The painful reality of beautiful women 😔

[Princess Arabia]

4 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Men sleep with the most beautiful women. Which is why women are obsessed with beauty.

This isn't rocket science.

Don't kid yourself. Women aren't going around obsessed with beauty for men to sleep with them. The most beautiful women aren't the sex-crazed ones. It's the fat ugly ones who aren't getting much attention usually, but not always. We're obsessed with beauty because we like to look good. We feel attractive and it makes for a more confident woman overall and it does have it's perks. Men are sleeping with any woman willing. Men love to sleep with the beautiful women, but not all men have access to beautiful women. Some men are fine with an average looking woman too. A beautiful woman is very valuable in society. It is what it is. But don't get it twisted they're not enhancing their beauty thinking to themselves I want to sleep with more men. Matter of fact they're not even thinking about sex that much sex just happens. I'm not talking about women in relationships, just in general.

[Sugarcoat]

3 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Don't kid yourself. Women aren't going around obsessed with beauty for men to sleep with them. The most beautiful women aren't the sex-crazed ones. It's the fat ugly ones who aren't getting much attention usually, but not always. We're obsessed with beauty because we like to look good. We feel attractive and it makes for a more confident woman overall and it does have it's perks. Men are sleeping with any woman willing. Men love to sleep with the beautiful women, but not all men have access to beautiful women. Some men are fine with an average looking woman too. A beautiful woman is very valuable in society. It is what it is. But don't get it twisted they're not enhancing their beauty thinking to themselves I want to sleep with more men. Matter of fact they're not even thinking about sex that much sex just happens. I'm not talking about women in relationships, just in general.

I was also thinking of  commenting on that but I think you said enough. Women like to look good in general it’s so deeply engrained in us and our self image it goes beyond men and sex

Edited December 30, 2024 by Sugarcoat

[Princess Arabia]

12 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

I was also thinking of  commenting on that but I think you said enough. Women like to look good in general it’s so deeply engrained in us and our self image it goes beyond men and sex

Some men just can't get that beauty for a woman can be a commodity. It can get her far in more ways than one. Sex ain't even in the picture just for sex's sake. She might use it or her sex appeal, but it's not for the purpose of having more sex or so more men will want to sleep with them. Women aren't going around putting on make-up for more sex. It's so ridiculous sounding even when I'm saying it. Even if a woman wants men attention, doesn't mean sex, it might just be to make her feel beautiful. That's why so many men will say women are a tease because in their minds their thinking sex and in her mind she's thinking attention or to feel feminine or whatever else other than just having sex.  

Also, which is the main reason, it's just a feminine thing. This is why old women will do it, married women and lesbians. None of these groups are putting on make up to try and allure men its just a female thing to do.

Edited December 31, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[Sugarcoat]

9 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Some men just can't get that beauty for a woman can be a commodity. It can get her far in more ways than one. Sex ain't even in the picture just for sex's sake. She might use it or her sex appeal, but it's not for the purpose of having more sex or so more men will want to sleep with them. Women aren't going around putting on make-up for more sex. It's so ridiculous sounding even when I'm saying it. Even if a woman wants men attention, doesn't mean sex, it might just be to make her feel beautiful. That's why so many men will say women are a tease because in their minds they’re thinking sex and in her mind she's thinking attention or to feel feminine or whatever else other than just having sex.  

Yea

Edited December 31, 2024 by Sugarcoat

[Leo Gura]

20 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Women aren't going around obsessed with beauty for men to sleep with them.

Don't kid yourself. Women are obessed with beauty to make themselves feel secure. Which is all about getting the best men. This isn't some cutesy game. This is pure survival.

Edited December 31, 2024 by Leo Gura

[NewKidOnTheBlock]

@Leo Gura But part of what they're saying really is true, in a certain way, they really don't care at all what men think about it. Paradoxically they also do care about it. But they're really not making this up, women are simply narcisists. Like, they genuinely don't care especially what unnatractive men have to say about them

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

Don't kid yourself. Women are obessed with beauty to make themselves feel secure. Which is all about getting the best men.

I don't have to kid myself, I'm a female and I'm aware of the reasons why I do what I do. 

I guess all the Hollywood celebs who are taking hours and hours to put on their make-up are looking to get the best men, even the married ones. I guess the women in nightclubs who took 5mins to put on their make-up to go out are obsessed and looking for the best men. I guess Oprah is looking for the best man. She takes hours to put on her make up. 

I guess the model who has to keep her looks, is obsessed about getting the best men. It's not all about men with us as it is with you guys. My mother cared about how she looked at her age and she wasn't trying to get the best men. Once I took care of a 90yr old woman who would go to the hair dresser once a week and put on make up just to go to the grocery store and she wasn't looking to get the best men.

[AION]

1 hour ago, Davino said:

LMAO

I would fight you for saying that

On the other hand, there is a profound connection between consciousness work, self development and martial arts. They really synergize

Winning a battle is like the best sex you had multiplied by 3. You will feel alive as never before. 

Fighting is actually very spiritual because spirituality is warfare by its nature.

Spiritual warfare is the path made by God for a higher self.

 

[Princess Arabia]

@Leo GuraI'm not saying in certain instances, what you're saying isn't true, but it's not like it's the reason for the invention of make-up or why women are obsessed with how they look. Men are the ones obsessed with beauty, so is society, and yes, women like to look their best when attracting men; but it's not on a general scale. It's personalized for the specific woman and her likes and goals and what she's trying to accomplish. Some women just love to look beautiful, not necessarily for alluring men.

Edited December 31, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[Leo Gura]

6 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

I'm a female and I'm aware of the reasons why I do what I do. 

Lolz

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Leo Gura said:

Lolz

You're right. Lol. I don't sometimes, but I do now mostly that I'm more conscious and aware. I was more referring to the fact that I'm aware of how most women think because I'm a woman and have been around women who talk about this stuff. You're right though, most people don't know why they do what they do, including myself but I'm more conscious of my actions and intentions the older I get.

[Leo Gura]

@Princess Arabia Why is it okay for a man to be bald but not a woman? Have you thought about that?

How come girls on Instagram are killing themselves for not being beautiful enough?

Grist for your contemplation mill.

Edited December 31, 2024 by Leo Gura

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

@Princess Arabia Why is it okay for a man to be bald but not a woman? Have you thought about that?

How come girls on Instagram are killing themselves for not being beautiful enough?

Grist for your contemplation mill.

That's those girls. Like I said, not saying what you're saying doesn't happen or apply to some women but it's more than just because men love beautiful women why women are obsessed with beauty. Those girls aren't killing themselves because men aren't sleeping with them either. It has nothing to do with men but more of their own self-image. 

Plenty of women with low-cut (almost bald but just as low-cut as men are very beautiful and are attracting lots of men. They have to have the head for it and a naturally pretty face for that cut to work, but it does for some women. 

Sinead O'connor was bald, as are some top models.

[Princess Arabia]

9 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Why is it okay for a man to be bald but not a woman?

 

Edited December 31, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[Leo Gura]

15 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

That's those girls. Like I said, not saying what you're saying doesn't happen or apply to some women but it's more than just because men love beautiful women why women are obsessed with beauty. Those girls aren't killing themselves because men aren't sleeping with them either. It has nothing to do with men but more of their own self-image. 

Plenty of women with low-cut (almost bald but just as low-cut as men are very beautiful and are attracting lots of men. They have to have the head for it and a naturally pretty face for that cut to work, but it does for some women. 

Sinead O'connor was bald, as are some top models.

You haven't taken what I said seriously enough.

When you grasp for shallow answers your mind will happily supply them to you.

Edited December 31, 2024 by Leo Gura

[Quader]

@AION These battles are games imbued with a violence and lust that could be similarly found in any highly engaging contest that you enjoy. Violence is just one type of emotion, and it is certainly not all you've cracked it up to be. You get to choose what you attribute spirit to, very rarely is that a catch all classic game of war. Unless if you're that kind of person, and you can bring out the divinity within it if you like. But make no mistake, it's a dead end friend

It's one thing to find enjoyment in a hobby but then another to claim that being able to sudo chop someone in a contest is a core tenant in spirituality. 

 

Edited December 31, 2024 by Quader

[Princess Arabia]

14 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

You haven't taken what I said seriously enough.

When you grasp for shallow answers your mind will happily supply them to you.

You're too stubborn to see others' pov. 

There's nothing to take seriously in this context other than a woman's identity means more to her other just trying to seduce men. You said men love to have sex with beautiful women and that's why they're obsessed with beauty. I'm responding to that. Beautiful women aren't obsessed with beauty, if they are already beautiful. Men are. Beautiful women just want to maintain their beauty and hold unto it for as long as they can for beauty's sake. There is such a thing as pretty privilege also and it's not that they're happy to get more men to sleep with but for getting privileges. Getting more men to sleep with is not a privilege for beautiful women.

Edited December 31, 2024 by Princess Arabia

[Quader]

@Princess Arabia This isn't about woman's desire for sex or beauty. It's about the feeling like you deserve (are potentially worthy of) the best man in the world in a real relationship. The issue is the entanglement with outward appearance and what's under the surface, the quality of character. Men don't really want to be with beautiful woman they want meaning in a relationship outside of those basic bounds. If woman think that quality men want beautiful women, there is a bit of a misunderstanding. These things are so fleeting and hollow they will rot when the sex dries out. 

The bottom line for a woman to be attractive physically is quite low and doesn't require 10/10 thot genetics. But in our world today we scroll through 1000s of the top 0.01% of people living their best most attractive lives (digitally altered too, not even authentic per se). So woman who genuinely (including the beauty component) have lots to offer high quality men might wind up thinking that it could be hopeless or something, they'll never be good enough. Men irl didn't even try that, it's just money sucking attention grabbing emotional manipulating social media companies. 

You already know about all about this. But ultimately people play this game because it's the most basic and fundamental one there is. To acquire security, safety and as a consequence a long and prosperous life. Nothing else matters to most people. If you can't generalize you will always find counter examples. You are finding a niche counter example and writing off the whole thing as not the way things necessarily could be. How can you define man and woman in any capacity that which is unconquerable by some alternate examples/explanations? 

A woman's (and man's) self image includes the image of what they think someone else thinks of them. If a woman did not care about anyone else, what about that makes them a woman besides their sex? For a man, caring about nothing else but their survival could include a woman. But if a woman cares about no one else would they include a man to be with? What would be the point? Oh yeah, sex. 

And when I talk about care I refer to that capacity to give care, not to feel caring (there's two forms, one is feeling the other is doing). 

Edited December 31, 2024 by Quader
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[Buck Edwards]

10 hours ago, ricachica said:

I agree. I actually found it more attractive when my boyfriend backed off from a group of dudes trying to instigate with us while passing by in narrow alley downtown… I would have been so pissed at him and stressed out if he escalated in that situation.

Yea totally relate to it. 

[Candle]

10 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Why is it okay for a man to be bald but not a woman? Have you thought about that?

How come girls on Instagram are killing themselves for not being beautiful enough?

Grist for your contemplation mill.

If there were no humans on the planet but one woman, she wouldn't care about her beauty. If no one were watching, she wouldn't wear any makeup. She would just look normal... Neither ugly, nor beautiful.)

It's a cleverly designed society.

Women were made to wear short, revealing clothes and show cleavage. They were made to wear jewelery and makeup and dance in front of a male crowd. And now these are so deep rooted in our cultural DNA that women are unaware of it. They deny that they do these things for attracting men. 

But either directly or indirectly, this cultural conditioning has influenced what they do.

Women want to attract men, that's why they want to look beautiful. It's all about survival. 

Men also do the same. But not as much as women do. Men have different values than women. While women value beauty more, men may value action/martial arts/courage/power more. (Sometimes exceptions are also there.)

Everyone wants to attract the opposite sex and does whatever appeals to them. 

I don't see any of this as bad, I'm just writing what seems true to me. 

Of course, self esteem factor is also there. Wearing good attire and being beautiful boosts our self esteem and motivation in life, and wearing ugly clothes will degrade our self esteem for sure. That's a different matter. (Looking professional and looking hot/sexy are different things.). Looking sexy is important for survival of mankind. 

Edited December 31, 2024 by Candle