The keys of inner game-Thread.

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura and people of actualized.org . Post your perspective that enhances one's inner game .

[NoSelfSelf]

The principle of doing it to yourself first.

Sell speech to yourself before others.

Respect yourself before asking for it.

Connect with yourself before you can with others.

Influence yourself before you can influence others.

Lead yourself so you can lead others.

Edited 18 hours ago by NoSelfSelf

[Buck Edwards]

• Build a solid authentic life 
• Great integrity 
• Not relying on public validation 
• Boost self confidence 
• Great communication skills 
• Not be offended by rejections
• Taking the lead in social situations 
• Show respect 
• Control neediness or keep it healthy 
• Stay grounded all the time 
• Command self respect 
• Say what you mean and mean what you say 
• Don't use standard pick up lines 
• Dress well 
• Don't make immature comments during conversations 
• Be welcoming and polite 
• Learn when to say no but politely 
• Build mental stamina 
• Don't be desperate for sex (if you want a high quality partner) 
• Integrate other's perspectives 
• Don't be quick to criticize 
• Add a sense of humor 
• Read body language accurately 
• Gain experience through constant socializing and rejections and use it to improve skills 

(I'm a girl) 

[Hojo]

Stop playing and you win.

[UpperMaster]

@Hojo I swear my best friend became a bitch attracter as soon as he started succeeding in life, built self-confidence and as a result stopped with the neediness. 

My man was already super funny before. But that switch changed the game for him

[Sugarcoat]

Your inner game will need to be different depending on what your goal is. If it’s to attract women, get laid, build confidence, find authentic self or overcome insecurities etc. Although the latter will probably translate into more success with the previous, it’s not a guarantee. But if that’s not the goal then it is of no concern

[Schizophonia]

Align your frequency with the person you want to become, but anything that is not that person will have to die.

 

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6SdiL9XFKkU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fIsy_HSHkKo

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SP1J_trjfvL5prESWKCIHZ6EVshQFrub/view?usp=sharing&t=14328

https://www.girlschase.com/content/you-must-fix-your-inner-game-doing-external-things

https://www.girlschase.com/content/state-control-pt-2-how-get-state

[Myagooshki]

4 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

The principle of doing it to yourself first.

Sell speech to yourself before others.

Respect yourself before asking for it.

Connect with yourself before you can with others.

Influence yourself before you can influence others.

Lead yourself so you can lead others.

My favorite here is "sell speech to yourself before others".

Some of the other stuff I don't know how much I agree with, such as "connect with yoruself before you can with others". I tried that after one of my last breakups and I couldn't stop but crying imagining her voice, imagining the mental version of her as opposed to the physical version of hers and I remember her voice and how soothing it was. My current gf very much replaces this emotionally and I don't even think about the ex anymore. 

Sell speech to yourself before others. This makes me think about the idea that if I can talk and talk in my own mind then I can talk and talk to other people. It's true you know. If you write a song on the guitar in your bedroom and you don't like it, why would you play that out? If you write a song on the guitar in your bedroom and you do like it, and you write thousands and thousands of the songs, and you really like playing them, go ahead and play those songs out, because you're going to have a good time playing those songs. 

it helps to have a good time talking and enjoying the words that are coming out of your mouth, even if the other people don't really recieve it that well. Your job is not first and foremost to edit your speech and keep trying to say different things to see "when will it be the case that they like to listen to what I have to say"? Your job first and foremost is to enjoy saying what you're saying and just talk talk talk and then see eventually the people who like to listen to what you have to say when you're authentically going off.

 

[Tenebroso]

Put yourself first unapologetically. Detach your self image from the opinion of others. That's basically it.

[NoSelfSelf]

9 hours ago, Myagooshki said:

My favorite here is "sell speech to yourself before others".

Some of the other stuff I don't know how much I agree with, such as "connect with yoruself before you can with others". I tried that after one of my last breakups and I couldn't stop but crying imagining her voice, imagining the mental version of her as opposed to the physical version of hers and I remember her voice and how soothing it was. My current gf very much replaces this emotionally and I don't even think about the ex anymore. 

Sell speech to yourself before others. This makes me think about the idea that if I can talk and talk in my own mind then I can talk and talk to other people. It's true you know. If you write a song on the guitar in your bedroom and you don't like it, why would you play that out? If you write a song on the guitar in your bedroom and you do like it, and you write thousands and thousands of the songs, and you really like playing them, go ahead and play those songs out, because you're going to have a good time playing those songs. 

it helps to have a good time talking and enjoying the words that are coming out of your mouth, even if the other people don't really recieve it that well. Your job is not first and foremost to edit your speech and keep trying to say different things to see "when will it be the case that they like to listen to what I have to say"? Your job first and foremost is to enjoy saying what you're saying and just talk talk talk and then see eventually the people who like to listen to what you have to say when you're authentically going off.

 

Your last part its exactly it , in that moment you are connecting to yourself by the sentences you find attractive to you,so thats a connection and there are millions of connections one has to do with himself,so when the women comes you are not actually connecting to her in a way,you are connecting to yourself and like you said shes connecting to your authenticity.Point is the more for example you are connected to your sexual side , the more she will experience it,so one must connect with himself and be it.Many guys have connection to a woman so there is no impact you can make, so they further feminise themselves with red pill.

Edited 5 hours ago by NoSelfSelf

[Human Mint]

16 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

The principle of doing it to yourself first.

Sell speech to yourself before others.

Respect yourself before asking for it.

Connect with yourself before you can with others.

Influence yourself before you can influence others.

Lead yourself so you can lead others.

Agree, and I would add: do this in social environments. Do not look for attention, silence is a powerful tool.

[NoSelfSelf]

7 minutes ago, Human Mint said:

Agree, and I would add: do this in social environments. Do not look for attention, silence is a powerful tool.

I see decent point,another inner game point is seeing social enviroments differently by not being in one but you being the social enviroment.That's when you are completely locked in.Advanced one but good to see it in a bigger picture.

[Human Mint]

To clarify with what I just said and that is not misunderstood: there is a difference between being needy and being relaxed while socializing. When you go to social environments is implicit that you're looking for connections.

[Rishabh R]

@Human Mint I am mostly silent in social environments. Great advice .

[NoSelfSelf]

4 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@Human Mint I am mostly silent in social environments. Great advice .

Being silent is worst for growth,you should talk alot ,but those that can talk alot should listen more.