Female Abuse Example

[Candle]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

A notion that can only be held by one who has not been physically abused.

Imagine someone chopping your balls and your penis without anaesthesia, how hell of a pain it would be. This might be happening to war prisoners. It's not imaginary. 

Or if you are a female, imagine someone inserting iron rod into your vagina after raping, how painful? This actually happens everyday (at least in India). You can search Nirbhaya case. And you'll find how brutal physical pain can be. 

@Hojo 

Physical pain creates mental pain too (in case of humans, there is a psychological layer too). This mental pain remains forever. 

The examples I mentioned above make me empathetic to rape survivors and those who were torchured, be it male or female. 

Edited Wednesday at 05:21 AM by Candle

[lostingenosmaze]

10 hours ago, integral said:

https://x.com/PicturesFoIder/status/1871382885309075581

Damn Billie Eilish really fell off, huh?

[nhoktinvt]

1 hour ago, lostingenosmaze said:

Damn Billie Eilish really fell off, huh?

i remember i had a dream about Billie Eilish and ppl voted her on X about something and she has the most vote, no idea what it means perhaps the best female artist ?

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

Sounds like they are both in need of some help

[Myagooshki]

I don't know anything about this situation. Does anybody know anything about the situation? Apparently she was going to be sick and they were going to miss their flight? It doesn't seem to me like she's a charismatic bone shaker. She's having a major panic attack there. I don't feel like she's the one with the "emotional upper hand" here or whatever, and I don't necessarily feel for the guy. There's also the way that she talks to the guy filming, that makes me more annoyed. 

Edited Wednesday at 11:33 PM by Myagooshki

[integral]

31 minutes ago, Myagooshki said:

I don't know anything about this situation. Does anybody know anything about the situation? Apparently she was going to be sick and they were going to miss their flight? It doesn't seem to me like she's a charismatic bone shaker. She's having a major panic attack there. I don't feel like she's the one with the "emotional upper hand" here or whatever, and I don't necessarily feel for the guy. There's also the way that she talks to the guy filming, that makes me more annoyed. 

My man, she is screaming of how much of a loser he is and blaming him for all of her problems. This is basic abuse 101. At no point should you be in a situation where you’re unsure if this kind of behaviour is normal or not. It doesn’t matter what he had has done or not done at no point is someone screaming to you like a lunatic that you’re a loser.

It’s possible he robbed her of $1 million and cheated on her five times the night before. lol in that scenario, maybe we could justify her behaviour to some degree. Even then her behaviour is abnormal and beyond just what a normal woman would do or say in that situation..

Edited yesterday at 12:04 AM by integral

[Human Mint]

12 hours ago, integral said:

It’s possible he robbed her of $1 million and cheated on her five times the night before. lol in that scenario, maybe we could justify her behaviour to some degree. Even then her behaviour is abnormal and beyond just what a normal woman would do or say in that situation..

She wouldn't have the energy to yell in that case lol. This seems more like an upbringing problem to me.

[trenton]

The distinction between physical and emotional abuse isn't that clear. For example, punching me in the face could cause me to fear you thus abusing both physically and emotionally. It is a manipulation and control tactic.

In some cases emotional abuse can manifest as physical symptoms. For example after being repeatedly abused verbally and emotionally, it could create a situation where you are bottling up your emotions seems like the safest option. This can lead to muscle tightness, muscle spasms, and physical pain. There can also be various chemical reactions in your brain and body due to the fear and anger created. This is why I heard a psychologist argue that emotional violence in a sense is indirect physical violence. I'll let you decide if you agree or not.

In my case emotional abuse has complicated my medical treatment. I was prescribed an anti psychotic because I was ruminating on my family situation which made me want to kill myself along with antidepressants which consistently made me feel worse. The medication damaged my liver and didn't solve the problem anyway. I came to realize that the systems around medicine and therapy had failed me by giving me medicine that worsened my condition while therapists treated me as if my lack of coping skills was the problem. I was treated as if there was something wrong with me even though most of attachments were developed as a survival strategy for a challenging situation I was forced to endure. With the threat of continued abuse, no amount books, spirituality, personal development, pills, and coping skills would be enough to give me peace of mind. The answer is for me to get away from the people who refuse to change like my mother and sister. Suicide could be a trauma response to various forms of abuse.

My suicidal thoughts stopped when I learned My sister was moving out and I wouldn't have to live with her anymore. The threat of continuing to live with her impacted my decision to commute to college because I would be stuck in the same situation for 6 years of be forced to make an enormous financial sacrifice by living on campus or by spending my life savings on a down payment. Maybe I was spending all this time trying to fix myself, but I wasn't the problem. I also don't like the therapists who sent me back to live with these people due to my history of suicidal thoughts assuming my family would be helpful.

[M A J I]

Its an unfortunate way society sees things. Often males would be faulted for abusive relationships when it always takes two to tango.

For example, females can be extremely mentally and emotionally abusive, sharp tongues, toxic behavior, using their womanhood as an excuse to defend themselves against angry men knowing most men won't bite or hit back, even when women get physical, men will try to avoid it.

Eventually the anger builds up enough the male, often not being as mentally and emotionally sharp, uses his own strengths which are more physical in nature, and a slap or a push or pull of hair would be the reaction, and this short-burst of physical abuse is probably nowhere near the trauma from the mental and emotional abuse the female applied for weeks, months or even years, yet it is the reactionary result of the build-up of abuse coming out in a physical way, and then 9/10 times the male will get in trouble and could even serve some jail time, when its not entirely his fault.

I would often deal with this at school, girls would poke at me daily and bully me with words and even worse, eventually I would get angry and scream or push them, I even threw a bin at one girl, then all of a sudden there is a shock in the whole classroom, you can't hit a girl!, you cant do this, you cant do that, yet I did and I didn't really care, felt totally worth it and satisfying after the abuse they put me through, and they often never bothered me after that, but again I got in trouble, not them at all.

Then sometimes the boys would challenge me to a fight, not understanding my situation at all.

Sometimes this is also reversed, sometimes males can be mentally and emotionally abusive too, however more often then not its an unfair system.

Edited 5 hours ago by M A J I