How many people actually care about your survival?

[UnbornTao]

Do you care about others’ self-survival as much as your own?

Edited yesterday at 10:06 PM by UnbornTao

[NoSelfSelf]

13 minutes ago, Onecirrus said:

Literally no one has really answered my question. How many people do you guys think are actually invested in your survival and wellbeing?

Nobody.

[Onecirrus]

@UnbornTao No. But the survival of my mother and father and sister and her children are a pretty high priority for me.

@NoSelfSelfReally? No gf? No family? I think I would have a mental breakdown if the number of people who cared about me was literally zero

[NoSelfSelf]

9 minutes ago, Onecirrus said:

@UnbornTao No. But the survival of my mother and father and sister and her children are a pretty high priority for me.

@NoSelfSelfReally? No gf? No family? I think I would have a mental breakdown if the number of people who cared about me was literally zero

Then you need alot of self development to do.

They care in their own way,but it will never be for whats your idea of survival(unless you have influence but you cant have influence needing someone to care about you).Soon as you threaten their survival that care goes out of the window.

Soon you realize you only have yourself and start treasuring/worshiping yourself, the sooner your life will start to become great,until then its like being a begger on a street starved for petty approval,likes...

Edited yesterday at 10:52 PM by NoSelfSelf

[UnbornTao]

The one you care the most is your self. It is the central element of existence for you. That said, there are kind people in the world who are less "selfish" or self-oriented than others.

Edited 10 hours ago by UnbornTao

[AION]

It is possible to have ride or die relationships but they are valuable and rare in this day and age of individualism. Not a lot of people got rich at their own. Don’t fall for this trap. You are better off with good friends but you still need to depend on yourself before anything. You are the average of the 5 people around you. Everybody who has some abundance has his pack. Loyal or not. We are pack animals. If people around you are not loyal it is only a reflection of yourself. 

Edited yesterday at 11:33 PM by AION

[Onecirrus]

@NoSelfSelf Look, I’m not looking for unconditional love here, I am fine with a mutual back scratching dynamic. All the development in the world isn’t gonna help me dig my car out the snow though, but some new friends might. Life is easier with a tribe. I can get my hands on rare and invaluable psychedelic substances because I made the right connection with someone. People can offer professional, financial, and romantic opportunities you wouldn’t otherwise have access to. Maybe enough development makes you not care as much about survival, but survival is my religion if I’m honest.

[NoSelfSelf]

5 hours ago, Onecirrus said:

@NoSelfSelf Look, I’m not looking for unconditional love here, I am fine with a mutual back scratching dynamic. All the development in the world isn’t gonna help me dig my car out the snow though, but some new friends might. Life is easier with a tribe. I can get my hands on rare and invaluable psychedelic substances because I made the right connection with someone. People can offer professional, financial, and romantic opportunities you wouldn’t otherwise have access to. Maybe enough development makes you not care as much about survival, but survival is my religion if I’m honest.

The more developed you are the more you dont need friends and from that place ,more people will care because you are not focused on them, but what moves you need to make to make it happen and not being stuck as a victim of " i need friends to do things for me" but what i have to offer so they can notice you are a quality and not just another leech.Just by you being great with yourself people will start care more(same with women they love but hate you dont need them) and do things for you more easily, its counterintitive .What do you have to offer? If you say money only then thats your problem...

Edited 17 hours ago by NoSelfSelf

[Kairos]

9 hours ago, Onecirrus said:

How many people do you guys think are actually invested in your survival and wellbeing?

For me it's my parents , brother

and some of family members (aunt,uncle,cousin) , grandparents . (TO AN EXTENT )

Even though I was cynical about selfishness of people . I have been surprised by kindness of people close to me .

And I mostly care about survival of my close family because my well-being is kinda dependent on them .

Now about friends and relationship stuff, I have very bad habit of neglecting people after sometime(need to fix that ) . So, I can't invest in them and they can't either idk. 

 

Edited 16 hours ago by Kairos