POLL: Is masturbation better than sex?

[gambler]

This is a poll for the non-virgins. Leo has peaked my interest in this subject when he said elsewhere that the former can be better than the latter. So I’ve come to you all with this survey. Please answer honestly, voter names are anonymous. 

Edited December 29, 2024 by gambler

[Whitney Edwards]

Depends on the quality of sex. Masturbation is great. But it lacks the tactical feel of sex. Also masturbation doesn't involve the emotional aspect of sex, the laughter, the joy, the cuddling and the joy of holding someone so close to you where bodies feel each other. Much is missing in plain masturbation. 

But in the absence of sex, masturbation seems like the only option. 

My ex used to tell me that sex is overrated a lot. 

There's also post cum clarity. You might lose interest either in the person or sex itself. I don't know how many people feel disgusted or over satiated after a long period of having sex.

 

[Abe27]

I've only been with one women, my now ex girlfriend, our sex was always better than masturbation. Mush more intimate with cuddling before and after. It's also much hotter to actually be with a woman

[Recursoinominado]

Sex can be 100x better than masturbation but masturbation is reliable and sex can be bad, with lots of risks and cons.

Find the right person, sex is amazing.

[Leo Gura]

For it to be better you have to factor in all the costs of sex, not just compare the raw excitement. Of course sex is more exciting, especially if it's the first few months.

Edited December 30, 2024 by Leo Gura

[Terell Kirby]

subjective and context dependent

[PenguinPablo]

18 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

For it to be better you have to factor in all the costs of sex, not just compare the raw excitement. Of course sex is more exciting, especially if it's the first few months.

Then again the cost varies from person to person.

For men that are naturally very extroverted, big social circles, charismatic, and maybe even good looks on their side... it's not costly from their pov since it's just a natural part of their life.

For 95% of the men on a / this forum... the cost is probably pretty high.

[Whitney Edwards]

16 minutes ago, PenguinPablo said:

For 95% of the men on a / this forum... the cost is probably pretty high.

Why is that? 

[r0ckyreed]

Sex is just using another persons body to masturbate. Think about it.

The other stuff ofc is emotional intimacy and not sex itself. What you’re really asking is if intimacy is better than self-pleasure.

Edited December 30, 2024 by r0ckyreed

[Whitney Edwards]

Just now, r0ckyreed said:

The other stuff ofc is emotional intimacy and not sex itself.

But it makes the sex more wholesome. It cannot be ignored. 

[integral]

It depends if you’re with the right partner, and you have high sexual compatibility with that partner.

Sexual compatibility is separate from social compatibility or values compatibility, or intellectual compatibility.

When you have high sexual compatibility, the sex just keeps getting better and better and better for years, it does not slow down.

Also, if you want to have good sex stop masturbating. And have sex once a week. This is the ideal recovery time for explosive sex.

This will also depend on another factors like if you have a low sex drive. Then at that point it’s always gonna be a mediocre.

 

Edited December 30, 2024 by integral

[PenguinPablo]

@Buck Edwards Several reasons.

Online forums skew towards introversion (especially one that goes into niche and abstract stuff like actualized).

Chances of getting sex from hanging out on a forum are significantly lower compared to in person socialization.

Many people here are also into pickup which means they are not getting laid (unless they become very fucking good which 99.9% of people won't because it's too hard).

Hence, relative to their current position... the cost is quite high.

Edited December 30, 2024 by PenguinPablo

[gambler]

9 minutes ago, integral said:

It depends if you’re with the right partner, and you have high sexual compatibility with that partner.

Sexual compatibility is separate from social compatibility or values compatibility, or intellectual compatibility.

When you have high sexual compatibility, the sex just keeps getting better and better and better for years, it does not slow down.

Also, if you want to have good sex stop masturbating. And have sex once a week. This is the ideal recovery time for explosive sex.

This will also depend on another factors like if you have a low sex drive. Then at that point it’s always gonna be a mediocre.

 

Great insight.

[Leo Gura]

56 minutes ago, PenguinPablo said:

Then again the cost varies from person to person

Everything varies from person to person.

Which is why you shouldn't care much about what others like.

Do you really need someone to tell you whether to jerk off or not?

Edited December 30, 2024 by Leo Gura

[integral]

Here at actualized you’re only allowed to jerk off if you know it’s imaginary. 😊

[Whitney Edwards]

1 hour ago, PenguinPablo said:

@Buck Edwards Several reasons.

Online forums skew towards introversion (especially one that goes into niche and abstract stuff like actualized).

Chances of getting sex from hanging out on a forum are significantly lower compared to in person socialization.

Many people here are also into pickup which means they are not getting laid (unless they become very fucking good which 99.9% of people won't because it's too hard).

Hence, relative to their current position... the cost is quite high.

You make points. But this has nothing to do with a forum. Most people who are introverted will struggle with socializing and dating in general. Regarding cost of sex, it's not the quantity but the quality that matters. Some extroverted man getting a lot of sex might still be frustrated because he didn't get the right kind of sex that he expected. So it truly depends and varies from person to person. 

[Whitney Edwards]

1 hour ago, PenguinPablo said:

@Buck Edwards Several reasons.

Online forums skew towards introversion (especially one that goes into niche and abstract stuff like actualized).

Chances of getting sex from hanging out on a forum are significantly lower compared to in person socialization.

Many people here are also into pickup which means they are not getting laid (unless they become very fucking good which 99.9% of people won't because it's too hard).

Hence, relative to their current position... the cost is quite high.

Also this will never make masturbation better than sex. Masturbation is just a crutch, a replacement, a substitute, deep down all men know this. 

[PenguinPablo]

15 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

Also this will never make masturbation better than sex. Masturbation is just a crutch, a replacement, a substitute, deep down all men know this. 

I disagree. Relationships are just as much of a crutch. An elaborate figment of your imagination created just to keep you distracted. Deep down everyone that clings to them knows this. 

Edited December 30, 2024 by PenguinPablo

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, integral said:

It depends if you’re with the right partner, and you have high sexual compatibility with that partner.

Sexual compatibility is separate from social compatibility or values compatibility, or intellectual compatibility.

When you have high sexual compatibility, the sex just keeps getting better and better and better for years, it does not slow down.

Also, if you want to have good sex stop masturbating. And have sex once a week. This is the ideal recovery time for explosive sex.

This will also depend on another factors like if you have a low sex drive. Then at that point it’s always gonna be a mediocre.

 

Nice

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, r0ckyreed said:

Sex is just using another persons body to masturbate. Think about it.

 

This is like saying eating out is just using another place to cook.