I Need Urgent Help

[A Fellow Lighter]

My .. the girl I'm with is hinting at committing suicide if I leave her. What do I do?

[Hojo]

Make then say it then screen shot it.

[Raze]

Tell her to get ifs therapy 

[Leo Gura]

I've had that. It's tough but in the end you can't stay with her just because of that.

Try to comfort her. Usually it's an empty threat that will pass.

You have to assess how serious the threat is. 

Edited Monday at 10:58 PM by Leo Gura

[A Fellow Lighter]

7 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

It's tough but in the end you can't stay with her just because of that.

No I cannot.

7 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

You have to assess how serious the threat is. 

How do I do that exactly? How did you do it? And how were you certain of your assessment?

[A Fellow Lighter]

I'm angry that she's playing the suicide card with me. She's so selfish. Her selfishness is the reason I want to leave her in the first place. 

[Buck Edwards]

She is playing the suicide card. I had my ex do that to me that caused me to be with him twice. It caused me a lot of suffering. 

Don't fall for it. It's a huge red flag. 

When it's time to leave make it final. 

 

[shree]

8 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

 

10 hours ago, A Fellow Lighter said:

My .. the girl I'm with is hinting at committing suicide if I leave her. What do I do?

It's likely a trauma response caused by a fear of being abandoned. It might just be an empty threat, but it's still important to handle this carefully.
 

 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@A Fellow Lighter

I want to make it clear, with as much compassion as possible - you are not responsible for the actions she takes in her life.

Most people who want to commit suicide don't actually want to die - they just want to end their current circumstances. Usually due to frantic, overwhelming, distress & pain. They see no other solution but to self delete. There is always another solution.

I hope this knowledge releases you of some feelings of responsibility.

You sound entangled with this women.

We are each responsible only for our actions in life. We choose how to respond. No one else.

You can let someone like this down gently by making them realize you are not qualified to help.

Need a professional.

<3

[Candle]

On 12/24/2024 at 2:24 AM, A Fellow Lighter said:

My .. the girl I'm with is hinting at committing suicide if I leave her. What do I do?

Tell me her +ve and -ve points. List them. 

Seems like you are attached to her but also want to leave her. So if you want to leave her, lemme tell you that focus can ONLY be shifted, it can't be removed. 

You can't forget her, but you can get someone better than her or some better purpose, then you'll easily forget her. DON'T TRY to forget her. 

Make a clear cut decision whether you have to live with her or not. 100% yes or 100% no. 

On 12/24/2024 at 0:00 PM, A Fellow Lighter said:

How do I do that exactly? How did you do it? And how were you certain of your assessment?

See how depressed she is. How suicidal. See how she talks. It's not rocket science. Is she's a good person and genuinely needs help, help her. Show some empathy. You may try a relationships therapist. 

 

On 12/24/2024 at 0:02 PM, A Fellow Lighter said:

She's so selfish. Her selfishness is the reason I want to leave her in the first place. 

Everyone is selfish. Even when you say you love someone, you are actually selfish. 

But the point is how selfish someone is. There is a limit to selfishness. Everyone has the right to be selfish. Who wants a bad partner for themselves? 

Edited 13 hours ago by Candle