be a "slut" because you and her wont have experience with that.

I guess its better for the, but then they are not doing it out of finding a guy sexually attractive but who calls her on random.

I meant to respond when you said they love sex. They should love sex with their husband

Prostitues can be selective about who they have sex with. Only elite men!

[NoSelfSelf]

Just now, Twentyfirst said:

I meant to respond when you said they love sex. They should love sex with their husband

Prostitues can be selective about who they have sex with. Only elite men!

Thats a lottery spin since how will one know if he/she gonna enjoy sex with a wife/husband if they are celibat and what kind of sex they enjoy.

Well elite men doesnt mean sexually attractive so its a job not fun...

[Twentyfirst]

2 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Thats a lottery spin since how will one know if he/she gonna enjoy sex with a wife/husband if they are celibat and what kind of sex they enjoy.

Because sex is naturally an enjoying thing to do. You learn each others bodies. It's how it's always been since the beginning of time. Nobody had practice before it was unheard of and still is in most of the world 

2 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Well elite men doesnt mean sexually attractive so its a job not fun...

I meant sexually attractive to the women. Every prositute can choose for herself who she wants or doesnt want. There are levels to prostituion. NYC penthouse brothel vs alley crackhead. If she doesn't like the guy another girl in the brothel will

[NoSelfSelf]

1 minute ago, Twentyfirst said:

Because sex is naturally an enjoying thing to do. You learn each others bodies. It's how it's always been since the beginning of time. Nobody had practice before it was unheard of and still is in most of the world 

I meant sexually attractive to the women. Every prositute can choose for herself who she wants or doesnt want. There are levels to prostituion. NYC penthouse brothel vs alley crackhead. If she doesn't like the guy another girl in the brothel will

How do you know that when you are a celibat?

I dont know about levels, im speculating that its not the same, but i would never think about this outside this forum since ill never be a woman.

[Twentyfirst]

1 minute ago, NoSelfSelf said:

How do you know that when you are a celibat?

I dont know about levels, im speculating that its not the same, but i would never think about this outside this forum since ill never be a woman.

Because it is obvious. Im just using common sense. Wanting sex to be a certain way is after you burnt yourself out from too much sex and you go away from vanilla 

[NoSelfSelf]

7 minutes ago, Twentyfirst said:

Because it is obvious. Im just using common sense. Wanting sex to be a certain way is after you burnt yourself out from too much sex and you go away from vanilla 

I wouldnt agree 

[Twentyfirst]

1 minute ago, NoSelfSelf said:

I wouldnt agree 

Well why is prostitution so successful then? Its also a lottery spin in terms of not knowing how the sex will turn out

Edited Tuesday at 11:10 PM by Twentyfirst

[NoSelfSelf]

5 minutes ago, Twentyfirst said:

Well why is prostitution so successful then? Its also a lottery spin in terms of not knowing how the sex will turn out

Because majority gets horny on daily basis and having acess to sex at all time you must be a skilled individual and that sex is on your terms.So giving money is easier than transforming yourself.Its not even comparable risk for it to suck one time than when you get married its suppose to be forever.

Edited Tuesday at 11:16 PM by NoSelfSelf

[Twentyfirst]

Just now, NoSelfSelf said:

Because majority gets horny on daily basis and having acess to sex at all time you must be a skilled individual and that sex is on your terms.So giving money is easier than transforming yourself.

I hear ya

[LordFall]

I mean survival sex work is obviously not great but there are plenty of women who enjoy sensuality and sexuality and end up in sex work even if their financial/mental situation is great. Society is changing and OF is an example of basically decentralized dating. It's the first time in history women have been allowed to put themselves on the open market freely en masse and clearly the world likes women as OF is one of the most successful american companies in the fast few years. 

[aurum]

Some real talk on what sex work can look like:

This is a powerful video. If you are a man engaging in paying for sex, you should think about the collateral damage that behavior may be causing. But of course some men will not, because it serves them to be blissfully unaware or just not care at all.

[Schizophonia]

16 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Questionable paradigm 

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[Candle]

11 hours ago, aurum said:

Some real talk on what sex work can look like:

This is a powerful video. If you are a man engaging in paying for sex, you should think about the collateral damage that behavior may be causing. But of course some men will not, because it serves them to be blissfully unaware or just not care at all.

 Thanks a lot for sharing the video. 

I am writing it in points so that people get to know what's being said in the video. By chatgpt. 

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Here’s a breakdown of all the key points mentioned in it:

Self-Reflection and Criticism

1. The speaker is their harshest critic and has judged themselves more than anyone else ever could.
2. They have reflected deeply on their own decisions and actions.
3. They feel nervous and vulnerable sharing their story.

Trafficking Experience

1. The speaker was trafficked at 19 years old.
2. They didn’t choose this experience, and it caused significant pain.
3. Most men who interacted with them were unaware of the trafficking or the presence of a pimp behind the scenes.

Lessons from Men

1. They learned about men’s struggles, loneliness, and emotions.
2. Some men sought connection and comfort rather than physical satisfaction.
3. Others were addicted to the transactional aspect, treating them as part of a cycle.
4. Some men used their services because they were tired of the games in traditional dating.
5. A few men were grieving or seeking solace after personal losses.
6. Many men felt lonely, bitter, or unable to find meaningful relationships.
7. Some men sought control and power, not intimacy, over the speaker.
8. The speaker reflects on how society increasingly turns to artificial intimacy, like AI and virtual relationships, as a response to rejection and emotional pain.

Societal and Technological Concerns

1. AI girlfriends and virtual intimacy are becoming more prevalent, offering programmed affection.
2. These artificial solutions may feel comforting but lead to deeper loneliness.
3. The speaker fears a future where real intimacy is replaced by artificial alternatives.
4. They highlight that humans create these systems (AI, trafficking, pornography), perpetuating cycles of harm.
5. Society normalizes harming one another, contributing to relational destruction.

Personal Guilt and Regret

1. They feel shame for enabling married men to betray their spouses.
2. They attempted to understand and even counsel these men, but it caused deep guilt.
3. They express regret for not protecting themselves during their trafficking experience.
4. They feel a sense of betrayal towards themselves for allowing harmful situations to persist.

Emotional Impact

1. The speaker often experiences flashbacks and wishes they could protect their younger self.
2. They acknowledge feeling like both a victim and a villain in some situations.
3. The story has left them carrying emotional burdens, which they equate to holding bricks.

Broader Reflections on Humanity

1. Humans are often parasites to each other, draining and using one another.
2. Relationships are marked by betrayal, control, and trauma.
3. They observe that men and women alike perpetuate cycles of harm, such as ghosting or emotional manipulation.

Healing and Growth

1. Healing starts with self-awareness and nurturing one’s inner wounds.
2. Therapy and time have helped them process their trauma.
3. Building safe and meaningful relationships is essential for recovery.
4. Loving oneself and being one’s own best friend is crucial to healing.
5. They emphasize that pain can be transformed into purpose.
6. The speaker believes open conversations about these issues are necessary to break destructive cycles.

Final Reflection

1. The speaker hopes to understand why humans hurt each other and how to stop the cycle.
2. They conclude that blaming external factors (AI, trafficking, OnlyFans) ignores the root cause: human behavior.
3. The solution requires accountability and fostering genuine connection.
4. They admit they don’t have all the answers but want to use their experiences to inspire change.

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