Why women have aversion towards their own period process?

[Davino]

I've noticed that many women to not say most, dislike the fact of having the period, the hormonal process, the mood swings etc.

So I can understand that, but I can also see the schism that causes in their holism, they are disowning an essential part of their inner workings. I really have no clue how to bridge that gap for the feminine population but I can see this is happening and it is a problem.

So, if you are a women could you give further insight into this matter with self-awareness, first hand experience and overall the women's perspective?

[Sugarcoat]

For many women period means cramping, mood swings, pms, and other negative symptoms. There’s not so much to appreciate about it experientially. 
 

For me I feel neutral about my period because I’m lucky to have zero cramps and no pms/mood swings. But if I had those things I could definitely see myself disliking it. It would be difficult to look past those negative aspects to find appreciation for it, one wishes that biology would have found a way to keep a woman fertile without all that suffering. 

[Buck Edwards]

I don't like opening up about it too much to men. (since you asked) But I always have very painful period. So much that I have trauma about it. Every time it comes I'm reminded of how it always is. The mood swings are wild. I get grumpy. The pms. The cramps are awful and recurrent. Sometimes I can't work when I have it and don't feel like leaving home during those times. I also lose/gain sexual desire (don't know how to put it), depending on the period but mostly hate men or tend to dislike male presence during this specific time, like a male around might cause me irritation (it's just my biological response, my brain associating period with sex, men etc.) 

I don't want sex on a period, I would feel terrible. This is one of the biggest aspects of being a woman that I personally hate the most most most. I don't like it at all. And I shouldn't be ashamed of disliking it. It's difficult to embrace it because I get nasty feelings and temper tantrums and frustrations on my period. I tell everyone to get away or leave me alone. Sometimes I tell my family to shut up because even too much talk or sound irritates me. I'll be like shh. 

I avoid talking to my husband on my period. I don't know it irritates me and I need my space to deal with my frustration and mood swings. I want to be stress free on those days. 

I discussed with my gynec and she said that my womb is naturally that way. 

I can take those painkillers but I have to watch out because I generally bleed a bit more if I take pills of any sort. So I just tolerate the pain. 

I am grateful that my family and husband don't disturb me too much when I am on my period and they let me have my space. But sometimes I have had the need to get angry, throw temper tantrums and I get aggressive. And male presence is generally not appreciated. 

The opposite side. On some periods, it's different. I get a very strong sexual desire right before the day it's gonna start or at least a week before it starts. The desire to have sex is extremely strong and it feels like I'm in heat and I get horny like crazy. I get wet dreams, those kind of dreams and rape fantasies and stuff. And I get the feeling that I should be f*. It's not particularly enjoyable because I know that my hormones causing me to be sexual so it's no big deal. An attractive male around me looks even more attractive during such a time. His height, his gestures, masculine jawline, body strength, his style, his talk might appear more appealing during this time. My mind is naturally drawn to the sexiness in men (of course I control it because I want to be faithful), but just giving an Idea of how my biology functions when I'm going through the heat time before the period.

When the period comes on, I might still feel sexual and horny. I can crave sex on the second day. This is only during horny periods not regular ones. On the third day, the sexual craving disappears. 

On the fourth day the symptoms begin to fade. I don't feel horny when my period is about to end. 

I feel slightly horny in the next three days after the period has ended as my sexual drive comes back and the disgust feelings are gone. 

Then it has to be at least 10-15 days before I feel hormonal again. This is the day when I feel a bit warmer than usual and my body temperature goes up. I feel horny. It lasts only a day. But I feel unusual, my forehead gets warm, my nipples tighten a bit and my breasts  feel sensitive and sore. And I tend to get a bit sensitive than usual and I don't hate male presence at this time. It's like I like it. I usually crave sex on this day. Not a lot but still better than other days. 

It lasts only a day. After that it's just normal till the next period starts. So I usually appreciate male presence only on the days when I'm horny. Rest of the days I don't get any thoughts about men in general. 

I have observed that my love-hate cycle with men fluctuates depending on my horniness and how my period regulates it. Some periods I don't want sex at all, some periods I'm unusually horny and sexual cravings go up.

So the sexual cravings go up and down throughout the month depending on the day of the entire month cycle. 

 

Edited December 28, 2024 by Buck Edwards

[Davino]

@Sugarcoat Yes, I understand. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

Does your mother also have a painless period? Idk, if you talk about these things. It's just to see if there is a genetic component, which I guess so.

How do you comfort your friends when they are going through a painful period?

[Davino]

11 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

I don't like opening up about it too much to men.

It can be a sensitive topic and most men aren't ready for it. So first and foremost thanks for opening up and sharing your experience with me.

11 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

This is one of the biggest aspects of being a woman that I personally hate the most most most. I don't like it at all. And I shouldn't be ashamed of disliking it. It's difficult to embrace it because I get nasty feelings and temper tantrums and frustrations on my period. I tell everyone to get away or leave me alone. Sometimes I tell my family to shut up because even too much talk or sound irritates me. I'll be like shh.

I can see how that aversion can happen if it's only giving you pain. I was not trying to shame women for disliking the pain of the period but trying to find ways for women to reconnect and have a better relationship with it. I really know nothing but it's something I see so many women struggling with (my girlfriend to start with) that I just can't help but trying to understand the issue.

11 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

I am grateful that my family and husband don't disturb me too much when I am on my period and they let me have my space. But sometimes I have had the need to get angry, throw temper tantrums and I get aggressive. And male presence is generally not appreciated. 

It's interesting that you comment this irritation towards the masculine. You've touched upon it before but could you elaborate deeper. I'm getting the feeling you might have a good insight to share.

On the other hand, do you feel like needing to express all those emotions and let them out with a male? or do you prefer to be just arround women who can empathise and understand better?

11 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

My mind is naturally drawn to the sexiness in men (of course I control it because I want to be faithful), but just giving an Idea of how my biology functions when I'm going through the heat time before the period.

That was very ilustrating, thanks. You are really revealing tough truthfull stuff, I appreciate it Sara

11 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

Then it has to be at least 10-15 days before I feel hormonal again. This is the day when I feel a bit warmer than usual and my body temperature goes up. I feel horny. It lasts only a day. But I feel unusual, my forehead gets warm, my nipples tighten a bit and my breasts  feel sensitive and sore. And I tend to get a bit sensitive than usual and I don't hate male presence at this time. It's like I like it. I usually crave sex on this day. Not a lot but still better than other days. 

How periodic or predictable ar eyour periods? I'm just very curious because I know many things change a lot from one to the other but I also noticed there are some constants. I guess you come to discover and learn them with time and that gives some sense of what to expect, right?

11 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

I have observed that my love-hate cycle with men fluctuates depending on my horniness and how my period regulates it. Some periods I don't want sex at all, some periods I'm unusually horny and sexual cravings go up.

So the sexual cravings go up and down throughout the month depending on the day of the entire month cycle. 

Interesting, would you say sexual urges tied to the menstrual cycle have a strong correlation among all women or a low correlation?

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Your post has been very insightful. Thanks

[Buck Edwards]

2 hours ago, Davino said:

It can be a sensitive topic and most men aren't ready for it. So first and foremost thanks for opening up and sharing your experience with me.

I'm grateful for your graciousness in trying to understand women's issues so thanks for opening such a sensitive issue that is rarely discussed. 

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I can see how that aversion can happen if it's only giving you pain. I was not trying to shame women for disliking the pain of the period but trying to find ways for women to reconnect and have a better relationship with it.

A better relationship with period is quite difficult. I have heard a lot of men resent their girlfriends or wives when they're on their period. An empathetic approach might help. Understanding why some women act hostile and aggressive on period days might help. The aggression comes from experiencing constant physical pain and that pain leads to a low mood, extra sensitivity and mild to severe aggression. It varies a lot among women. Some women are quite lucky if their period is painless. I wish I had that luck. 

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I really know nothing but it's something I see so many women struggling with (my girlfriend to start with) that I just can't help but trying to understand the issue.

Thanks for trying to understand. However this is not the case with most men. They cannot be patient around their girlfriends on their periods. I understand the frustration. Men want the picture perfect girlfriend or wife and I wish life was that beautiful for us women to be able to give that happiness, joy and perfection to men too. Reality comes in the way though. Mother nature perhaps wanted it that way. I don't expect men to understand much because it's beyond their scope unless they have to experience it themselves. So I get the anger a man might feel if his girl is acting weird on her period. 

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It's interesting that you comment this irritation towards the. masculine. You've touched upon it before but could you elaborate deeper. I'm getting the feeling you might have a good insight to share.

I don't know why I feel aggression towards men on my period. They didn't cause it. But maybe it's some form of envy that men don't have to suffer like this. Or that female sexuality exists to pleasure men. Sometimes I wonder if my life would be great if I were born a man. Then I wouldn't need to suffer physical pain. Also the aggression could be a biological response as in resistance to sex, so converted to resistance to men. Because sex and men are attached in the female psyche as much as sex and women are correlated in the male psyche. I mean I have heard men hate women if they don't wanna have sex with them. Let's say they don't want to submit to sex or feel some aversion to it and a woman begins to grind on them, I think the man is going to hate her for doing that because he is resisting the idea of sex in his mind so he doesn't want the temptation. Probably something similar happens in the female psyche when she doesn't want or need sex, she wants to be resistant to it, in turn she might be resistant to male attention or male glances or attempts to flirt with her. This is how I can best explain the aggression felt against men. 

Because sex needs equal participation and when that's not the case, the attraction can feel stolen, if you get my idea. 

 

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On the other hand, do you feel like needing to express all those emotions and let them out with a male?

I don't think a man will ever understand it. I don't even expect him too. In this sense I have empathy for men because it cannot be imposed on to them to understand something that they never had to experience. I similarly do not comprehend male horniness either. So I don't blame men. And consequently, I don't find it fair to share such things with a man because it's really not his territory. 

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or do you prefer to be just arround women who can empathise and understand better?

Ironically a lot of women don't understand either especially if they didn't have painful periods themselves. Trust me on this. I had a lot of women shame me haha. They would say things like — it's just a period. It hurts when a woman does it. Slut shaming and period shaming is done 100× more by women than men. If I wear a sexy dress, it will be a woman who will point it out first that there's a problem with it. I remember my sister thrashing and beating me when I was on my period laying in bed. I kept screaming in pain and she violently dragged me out. That was also my first suicide attempt because I was in unbearable pain. My mom confessed to me one day that my grandmother did not even teach her period hygiene. All that aside. 

I generally look up to women who are more sympathetic and kind and who give me the sense of true company. So they don't judge and offer a shoulder. In this sense my husband has been my biggest blessing. He almost acts like a nurse on my period, always gives me space and speaks comforting words to make me feel better. That's a great gift. I wish all boyfriends and husbands would do that. 

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That was very ilustrating, thanks. You are really revealing tough truthfull stuff, I appreciate it Sara

I appreciate you being supportive. 

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How periodic or predictable ar eyour periods? I'm just very curious because I know many things change a lot from one to the other but I also noticed there are some constants.

My periods are very regular, almost to a perfection. There's something (I don't know if there exists a medical term for this) like an anticipatory anxiety that I experience with every period, right before the period, I know the date when it's approaching, so my body begins to tighten up or tense up a bit in anticipation and my mind gets nervous knowing it would be coming. I think women have a lot of period related anxiety, especially women who suffer difficult periods, these anxieties can be about the length of the period, socially embarrassing situations (hard to express this one but I have this fear that my clothes might get stained in public and the anticipatory anxiety of this embarrassing situation makes me avoid public outing on my period so I cancel doctor's appointments or events in advance.) I canceled many of my zumba classes before my period just out of fear of not being able to attend due to the stain problem. So there's that. A lot of men don't understand that women wish to stay absent on their period days and they assume it to be an excuse. I hate it when it's misconstrued like that. It's also partially women's fault too, because women make it sound like a taboo when such things are discussed openly. There is no disgust in explaining things that need to be understood especially by the opposite gender. Men shame this as well. I recently saw a thread in which I read this on this forum 

Overly feminist people. Too much of gender equality related content. Too many of shorts in which people are saving girls. Too many of sex and periods related talks using the excuse, "we are progressives", "we are liberals", "we are a cool generation ". 

I guess that's the difference between eastern and western men. Eastern men consider it a taboo to discuss period related stuff. Not trying to attack the user but just trying to make a point. In Eastern cultures, female sexuality is suppressed very badly and anything related to sex, women, period is shamed and tabooed. It's definitely progressive to openly discuss such topics and there's no shame or taboo or overly feministic about it. So such opposition of feminism is quite regressive 

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I guess you come to discover and learn them with time and that gives some sense of what to expect, right?

Yea with time it gives me an idea when to expect my period. As well as what to expect. 

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Interesting, would you say sexual urges tied to the menstrual cycle have a strong correlation among all women or a low correlation?

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They have a strong correlation to how women react to sexual urges toward men at least in my perspective. I can't account for all women. But if you are asking for my individual opinion then my sexuality is definitely tied to how I feel hormonally. 

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Your post has been very insightful. Thanks

I'm grateful you opened this topic. Very few men care to understand the woman side of things so cheers for being the man to take the lead. 

Thanks to you too. 

[Sugarcoat]

4 hours ago, Davino said:

@Sugarcoat Yes, I understand. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

Does your mother also have a painless period? Idk, if you talk about these things. It's just to see if there is a genetic component, which I guess so.

How do you comfort your friends when they are going through a painful period?

My mom has painless periods yes

Me and my friends haven’t really talked about our periods

[Davino]

On 29/12/2024 at 2:14 PM, Buck Edwards said:

Some women are quite lucky if their period is painless. I wish I had that luck

Have you explored ways in which to improve your situation? I feel many women make it as a given that their period is panful and as ginecologist don't provide much help either they just resentfully accept it. However, I'm sure there are some techniques, suplements or treatments that can improve your mentruation, but that will take a lot of experimentation, time and money. Have you found anything that helped you alleviate your symptoms?

On 29/12/2024 at 2:14 PM, Buck Edwards said:

Thanks for trying to understand. However this is not the case with most men. They cannot be patient around their girlfriends on their periods. I understand the frustration. Men want the picture perfect girlfriend or wife and I wish life was that beautiful for us women to be able to give that happiness, joy and perfection to men too. Reality comes in the way though. Mother nature perhaps wanted it that way. I don't expect men to understand much because it's beyond their scope unless they have to experience it themselves. So I get the anger a man might feel if his girl is acting weird on her period. 

I think more can be done by men on this issue. I think that most men find challenging enough to deal with the emotions of women that having them on their period is like facing the final boss in dark sould, they just don't have the emotional intelligence or skills to deal with it.

On 29/12/2024 at 2:14 PM, Buck Edwards said:

I don't know why I feel aggression towards men on my period. They didn't cause it. But maybe it's some form of envy that men don't have to suffer like this. Or that female sexuality exists to pleasure men. Sometimes I wonder if my life would be great if I were born a man. Then I wouldn't need to suffer physical pain. Also the aggression could be a biological response as in resistance to sex, so converted to resistance to men. Because sex and men are attached in the female psyche as much as sex and women are correlated in the male psyche. I mean I have heard men hate women if they don't wanna have sex with them. Let's say they don't want to submit to sex or feel some aversion to it and a woman begins to grind on them, I think the man is going to hate her for doing that because he is resisting the idea of sex in his mind so he doesn't want the temptation. Probably something similar happens in the female psyche when she doesn't want or need sex, she wants to be resistant to it, in turn she might be resistant to male attention or male glances or attempts to flirt with her. This is how I can best explain the aggression felt against men. 

Because sex needs equal participation and when that's not the case, the attraction can feel stolen, if you get my idea. 

Yes yes, I'm getting it.

On 29/12/2024 at 2:14 PM, Buck Edwards said:

I don't think a man will ever understand it. I don't even expect him too. In this sense I have empathy for men because it cannot be imposed on to them to understand something that they never had to experience. I similarly do not comprehend male horniness either. So I don't blame men. And consequently, I don't find it fair to share such things with a man because it's really not his territory

Yes that makes sense. My question though was more regarding on unleashin the negative emotions towards men as a way of catharsis. Or you prefer to deal it yourself and not cause "harm". I do feel like sometimes there is the need to let it go towards another and then you are all fine after it, just that was there and needed to get out.

On 29/12/2024 at 2:14 PM, Buck Edwards said:

They would say things like — it's just a period. It hurts when a woman does it. Slut shaming and period shaming is done 100× more by women than men.

What!!!

You blew my mind here, had no idea about this

On 29/12/2024 at 2:14 PM, Buck Edwards said:

I generally look up to women who are more sympathetic and kind and who give me the sense of true company. So they don't judge and offer a shoulder. In this sense my husband has been my biggest blessing. He almost acts like a nurse on my period, always gives me space and speaks comforting words to make me feel better. That's a great gift. I wish all boyfriends and husbands would do that.

We become the food and cuddling suppliers!

On 29/12/2024 at 2:14 PM, Buck Edwards said:

like an anticipatory anxiety that I experience with every period, right before the period, I know the date when it's approaching, so my body begins to tighten up or tense up a bit in anticipation and my mind gets nervous knowing it would be coming.

That sounds real bad, I'm getting more empathy now. This line actually sinked in deep. It's like your getting a monthly beat up by your system in a regular timetable. I can totally empathyse with that anticipatory anxiety

On 29/12/2024 at 2:14 PM, Buck Edwards said:

hard to express this one but I have this fear that my clothes might get stained in public and the anticipatory anxiety of this embarrassing situation makes me avoid public outing on my period so I cancel doctor's appointments or events in advance.

It must be hard, we should do an effort to normalize such things collectively. Otherwise, the fear eats you inside out.

On 29/12/2024 at 2:14 PM, Buck Edwards said:

In Eastern cultures, female sexuality is suppressed very badly and anything related to sex, women, period is shamed and tabooed. It's definitely progressive to openly discuss such topics and there's no shame or taboo or overly feministic about it. So such opposition of feminism is quite regressive 

A lot of work has to be done in sexual and period education both in the west and the east. Women feel repressed and men disgusted by the blood. So it will take time but it's something that definetely will improve with the newer generations. I really hope new research is funded so that all women around the globe experience a painless period.

On 29/12/2024 at 2:14 PM, Buck Edwards said:

I'm grateful you opened this topic. Very few men care to understand the woman side of things so cheers for being the man to take the lead.

I'm very grateful as well. I honestly learnt much more than expected. Thanks for being so open and truthfull with a mostly taboo topic. I appreciate it. Wishing you a nice day!

[Davino]

On 29/12/2024 at 3:50 PM, Sugarcoat said:

My mom has painless periods yes

Me and my friends haven’t really talked about our periods

So probably just surface level talking? Like lend me a tampon or today I'm not in the mood, kinda thing. Btw, do you have like a secret code for saying you are on your period to your friends?

I recently found out there was one in my country and only women knew about it. Quite a mindblowing fact honestly. They say Saint Andrew has come and rhymes with "the one that comes once a month" in spanish.

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, Davino said:

So probably just surface level talking? Like lend me a tampon or today I'm not in the mood, kinda thing. Btw, do you have like a secret code for saying you are on your period to your friends?

I recently found out there was one in my country and only women knew about it. Quite a mindblowing fact honestly. They say Saint Andrew has come and rhymes with "the one that comes once a month" in spanish.

In the moment I only have one friend so don’t have much to go off of😹 but I can’t remember that we’ve talked about our periods don’t know why we haven’t though or maybe I just forgot about it. I don’t have a secret code no. In Sweden one can say “lingonberry week” or something I’ve heard but that isn’t too hard to understand what it means

[Schizophonia]

2 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

In the moment I only have one friend so don’t have much to go off of😹 but I can’t remember that we’ve talked about our periods don’t know why we haven’t though or maybe I just forgot about it. I don’t have a secret code no. In Sweden one can say “lingonberry week” or something I’ve heard but that isn’t too hard to understand what it means

In french we have the word "ragnagna" lol. 

[ricachica]

Up until the age of 20, when I got the Depovera shot (birth control shot), I had basically zero problems with my period.

Growing up with my friends in high school, I would get confused when most of them complained of cramps. Sometimes it was so bad they would cry during dance practice and sit it out. Another friend had to take birth control pills early on to manage the pain from cramps. I was very lucky and really never experienced cramping.

Then at the age of 20 when I got the Depovera shot, everything changed, even 7 years later I still deal with it. The first few months I was bleeding everyday for 3 months…so I didn’t go back to get the second shot. To this day, I still have random spotting throughout the month every so often, and I now have the WORST cramps a few times a year. Like the pain is so bad that I throw up and deliriously think I might be giving birth… 

I now feel bad for questioning my friends in high school who were going through it…. 

[Davino]

Let's not start with french jokes💀

[Davino]

9 minutes ago, ricachica said:

Then at the age of 20 when I got the Depovera shot, everything changed, even 7 years later I still deal with it. The first few months I was bleeding everyday for 3 months…so I didn’t go back to get the second shot. To this day, I still have random spotting throughout the month every so often, and I now have the WORST cramps a few times a year. Like the pain is so bad that I throw up and deliriously think I might be giving birth…

Ooof, sounds real bad

Why did you chose to take the Depovera shot out of all the other available methods?

[ricachica]

12 minutes ago, Davino said:

Ooof, sounds real bad

Why did you chose to take the Depovera shot out of all the other available methods?

At the time in my early 20s, I was much more depressed and not good at remembering to take a pill everyday. The shot only required you to show up once every 3 months, so I just thought it would be easier.

A friend later told me there are scientific studies were the Depo-Provera shot was used on pedophiles/rapists/sexual offenders to supposedly subdue their sexual urges… sucks that I didn’t know before.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/1421556/

Edited December 30, 2024 by ricachica

[Davino]

@ricachica I'm very angry about the contraceptive methods in general, they have so many side effects it's amazing how they are even legal

[ricachica]

@Davino To be fair, now that I’m more mentally healthy and mature enough to take it everyday, I have no side effects personally from the birth control pill! Again..personally though.

[Basman]

On 29/12/2024 at 0:04 AM, Buck Edwards said:

I don't like opening up about it too much to men. (since you asked) But I always have very painful period. So much that I have trauma about it. Every time it comes I'm reminded of how it always is. The mood swings are wild. I get grumpy. The pms. The cramps are awful and recurrent. Sometimes I can't work when I have it and don't feel like leaving home during those times. I also lose/gain sexual desire (don't know how to put it), depending on the period but mostly hate men or tend to dislike male presence during this specific time, like a male around might cause me irritation (it's just my biological response, my brain associating period with sex, men etc.) 

I don't want sex on a period, I would feel terrible. This is one of the biggest aspects of being a woman that I personally hate the most most most. I don't like it at all. And I shouldn't be ashamed of disliking it. It's difficult to embrace it because I get nasty feelings and temper tantrums and frustrations on my period. I tell everyone to get away or leave me alone. Sometimes I tell my family to shut up because even too much talk or sound irritates me. I'll be like shh. 

I avoid talking to my husband on my period. I don't know it irritates me and I need my space to deal with my frustration and mood swings. I want to be stress free on those days. 

I discussed with my gynec and she said that my womb is naturally that way. 

I can take those painkillers but I have to watch out because I generally bleed a bit more if I take pills of any sort. So I just tolerate the pain. 

I am grateful that my family and husband don't disturb me too much when I am on my period and they let me have my space. But sometimes I have had the need to get angry, throw temper tantrums and I get aggressive. And male presence is generally not appreciated. 

The opposite side. On some periods, it's different. I get a very strong sexual desire right before the day it's gonna start or at least a week before it starts. The desire to have sex is extremely strong and it feels like I'm in heat and I get horny like crazy. I get wet dreams, those kind of dreams and rape fantasies and stuff. And I get the feeling that I should be f*. It's not particularly enjoyable because I know that my hormones causing me to be sexual so it's no big deal. An attractive male around me looks even more attractive during such a time. His height, his gestures, masculine jawline, body strength, his style, his talk might appear more appealing during this time. My mind is naturally drawn to the sexiness in men (of course I control it because I want to be faithful), but just giving an Idea of how my biology functions when I'm going through the heat time before the period.

When the period comes on, I might still feel sexual and horny. I can crave sex on the second day. This is only during horny periods not regular ones. On the third day, the sexual craving disappears. 

On the fourth day the symptoms begin to fade. I don't feel horny when my period is about to end. 

I feel slightly horny in the next three days after the period has ended as my sexual drive comes back and the disgust feelings are gone. 

Then it has to be at least 10-15 days before I feel hormonal again. This is the day when I feel a bit warmer than usual and my body temperature goes up. I feel horny. It lasts only a day. But I feel unusual, my forehead gets warm, my nipples tighten a bit and my breasts  feel sensitive and sore. And I tend to get a bit sensitive than usual and I don't hate male presence at this time. It's like I like it. I usually crave sex on this day. Not a lot but still better than other days. 

It lasts only a day. After that it's just normal till the next period starts. So I usually appreciate male presence only on the days when I'm horny. Rest of the days I don't get any thoughts about men in general. 

I have observed that my love-hate cycle with men fluctuates depending on my horniness and how my period regulates it. Some periods I don't want sex at all, some periods I'm unusually horny and sexual cravings go up.

So the sexual cravings go up and down throughout the month depending on the day of the entire month cycle. 

 

Maybe you have autism and the menstruation exacerbates sensory sensitivity, causing irritability, etc. That is a thing apparently according to a quick google search.

[Buck Edwards]

1 hour ago, Basman said:

Maybe you have autism and the menstruation exacerbates sensory sensitivity, causing irritability, etc. That is a thing apparently according to a quick google search.

Yes I have been diagnosed with autism and I have sensory sensitivity. 

[Emerald]

I know a lot of women have aversion and shame towards their period.

And of course many experience a lot of pain and discomfort, which is a different topic. And that would make it very difficult to accept and find positivity in.

I recall in elementary school that many girls dreaded getting it. And when we were learning about it, I remember one teacher framing it as as unpleasant and nasty feeling that you have to just get through and practice good hygiene with. 

But I was SUPER excited to get my period when I was a girl. I remember being in Girl Scouts when I was 9, and I had a Girl Scout manual that talked about a lot of life skills and stuff like that. And one of the pages was talking about the period in a really matter of fact medical way.

And I'd hide in my closet like I was looking at a Playboy and read that page over and over and over again.

And I was really excited to get my period because I knew it was associated with growing breasts. And I thought it would be like an instant thing... like the bleeding is the thing that's causing the breasts to develop.

So, I was excited for that. Part of it was just that I wanted to look like a Spice Girl and wear all the cool outfits.

The other part was that I really wanted to be attractive to boys. I was very romantically precocious and had crushes since I was 3 years old, but never had a boy reciprocate my feelings.

(Side tangent: I remember being 5 years old and thinking that all of my peers were already dating and kissing but they didn't like me because I was ugly and had no breasts. And that no one would ever want to kiss me or marry me. So, if an old ugly bald mean man wanted to marry me at the age of 5, I'd have to say yes because that would be my only chance. 

And I'd see all these movies where men are approaching women and that the women are being sought after. And I was thinking, "This must be one of those make-believe movie things... because in real life, it's always the girls that like the boys and not the other way around.")

But once I learned about the period, I saw it as a means through which I could possibly have my romantic feelings reciprocated because I'd have breasts and breasts are attractive.

So, there was an association with the period and female sexuality and attractiveness... which was always of interest to me because of my romantic precociousness.

Nowadays, it's just the status quo. And it doesn't hurt too bad for me. And it doesn't really mess with my mood. So, I don't really have an issue with it.

I can tend to romanticize things that pertain to having a female body from a sexual and a nature-cycles perspective, including the period if I'm in the right headspace. But most of the time, I just relate to it like any other function of my body.

Edited December 31, 2024 by Emerald