Getting too close too fast?

[Princess Arabia]

6 minutes ago, Hojo said:

@Princess Arabia Woman are programmed to care about social mind games men arent. This woman came over an took a massive trauma dump on his fresh sheets and left.

So that means all women are like that? The men that sees all women differently until proven otherwise are the smart ones and the ones who are more successful with women. (not referring to commonalities like women are more emotional, intuitive, more soft or moody or just in general etc). Saying women are programmed to care about social mind games is just too niche and does not apply to all women or even most. 

[Hojo]

@Princess Arabia Why can you lump every womans thought patterns but I cant. I have seen you do it dozens of times.

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Hojo said:

@Princess Arabia Why can you lump every womans thought patterns but I cant. I have seen you do it dozens of times.

Well, call me out on it when I do. Most times I usually say most or some. Most times if I'm generalizing yeah, but something as women are programmed to......whatever you said, is just too broad of a saying to just say women are, that's my opinion anyway. If I was to say men love sex, that's not some weird out controversial notion and most would agree.

Anyway, we are all forgetting that different ages, cultures, even race and ethnicities, also upbringing and experiences plays a factor in people's personalities and character sometimes. Mistake we all make is to lump everyone in the same category. Experience will also teach you this and we all learn as we grow and mature. What some frivolous 20yr old would do might not be what a 30yr old would do and vice versa and that goes for all age brackets and not just subjected to age.

Edited December 29, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[Hojo]

@Princess Arabia I think it has been done and the argument is you are a female and men dont understand how females work. I am using your own arguments against you.

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Hojo said:

@Princess Arabia I think it has been done and the argument is you are a female and men dont understand how females work. I am using your own arguments against you.

You don't have to use my own arguments against me. Lots of men don't understand women and vice versa. I do understand men to a degree and I do understand that not all men are the same. Anyone that says otherwise is a looney tune.

[Hojo]

@Princess Arabia Gaslighting. I use your own argument against you you cant defend your oringinal argument and fall back onto everyone is on an infinite spectrum and anyone who dosent beleive that is insane. By definition your arguments mean you are insane then. Then you resort to gaslighting. If this is your new arguments then you can never argue that women understand women more than men, I can argue what women think and its equally as valid even tho Im not a woman.

Edited December 29, 2024 by Hojo

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Hojo said:

@Princess Arabia Gaslighting.

Ok, never mind, I'm out. Court session has begun,

[Hojo]

@Princess Arabia I will use the final cop out. There is no doer.

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Hojo said:

@Princess Arabia I will use the final cop out. There is no doer.

lol

[Princess Arabia]

1 minute ago, Hojo said:

@Princess Arabia I will use the final cop out. There is no doer.

I can do better than that. Nothing's really happening.

[NoSelfSelf]

8 hours ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

@NoSelfSelf I don't think it's correct to just dismiss all my points just because I was hurt in the past, we all were hurt in the past except a few priviliged people (mostly good looking ones of course but that's besides the point). So this is completely irrelevant. Do you honestly think it is fair to bring that up? Do you honestly think this disproves literaly anything of what I stated?

I was never rejected because I never approached, but some women still did express interest in me. I was kinda traumatized in other ways tho (50% of that was by women) I am not ashamed to admit it. Guys like me could benefit from some kind of approaching and I will get to it once I'll start caring enough. I do have kind of an average face but I am tall and have OK body frame so I'm should be alright.

But I think it's kinda pointless to make it about me. I don't really care, but it's pointless. You're probably doing it cause you can't disprove anything of what I've said (because it's an objective truth)

Exactly my point ,your objective truth is based on feelings (trauma respons) not actually you talking to women in real life. Even if you did ,you wouldnt have objective viewpoint since you have trauma respons.

I make it about you because its you whos gonna make feelings turn into facts,nothing personal tho.You never look at you,you let world define you.Thaths how it usually is.All you do is turning away from yourself that's why there is no growth but just feelings and what you see turns into your reality.

Im not dissmising everything, its just lets say 10% correct and you make that 10% into 100% based on a feeling.

Edited December 29, 2024 by NoSelfSelf

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

@NoSelfSelf Actually the last part mostly applies to what you say imo. About 10% of it is correct

[Jannes]

10 hours ago, Basman said:

Is this a problem?

No, I just want to learn from the situation more and I dont know how it would turn out if I met her again but I guess I just have to find out. 

[NoSelfSelf]

1 hour ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

@NoSelfSelf Actually the last part mostly applies to what you say imo. About 10% of it is correct

Atleast 10% got into your absolute views 😏

[Schizophonia]

15 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

That's fine but most of my friends used to be platonic males. I was the "hung out with the boys" type girl. Not that I watched sports or competed or did manly stuff, but I am very down-to-earth and fit right in with them. I had gfs too, but they were mostly going out peers. The guys I hung out with and drank with and partied with - all platonic. Been that way from teenage years. Neighborhood buddies and just all around. I'm very cool like that. I actually prefer to hang with guys than girls normally. Girls are too uggh...gossipy and some get jealous of you around their man. I ain't got time for that. The few female friends I had, though, we were very close. Still are even though we don't see each other often.

I trust you, i talk in general. 

[Buck Edwards]

9 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Anyway, we are all forgetting that different ages, cultures, even race and ethnicities, also upbringing and experiences plays a factor in people's personalities and character sometimes. Mistake we all make is to lump everyone in the same category.

Totally agree. 

[Schizophonia]

16 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Have you never encountered a guy who is kinda fugly still have girls like him because of his personality?

They are actually 6 to 7/10 men with a big nose, who are a little small or something like that.

 

[Basman]

2 hours ago, Jannes said:

No, I just want to learn from the situation more and I dont know how it would turn out if I met her again but I guess I just have to find out. 

You worry too much.

I think its exciting to potentially meet your love. If you connected that well over a single evening think of the potential if you give each the chance to explore this further.

 

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

2 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Atleast 10% got into your absolute views 😏

Yeah, whatever floats your boat, dude😂

[Sugarcoat]

41 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

They are actually 6 to 7/10 men with a big nose, who are a little small or something like that.

 

Haven’t noticed that but ok