Toxic dating works better and it's killing me - how to stay authentic?

[whh2222]

12 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

You didn't answer my question. My question was so precious. 

Your question was a smartass question, so I followed it up with another 

 

[BlessedLion]

18 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

@BlessedLion ok found it. Thank you. 

 

Weird the link and search didn’t work, but glad you found it ❤️🙏

 

Maybe I need to optimize SEO more 

[BlessedLion]

15 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

Yeah.

Certainly girls coming from all over the world to Las Vegas are not going there with ”I’m looking for a good character type of man” first in mind.

Quite the opposite.

Yes, exactly 

[CARDOZZO]

1 hour ago, Tenebroso said:

Apparently I am a horrible person.

You are not bro. You are divine. Keep going 

[ricachica]

18 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

When I read your posts, I find you extremely intelligent. You have high self awareness and understanding. If someone doesn't appreciate it, it's really their own loss. It's great that you are now able to comfortably communicate. I appreciate that about your partner as well that he supports you. Relationships are about creating that unique beauty through mutual understanding and growth. That fine balance. I resonate so much with your experience, I grew up with an argumentative mother and a silent father and it honed in me that I should always keep my mouth shut and not argue too much. I saw the distress of my dad. So that obviously impacted my dating life too. In hindsight I was probably dating the wrong guy because I don't like drama, although I can argue, but drama adds a lot of stress to my life and I have autism on top of that, so it can get overwhelming for me to deal with someone who is dancing all around the place. 

I'm grateful and happy with my current partner, no fights at all and zero drama. It's the opposite image of my chaotic childhood and I feel very peaceful and joyous. 

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. 

I  think Teal has a video on childhood and dating patterns. I can't find it. 

But I found this. 

 

Aww you’re very sweet with your compliments! Thank you. I’m somewhat new here(not to Leo’s vids), but I’ve already noted your comments throughout the forum and always look forward to your well thought out perspectives.

I’ll watch your video before bed tonight, thanks for the share.

[Flint]

On 3/1/2025 at 0:33 AM, Emerald said:

The nature of the paradigm lock that Leo has that I'm referring to is that he tends to overlook humanity's communal filial nature and tries to boil human beings down to a Social Darwinian-esque paradigm.... which means seeing human dating/relationship dynamics as an objective hierarchical value exchange. 

It's sort of like stripping the humanity out of humanity... and believing that this kind of Darwinian reductionism will produce better insights about how human beings operate.

Well as incomplete it might seem it's the only working paradigm for a male to get a female partner of his choosing. There is the alternative of being alone or miserable but that's not great.

I'm very sorry, but humanity in dating ? It's ruthless. Like, have you ever been outside ? I'm not sure it's a particularity of stage orange at this point but dating feels very much inhumane. The value proposition always takes precendence over any human consideration because in the early stages of dating all that matters is the value exchange. The human aspects come later. But early on ? You get ghosted, disrespected, ignored, abused and everything in between if your value proposition is not good enough.

I very much so wished to be wrong and wished we could evolve towards more conscious dating but it's not how reality operates today. The "human beings" mostly operate as value exchange animals.

Which is already good progress over the beige dating scene, which was "male hits female with club, drags her into cave and rapes her".

[Twentyfirst]

It doesn’t help that these posts always group all women into one category. There are some women that are diamonds and some women that are worthless