Why women have aversion towards their own period process?

[ricachica]

43 minutes ago, Emerald said:

I saw it as a means through which I could possibly have my romantic feelings reciprocated because I'd have breasts and breasts are attractive.

I was very similar at a young age...I remember passing by the bra section and just wishing for the day I would finally get to buy one because it would mean more attention from the boys. I lied to some boys before and said I finally got a bra lol.... one of them called me out and said "wtf you definitely don't have boobs wdym???". Oh youth.

[Emerald]

35 minutes ago, ricachica said:

I was very similar at a young age...I remember passing by the bra section and just wishing for the day I would finally get to buy one because it would mean more attention from the boys. I lied to some boys before and said I finally got a bra lol.... one of them called me out and said "wtf you definitely don't have boobs wdym???". Oh youth.

Haha. Definitely a canon experience.

I remember once, during the summer between 5th and 6th grade, I was in this summer day camp. And we went to the roller skating rink once a week.

And there were these three girls at the skating rink who were a little trio of popular girls. And they didn't go to elementary school with me, so I think they were trying to invite me into their popular girls clubs so that there could be four of them... to pretend to be like the squad of popular girls in this one teen movie... the name of the movie escapes me. (It's not Mean Girls. This was a 90s movie.)

They had all these rules for hanging out with them like daily shaving and not eating in public. And a couple years later when I saw the movie, I was like "Oh!!! That's what they were imitating." 

But one thing these 11 year girls would do, was to always be conspicuously adjusting their bras and glancing back and forth at one another. And they'd be asking me if I had started my period and if I wore a bra (which I hadn't and didn't at the time) but lied about the period thing, which became a tangled web. I'm bad at lying.

I was really intimidated by them. But looking back, they were just being a bunch of silly gooses, imitating that movie and trying to be grown up.

Edited December 31, 2024 by Emerald

[ricachica]

52 minutes ago, Emerald said:

And there were these three girls at the skating rink who were a little trio of popular girls. And they didn't go to elementary school with me, so I think they were trying to invite me into their popular girls clubs so that there could be four of them... 

If they didn't go to your elementary school, does that mean it gave you a better chance to join them? Meaning that, in your elementary school, it wouldn't have been possible to join the popular girls group who knew who you were? I say that because I also briefly joined the popular girl group in 5th grade out of necessity, when the majority we were all friends with left for a new elementary school after 4th grade. If it wasn't for that circumstance, I would have never been considered to join due to what they probably knew of me (which was just a typical playground/tetherball loving kid, not too hyper girly like them ) I felt really cool for a second and I was essentially tested for a bit in similarly peculiar ways... I did not last long and just could never click with them as much as I really wanted to though. Definitely intimidated haha.

 

But in general I didn't really associate getting a period with getting more male romantic attention, though I am sure I would have if I had viewed that same Girl Scout manual your read, I definitely had a similar line of thinking back then. I viewed periods pretty neutrally. It was definitely more the boobs thing for me at the time... I definitely wore slightly lower cut shirts in 7th grade cause I was proud when they finally come in...oh gosh. My whole friend group did really, we constantly compared boob growth. Funny cause I rarely show cleavage nowadays and it doesn't cross my my mind to use them to "gain" male romantic attention bahahaha. 

Edited December 31, 2024 by ricachica

[Davino]

@Emerald Thanks for sharing your stories, that was super interesting to read

@ricachica I feel like I'm getting to know the secrets of women just by listening to both of you interact

[Basman]

12 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

Yes I have been diagnosed with autism and I have sensory sensitivity. 

I don't think your period is the norm to be honest. Especially considering how you describe other women reacting to your period.

[Buck Edwards]

Just now, Basman said:

I don't think your period is the norm to be honest. Especially considering how you describe other women reacting to your period.

Lots of women struggle with their period. They just don't open up about it as much. 

[Basman]

I think its kind of a funny premise to say to have a loving relationship to ones menstruation cycle. Its a waste process. Do you have a loving relationship towards taking a shit or pissing (please say no)? 

There's plenty of reasons to hate your period from what I hear just from how involving it is.

[Davino]

3 hours ago, Basman said:

I think its kind of a funny premise to say to have a loving relationship to ones menstruation cycle. Its a waste process. Do you have a loving relationship towards taking a shit or pissing (please say no)? 

Many people say the best moment of the day is taking a shit

I've come to love the processes of my body. Once when I was a kid I had a severe constipation and couldn't defecate for three weeks. I went to the doctor due to severe belly pain. They gave me some pills. I was in school and clogged the toilet. From that moment on I instantly saw the importance of loving my body and the shit process. So now I can say I have a loving relationship with it. I feel in my belly, I monitor myself, eat food that is good for my digestive system etc.

So the problem is gone and a healthy habit and relationship has been built. Imagine if I hated the shit process and denied it, got anxiety when is the moment to use the bathroom, that's what many women face with menstruation. It's a more tedious process right but my analogy is trying to point the need for a loving relationship with all the functions of your body to whole and integrated.

[Javfly33]

On 12/29/2024 at 0:04 AM, Buck Edwards said:

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The opposite side. On some periods, it's different. I get a very strong sexual desire right before the day it's gonna start or at least a week before it starts. The desire to have sex is extremely strong and it feels like I'm in heat and I get horny like crazy. I get wet dreams, those kind of dreams and rape fantasies and stuff. And I get the feeling that I should be f*. It's not particularly enjoyable because I know that my hormones causing me to be sexual so it's no big deal. An attractive male around me looks even more attractive during such a time. His height, his gestures, masculine jawline, body strength, his style, his talk might appear more appealing during this time. My mind is naturally drawn to the sexiness in men (of course I control it because I want to be faithful), but just giving an Idea of how my biology functions when I'm going through the heat time before the period.

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Thanks for sharing. This is powerful example of how as humans hormones can try to control us, not that they actually do because as you said you can control it but it gives insight how powerful the hormonal system hijacks us. 

Edited Wednesday at 10:44 AM by Javfly33

[Buck Edwards]

5 hours ago, Javfly33 said:

 

Thanks for sharing. This is powerful example of how as humans hormones can try to control us, not that they actually do because as you said you can control it but it gives insight how powerful the hormonal system hijacks us. 

Thank you.