Getting too close too fast?

[Jannes]

7 minutes ago, Candle said:

Lack of feminine energy (being single) sucks a lot. It depresses me sometimes. 

@Jannes why don't you correct the grammar in the title? "too fast too close" instead of "to fast to close". 

I dont think it's possible to correct the title. If it is explain me how to do it. 

[Candle]

1 minute ago, Jannes said:

I dont think it's possible to correct the title. If it is explain me how to do it. 

Edit the first post. Then click title bar

Edited December 28, 2024 by Candle

[Jannes]

1 minute ago, Candle said:

Edit the first post. Then click title bar

Oh wow, didnt think of that. Thanks. 

Edited December 28, 2024 by Jannes

[M A J I]

Its not that you have to rely on her, but connecting with her, with women in general can help a lot. Sometimes my partner and I need space from each other, especially if we are clashing, and often spending time with or just talking to other females about general things helps the energy flow better between us again and vice versa, it definitely helps a lot, as they are naturally emotionally more receptive and understanding to your situation.

We often will attract our mirror-opposite, can be very challenging at times, but also very beneficial to our growth.

[NoSelfSelf]

34 minutes ago, Jannes said:

Yes but when I was in the club I felt very socially awkward. I needed to warm up. It was a blessing talking to her as she got close very fast to me with body contact and stuff. I liked the atmosphere as I warmed up socially a lot and enjoyed her company but it also confused me a little. I asked if she was up to sex pretty early and she said she wasn't which was cool to me as we vibed but it confused my mind why she got and stayed so close to me. 

You think like that because your self worth is low,so her attention is like a gods given gift to you.

Okay you practiced move on.If she isnt for what you want, then there is no need to talk further, then keep in mind if you continue to talk shes leading you and now you have to work for what she wants you for,so now you have to work for a maybe to get what you want.

Practice talking, but if you not practicing and keep talking to her then you will f yourself over, even if she gives you play.

Edited December 28, 2024 by NoSelfSelf

[Jannes]

17 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

You think like that because your self worth is low,so her attention is like a gods given gift to you.

Okay you practiced move on.If she isnt for what you want, then there is no need to talk further, then keep in mind if you continue to talk shes leading you and now you have to work for what she wants you for,so now you have to work for a maybe to get what you want.

Practice talking, but if you not practicing and keep talking to her then you will f yourself over, even if she gives you play.

I see your point but I am in a relatively unique situation and I dont want to brag at all but I often had problems finding girls who would just vibe with me or help me as many I met wanted a romantic or sexual connection I wasn't emotionally ready for as I was a complete emotional mess the couple of years. So in a weird twist I benefit a bit from getting "exploited". 

I chat with her to the degree that it feels good to me. 

[NoSelfSelf]

5 minutes ago, Jannes said:

I see your point but I am in a relatively unique situation and I dont want to brag at all but I often had problems finding girls who would just vibe with me or help me as many I met wanted a romantic or sexual connection I wasn't emotionally ready for as I was a complete emotional mess the couple of years. So in a weird twist I benefit a bit from getting "exploited". 

I chat with her to the degree that it feels good to me. 

Thanks for clarifying, i cant help you i only give advice for masculine men, who put more worth into themselves than feminine activities.

[Jannes]

2 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Thanks for clarifying, i cant help you i only give advice for masculine men, who put more worth into themselves than feminine activities.

Okay Chad.

[NoSelfSelf]

2 minutes ago, Jannes said:

Okay Chad.

No need for disrespect,our worldviews differ thats all that is to it.

[Jannes]

1 minute ago, NoSelfSelf said:

No need for disrespect,our worldviews differ thats all that is to it.

Thats okay but you literally put your worldview above mine. If I understood wrong you can clarify. 

9 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Thanks for clarifying, i cant help you i only give advice for masculine men, who put more worth into themselves than feminine activities.

 

[NoSelfSelf]

1 minute ago, Jannes said:

Thats okay but you literally put your worldview above mine. If I understood wrong you can clarify. 

 

That's the truth feminine will place emotions and things above themselves and i respect that,but i dont stand on it and wont give advice on it.

[Jannes]

1 minute ago, NoSelfSelf said:

That's the truth feminine will place emotions and things above themselves and i respect that,but i dont stand on it and wont give advice on it.

But you are (partly) an emotional being..

[NoSelfSelf]

1 minute ago, Jannes said:

But you are (partly) an emotional being..

Im not emotional but i have emotions big difference.

[Jannes]

4 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Im not emotional but i have emotions big difference.

And I am not a rational mind i have a rational mind. What do you want to say?

[Jannes]

We are all emotionally driven, even people who identify as really rational. It can be more direct or more underlying though. 

[NoSelfSelf]

15 minutes ago, Jannes said:

And I am not a rational mind i have a rational mind. What do you want to say?

Nothing have a nice day.

[Jannes]

13 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Nothing have a nice day.

Okay. 

[Sugarcoat]

A lot of the time when someone writes about an encounter they have in the forum it makes me think that the communication they have with that person isn’t clear/straightforward enough, causing the confusion and need for input here

Edited December 28, 2024 by Sugarcoat

[NoSelfSelf]

8 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

A lot of the time when someone writes about an encounter they have in the forum it makes me think that the communication they have with that person isn’t clear/straightforward enough, causing the confusion.

Yes because when individual see's a woman and thinks she's beautiful or whatever,in that moment shes special which causes individual to feel a certen way and attach that thinking to the feeling which causes reaction.In reaction(being nervous etc.) one beats around the bush,being indirect,being unsure of itself because hes not in control of himself in that moment.Emotion of what individual sees defines them, because they dont stand on who they are(probably because they dont know themselves).

Hope this makes sense.

Edited December 28, 2024 by NoSelfSelf

[Sugarcoat]

12 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Yes because when individual see's a woman and thinks she's beautiful or whatever,in that moment shes special which causes individual to feel a certen way and attach that thinking to the feeling which causes reaction.In reaction(being nervous etc.) one beats around the bush,being indirect,being unsure of itself because hes not in control of himself in that moment.Emotion of what individual sees defines them, because they dont stand on who they are(probably because they dont know themselves).

Hope this makes sense.

Yea basically you wrote about what the cause is for that indirectness, uncertainty, which is that pedestalization of the woman, putting her above themselves,  feeling unsure of themselves around her, because they are not secure in themselves , so needing advice on forum