When do you know if keep it as Friends or Lovers?

[Juan]

12 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Let me put it like this if there is a hamburger or pizza to choose and lets say i want both,then im going to ask myself for what i want,someone who doesnt know himself is asking around about personal stuff to choose.So you dont really know yourself because the whole way you learned yourself is from outside not yourself.

Since you don’t care having women as a friend well of course you can’t empathize. Idk why many men think that way but whatever, I consider them stiff and unable to flow better in life. What I ask is a simple thing, when to keep it as friends or lovers (looking at my circumstances), of course you’ll always choose lovers, then tell me that I don’t know myself and all that talk.

[NoSelfSelf]

38 minutes ago, Juan said:

Since you don’t care having women as a friend well of course you can’t empathize. Idk why many men think that way but whatever, I consider them stiff and unable to flow better in life. What I ask is a simple thing, when to keep it as friends or lovers (looking at my circumstances), of course you’ll always choose lovers, then tell me that I don’t know myself and all that talk.

I always go way beyond the surface of whats going on, so if you know yourself great do whatever you want if you dont find my insight helpful just do whatever i dont care at the end of the day.

[Juan]

16 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

I always go way beyond the surface of whats going on, so if you know yourself great do whatever you want if you dont find my insight helpful just do whatever i dont care at the end of the day.

What insight? “Bro you don’t know yourself” Wow!!! I wonder how you became a mod. 

[NoSelfSelf]

1 minute ago, Juan said:

What insight? “Bro you don’t know yourself” Wow!!! I wonder how you became a mod. 

I dont get why you so emotional i gave you an insight that flew over your head.

 

[Sugarcoat]

Since you live in pr doesn’t that mean it would eventually turn into a long distance relationship? So you gotta think if you’re down for that

[Juan]

50 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Since you live in pr doesn’t that mean it would eventually turn into a long distance relationship? So you gotta think if you’re down for that

Sure, but as I wrote I’d be in the US some time, I could be some months with this person.

[Sugarcoat]

27 minutes ago, Juan said:

Sure, but as I wrote I’d be in the US some time, I could be some months with this person.

Yea but I meant later when you eventually move back. A few months isn’t long for a relationship 

[Juan]

7 hours ago, Sugarcoat said:

Yea but I meant later when you eventually move back. A few months isn’t long for a relationship 

Yea true…I have to contemplate it. As for now I plan to stay in NY working with a friend, so I can be even till 2026 or more, will see, thank you tho.

[Sugarcoat]

1 hour ago, Juan said:

Yea true…I have to contemplate it. As for now I plan to stay in NY working with a friend, so I can be even till 2026 or more, will see, thank you tho.

Yea it’s something to think about. If you really like her maybe it’s worth to move there in case of relationship

[Juan]

@Lucasxp64 Thank you for your analysis and experience! It means a lot! As for now we’ll keep it as friends, it makes no sense to have a serious long distance relationship with someone I haven’t meet on person. We made an agreement that we could switch to couple once we meet but idk, I like her so much as a friend too, I see each other collaborating on art projects, I’m not sure I would want to lose that, time will tell.