What does your dream dating life look like?

[LordFall]

In the sprit holidays and new years wishes, it's time to reflect and work on our goals for the new years! So much of dating conversation online both on this forum and elsewhere is spent breaking down and gossiping on others dating lives instead of our own. I believe in abundance and in perfect dating lives but to get there you first have to develop some self-awareness and introspection to know what you really want and have the balls to go after it! 

I like this scene in the movie Professor Marston and the Wonder Women because it showcases how you can get what you want and also give others what they want if you own your desires and share them through inducement. So many people both seek to dominate others and themselves, it's a sad way to live.

Anyways for me I want to build out a bdsm based harem and explore my bisexuality. I've had many fantasies over the years but never was in a solid place financially and mentally to dedicate a lot of time to try and fulfill them and I'm just starting recently this year to start to accept my bisexual side. First few years of my 20s were spent on learning game and coming out of basically being an incel to moving to a big city(Toronto) at 25 and starting to develop some status and a big social circle and next year I'll hit 30 and finally I think have the resources and confidence to fully live out my life. 

What about you guys, if you had all the best looks, options, money, confidence, etc that allowed you to fully live out your dream dating life; what would it look like? 

[UpperMaster]

I don't mean to sound mad gay, but I give a fuck about girly shit like "story" and "plot". I want a relationship that that's risky but extremely fun. It's not just the relationship between me and the girl, the context from which the relationship forms is super important: her family, her friends, my friends, the city, it should all be fun and interconnected. taboo makes it fun too. going against norms together. 

tinder super bores me, I want so fun story shit. 

[Sugarcoat]

The basis for any interaction with another is a stable self through space and time . So you wish to be with someone because this separate sense feels incomplete and looks for fulfillment in objects which can be in relationship with another . You can wish for a perfect dating life or you can get free from this need (if you want) by either dissolving this self because then there’s no more interaction or becoming fully self focused so you only seek yourself and nothing outside yourself 

Edited 16 hours ago by Sugarcoat

[LordFall]

@UpperMaster Are you a fan of cold approach? That tends to make spontaneous and interesting romances happen.

@Sugarcoat Sounds like you're spiritually bypassing to me. Why are you replying to the post if you're only talking to yourself then? Why are you drinking water and eating food if you're the whole universe? Give up the ego and enjoy a good love story/dirty sex IMO. It's some of the best things the universe can experience. 

Edited 16 hours ago by LordFall

[Sugarcoat]

Just now, LordFall said:

 

@Sugarcoat Sounds like you're spiritually bypassing to me. Why are you replying to the post if you're only talking to yourself then? Why are you drinking water and eating food if you're the whole universe? Give up the ego and enjoy a good love story/dirty sex IMO. 

I’m just giving an alternate suggestion that’s all. That’s why I wrote “if you want”. And my second suggestion wasn’t spiritual. 

[Princess Arabia]

16 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

so you only seek yourself and nothing outside yourself 

How you go dissolve the self, then seek yourself. Seems like a confused self to me.

[Princess Arabia]

18 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

You can wish for a perfect dating life or you can get free from this need

Getting free of that need is enslavement just the same. It's a condition and it's not being free. This is some spiritual mumbo jumbo. Nothing wrong with wanting to date and it doesn't necessarily mean one is trying to feel fulfilled. 

[Princess Arabia]

58 minutes ago, LordFall said:

What about you guys, if you had all the best looks, options, money, confidence, etc

Ironically, these are the traits that most people who are miserable in dating have, except for maybe confidence but not necessarily.

Edited 15 hours ago by Princess Arabia

[Sugarcoat]

9 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

How you go dissolve the self, then seek yourself. Seems like a confused self to me.

It’s two different things altogether that I suggested

[Sugarcoat]

8 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Getting free of that need is enslavement just the same. It's a condition and it's not being free. This is some spiritual mumbo jumbo. Nothing wrong with wanting to date and it doesn't necessarily mean one is trying to feel fulfilled. 

Getting free of that need (in case it feels constrictive and you want to) means getting free of that need means getting free of that need nothing else. I could go on

Ofc nothing wrong with wanting to date I was just suggesting alternative routes to that desire in case if it comes from a place of lack and feels constrictive. Doesn’t ~necessarily ~mean one is trying to feel fulfilled but in the most cases it does . 

Edited 15 hours ago by Sugarcoat

[Princess Arabia]

5 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Getting free of that need (in case it feels constrictive and you want to) means getting free of that need means getting free of that need nothing else.

If one feels a need to date, trying to get rid of that need will feel constricted. The only way to get rid of the need to date is to go date. The only way to get rid  of hunger, is to eat, the only way to get rid of being poor is to be rich. 

Edited 15 hours ago by Princess Arabia

[Tenebroso]

Ideally, I would like to meet my other half and get married. This is what I daydream about. However, I never got to have my wild phase and sow my wild oats, so that would be nice. To be desired SEXUALLY by many women.

[Sugarcoat]

13 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

If one feels a need to date, trying to get rid of that need will feel constricted. The only way to get rid of the need to date is to go date. The only way to get rid  of hunger, is to eat, the only way to get rid of being poor is to be rich. 

It’s not for everyone 

[UpperMaster]

I didn't do too much cold approach or get much success yet. Mostly because I don't live in a huge city, but I am planning to improve my cold approach skills significantly. That is going to be a priority in my life at some point.

 

I want to meet a good woman spontaneously like that.