What Is The Real Treat Of Neediness?

[kardo]

Neediness happened too much time and i know it's a bullshit and try to make criticize my personality. What should i do to be free from this bad feeling ?

Thanks.  

[Kostas]

Neediness is a result of dissatisfaction and lack of fulfillment in your life. Take a closer look in your lifestyle in order to find flaws and eliminate them. Find your life passion, redesign your daily routine, eliminate any addictions you have and replace them with good habits such as meditation, fitness ,eating healthy and studying self-help material.Deal with self-esteem and confidence issues as well as all your neuroses.Be aware of your thoughts and how they affect your psychological state and behaviors throughout the day.Instead of criticizing yourself endlessly, just accept who you are, acquire a growth mindset and set attainable goals that will make you grow if you achieve them. Taking such action will improve you in a way that you will no longer need anything or anyone to fill that void or emptiness inside you, meaning you will be an independent,complete,happy individual. 

[Dan Arnautu]

@kardo Neediness is a consequent feeling from not having abundance in your life.

If you would have 5 girls to choose from, you would not act needy or be needy. Rather you would be in a position of power to choose.

Same for money, love and everything else.

[Telepresent]

I find that it is important to consider what you are needy of.  We tend to talk of 'neediness', or 'helplessness', or 'strength', or 'power', or 'trust', or 'fear', or 'closeness', or 'love', or whatever else, as though they are OBJECTIVE things.  Like they have a substantial existence outside of circumstance.  They aren't and they don't.

So the first thing you need to do is ask "in what place and in what way am I needy?"

Now, the answer may well feel like "in every place and in every way".  And that's ok.  You're already exploring and asking which means you suspect it doesn't have to be every place and every way, so keep doing that.  I'd recommend writing dialogues to yourself exploring what you think neediness means, while at the same time discovering videos, books, articles, blogs, vlogs, audiobooks, TED talks, etc., which are based around this and related issues; such as shame, or guilt. 

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On 05/05/2017 at 0:33 PM, kardo said:

know it's a bullshit and try to make criticize my personality. What should i do to be free from this bad feeling ?

and as much as anyone might say "the answer is XYZ", the answer is unique to you.  If you want to flip a switch and be rid of this feeling, I have bad news for you: that's not how it works.  And I'm writing this as someone who is in the midst of a breakdown and writing this as a way of avoiding confronting my own problems (and grinning like an idiot as I confess that).  There is no correct route, path, or technique.  Only you know.  You feel it.  You know what is right for now, but if I can offer some advice I would say save everything, because sometimes in places like this you encounter something which you are not ready for, but a year later is exactly what you need.

Explore what the world has to say, and compare it against yourself