How many people actually care about your survival?

[Onecirrus]

I think my parents are the only people that are actually invested in my survival and well-being. Are your “friends” really there for you? Do they actually care that much about you? I think I’m just a fleeting amusement to my friends and vice versa. Whenever I really needed help, none ever really offered any, except for platitudes and empty promises.

And how many people do you actually care about? And how many people do you honestly put emotional labor and support into? How many people on earth are you really willing to bleed for?

[gettoefl]

No one cares even parents. They just want a new improved version of them to carry forward their memory. What they are doing is wholly self serving. They will be nice to you now and you will be nice to them later.

You should care and not just for parents. You cannot wake up without another person. You cannot remember God alone. Only by stirring that memory in another can you glimpse the reality of love. You should care for everyone. If you exclude one person, you will be barring yourself from your true nature.

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As we know, to love oneself means to heal oneself and therefore those who are sick in any form whatsoever haven't learned to love themselves. They walk around desperate for the love that would heal them, but which they are denying to themselves. If they knew the truth about themselves how would they be sick? You task in life thus becomes to deny the denial of truth that they are proclaiming. The sick have all power to heal themselves, for the truth is in them. Yet having overlooked this, the light in your mind now needs to shine onto theirs because that light is theirs too.

The light in them shines just as brightly regardless of the density of the fog that obscures it. If they keep giving power to the fog to obscure the light, they remain in the dark. For light has power only if it is activated. You must yourself be their medicine, remembering that all power in you is from God. You should remember to do this for everyone you meet. Do not allow anyone not to remember their importance, for their forgetfulness was caused by your forgetfulness. But your remembering brings about theirs, for God cannot be remembered alone. This is what you have forgotten. To perceive the healing of your friend as the healing of yourself is thus the sure and simple way to remember God. For you forgot who he really is, and the miraculous solution to his forgetting is but the way to restore your memory of what you are and who God is.

- A Course in Miracles

 

[Sugarcoat]

Why do you need people to care about you?

[AION]

1 hour ago, Sugarcoat said:

Why do you need people to care about you?

That is harsh of you

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, AION said:

That is harsh of you

I don’t think it’s harsh. It’s normal to want people to care about you, but it’s a possibility to not care about it. I’m just allowing him to maybe investigate that reason. If it’s something that would bother him, if not then don’t. 

[Candle]

People in my family care about my survival only bcz of their own survival needs. 

And literally no one in the world cares about my survival. No one. 

People throw insensitive comments or start debating or criticising or spewing hate very easily. People are very selfish. And I don't want to see anybody. 

19 hours ago, Onecirrus said:

How many people on earth are you really willing to bleed for?

Any stranger who's crying helplessly and no one's there for them. If sth is happening with them that triggers me. 

Already written about it in my journal : 

On 1/6/2025 at 2:52 PM, Candle said:

I remember an incident in which a girl was violated publicly on the streets, in the most horrible ways. People saw her and not a single person came to help her. Instead, some people were filming the incident. 

I can't do this. I can't....I will lose my life, no matter how precious it is...but I'll fight for someone if I see them being violated and crying helplessly. 

Otherwise I won't be able to forgive myself for my lifetime. 

Edited Thursday at 05:39 PM by Candle

[AION]

@Sugarcoat emotions usually trying to tell something important. Not a good idea to just don’t care about it. Better to look at the root causes and fix that. You are very insensitive in general.

[Sugarcoat]

2 minutes ago, AION said:

@Sugarcoat emotions usually trying to tell something important. Not a good idea to just don’t care about it. Better to look at the root causes and fix that. You are very insensitive in general.

I don’t suggest anyone dismiss their emotions. That’s not a good idea. I just stated my question so op could investigate that for himself if he feels the need for others to care about him bothers him. Because it’s possible to not care about how others feel about you in general. Just a thought. I don’t think I’m too insensitive, I don’t mean to be

[Onecirrus]

4 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Why do you need people to care about you?

Survival. The more people who care about you, the easier your survival is.

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, Onecirrus said:

Survival. The more people who care about you, the easier your survival is.

Maybe that’s the underlying reason but is that the conscious reason? Isn’t the conscious reason more something along the lines of feeling approved, loved, seen, included 

[Onecirrus]

@Candle You seem like a good person, but if you are everyone’s friend, you are really no one’s friend. A friend is someone you put above all others.

[NoSelfSelf]

1 minute ago, Onecirrus said:

Survival. The more people who care about you, the easier your survival is.

Then you should give them a reason to care about you,people mostly care about you if they can get something from you, something that they themselves cant get easily.

[Onecirrus]

1 minute ago, Sugarcoat said:

Maybe that’s the underlying reason but is that the conscious reason? Isn’t the conscious reason more something along the lines of feeling approved, loved, seen, included 

My life has been very hard. Honestly, I just wish I had more pairs of hands to help me with stuff, and maybe offer financial support. If I was enlightened, I would still like to have people to help me get my car out of the snow, I had to do that on my own.

[Onecirrus]

2 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Then you should give them a reason to care about you,people mostly care about you if they can get something from you, something that they themselves cant get easily.

I have money but it doesn’t buy deep loyalty or real emotional investment. Maybe I could work on Charisma more, I wanted to move to Vegas and learn pickup and social skills just to get more people in my corner.

[Sugarcoat]

3 minutes ago, Onecirrus said:

My life has been very hard. Honestly, I just wish I had more pairs of hands to help me with stuff, and maybe offer financial support. If I was enlightened, I would still like to have people to help me get my car out of the snow, I had to do that on my own.

Okay I understand your reason then. One has to foster the relationship one has, and if you would help them but they wouldn’t help you back then it’s maybe time to cut some people off, so it’s mutual 

Edited Thursday at 08:03 PM by Sugarcoat

[NoSelfSelf]

14 minutes ago, Onecirrus said:

I have money but it doesn’t buy deep loyalty or real emotional investment. Maybe I could work on Charisma more, I wanted to move to Vegas and learn pickup and social skills just to get more people in my corner.

Invest that money to learn then from somebody you resonate...

[Candle]

3 hours ago, Onecirrus said:

if you are everyone’s friend

I didn't say that. I just answered what you questioned. Probably your question was in a different sense. (I mean, you asked only about friends or loved ones.)

[Javfly33]

The people that your survival matters to their survival  

[Hojo]

God cares about you and God is all people.

[Onecirrus]

Literally no one has really answered my question. How many people do you guys think are actually invested in your survival and wellbeing?