If online dating is only for good looking ppl, why is it the dominant method today?

[MarkKol]

For Gen Z and beyond, the most popular way of meeting sexual/romantic partners is through dating apps, over 50% of romantic partners meet this way according to modern statistics for 2020-2024. 

Cold approach is so impractical in some countries like mine that there's no city to do it in

Any opinions?

Edited Saturday at 12:19 AM by MarkKol

[Someone here]

35 minutes ago, MarkKol said:

Cold approach is so impractical in some countries like mine that there's no city to do it in

Your profile says you're in Croatia . Weird .if I managed to bang a Norwegian girl in India where people from the opposite sex only date in rearranged marriage..then surely you can do it in Europe.  Is there a possibility to move a larger city in Croatia where  there is decent night life ?

About dating apps . Of course they work perfectly. Who told you they don't ? Most people meet each others online these days . Even for making friends and socializing. 

Edited Saturday at 12:52 AM by Someone here

[NoSelfSelf]

This queastion is the reason why you will be another statictic, because you define yourself by the average.

[Kid A]

Because all the other methods are highly ineffective, especially if you live in a country where cold approaching is against the social norms, like I do.

I’ve been really social for the last four years, and I have a pretty large social circle. During this period, I think there’s only been one party where there were a lot of women. Also, if you're socially awkward, your female friends may not be too keen on hooking you up with one of their friends, as it can negatively affect their popularity or reputation, which is every woman's nightmare.

If you’ve chosen the right study or work, that can at least give you a lot of options, but hitting on a co-worker or fellow student? Risky business, especially if your social skills are bad. I have the worst experiences here!

[Sugarcoat]

16 hours ago, MarkKol said:

Cold approach is so impractical in some countries like mine that there's no city to do it in

What stops you from doing cold approach in a city if you want to?

 

Edited Saturday at 04:19 PM by Sugarcoat

[Sugarcoat]

16 hours ago, MarkKol said:

For Gen Z and beyond, the most popular way of meeting sexual/romantic partners is through dating apps, over 50% of romantic partners meet this way according to modern statistics for 2020-2024. 

So dating apps are very looks based. But there’s always people at every level of looks to match one’s own level, so below average people can still get matches. Also who knows but basically around 50% of the population is above average in looks by definition so maybe they are dominating in the statistics 

[NoSelfSelf]

What an excuse there is no city to do it in,i guess there are 2 countries called Croatia.One that where you talk to a woman snipers shoot on sight, other where there are women literally every 10 steps.

Mind literally compensate for lack of game to look somewhere else with usually"im too short"  "she will leave you for guy with magical powers" "i dont have billion dollars to satisfy her"

And biggest one yet there is no city, i guess bigger one will be there is no floor to walk on, so i cant approach her without a flying car, coming up 2035.

[Someone here]

@NoSelfSelf man why say that ? Try to help people instead of making fun of them all the time .

Edited Saturday at 06:17 PM by Someone here

[NoSelfSelf]

30 minutes ago, Someone here said:

@NoSelfSelf man why say that ? Try to help people instead of making fun of them all the time .

I am but you are busy being distracted by my cyinical/"dark" humor that i always give insights beneath it all.

Im not making fun of a person, im attacking the dishonesty if someone came and said im scared to talk to women and i dont know how, then there will be no cynicism.

If its triggering and one doesnt see the value ill delete them, if that makes them feel better and stay where they are at.

Edited Saturday at 06:48 PM by NoSelfSelf

[Kid A]

18 hours ago, MarkKol said:

Cold approach is so impractical in some countries like mine that there's no city to do it in

This may be a stupid question, but you have tried Zagreb, right?

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

What an excuse there is no city to do it in,i guess there are 2 countries called Croatia.One that where you talk to a woman snipers shoot on sight, other where there are women literally every 10 steps.

Mind literally compensate for lack of game to look somewhere else with usually"im too short"  "she will leave you for guy with magical powers" "i dont have billion dollars to satisfy her"

And biggest one yet there is no city, i guess bigger one will be there is no floor to walk on, so i cant approach her without a flying car, coming up 2035.

Lol

[BlueOak]

1 hour ago, NoSelfSelf said:

I am but you are busy being distracted by my cyinical/"dark" humor that i always give insights beneath it all.

Im not making fun of a person, im attacking the dishonesty if someone came and said im scared to talk to women and i dont know how, then there will be no cynicism.

If its triggering and one doesnt see the value ill delete them, if that makes them feel better and stay where they are at.

Some people live in the middle of nowhere.

Its is objectively harder to meet women in person in a rural area, especially where transport is limited. I know, i've done it. i remember as a kid, when a single girl moved into our village she usually got swarmed with teenage boys and had a boyfriend by the end of the week. Its also why most of my relationships were distance.

Meeting women in a city is easy by comparison of my time in them.

Edited Saturday at 07:45 PM by BlueOak

[Princess Arabia]

The same people walking the streets are the same people on dating sites. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Unless you are really, really, really, really ugly, then you might not stand a chance. This is why men do the approaching. Women can up their looks with make-up and hair. Learn game and doesn't matter, men can still attract no matter what they look like. Women on the other hand, usually have to look good and that's not hard for most women and men love variety. You'd be surprised at what some men find attractive. I've seen them give up the beautiful girl for the short chubby one. That short chubby girl was killing it because inside it wasn't a detrrrent.

[NoSelfSelf]

11 minutes ago, BlueOak said:

Some people live in the middle of nowhere.

Its is objectively harder to meet women in person in a rural area, especially where transport is limited. I know, i've done it. i remember as a kid, when a single girl moved into our village she usually got swarmed with teenage boys and had a boyfriend by the end of the week. Its also why most of my relationships were distance.

Meeting women in a city is easy by comparison of my time in them.

Okay i get it but also even if you are in the village,desert or mars who you are does it change?

Does it matter if she has lines of guys if she has a boyfriend this is all defeatist mindsets.

This is first problem that needs to be adressed location is easier to change.

Are you the guy shes gonna pick from everyone or if she doesnt why do you care?

 

 

[MarkKol]

11 hours ago, Kid A said:

During this period, I think there’s only been one party where there were a lot of women.

Why would you go to parties and clubs?

Loud & overcrowded places are so suboptimal for attraction.

Normal bars, pastry shops with seating, fast food restaurants, and coffee shops are where women would actually see and hear you talking, It's where women actually hang out.

3 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

What an excuse there is no city to do it in,i guess there are 2 countries called Croatia.One that where you talk to a woman snipers shoot on sight, other where there are women literally every 10 steps.

Mind literally compensate for lack of game to look somewhere else with usually"im too short"  "she will leave you for guy with magical powers" "i dont have billion dollars to satisfy her"

And biggest one yet there is no city, i guess bigger one will be there is no floor to walk on, so i cant approach her without a flying car, coming up 2035.

Brah, say something practical

1 hour ago, Kid A said:

This may be a stupid question, but you have tried Zagreb, right?

I've never cold approached In Croatia, It seems highly ineffective to approach hundreds of girls and only get 1 to sleep with you.

mind you, I'm not a virgin, I got laid 3 times in the last 2 years. It's just always been through some girl seeing me at a bar and deciding she likes me because I seem funny or something, but I've hit a wall, a lonely wall, and I'm really horny  every time I got a girl to sleep with me I didn't know how I did it, and I can't recreate it consciously.

1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said:

I've seen them give up the beautiful girl for the short chubby one. That short chubby girl was killing it because inside it wasn't a detrrrent.

I can tell you I don't like girls who get overly dressed up and beautified, some women just like to dress up for a wedding even though they're going to work, I like casual girls, Nike sneakers, slightly dirty maybe, thrasher hoodie, something like that. But I digress.

[BlueOak]

57 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Okay i get it but also even if you are in the village,desert or mars who you are does it change?

Does it matter if she has lines of guys if she has a boyfriend this is all defeatist mindsets.

This is first problem that needs to be adressed location is easier to change.

Are you the guy shes gonna pick from everyone or if she doesnt why do you care?

 

 

Its about numbers.

If you walk around in a city you see more women.
If you work in customer service you meet more women.
If you work outside or travel around more in your job you meet more women.

All it usually is about is meeting plenty of women and talking to them.

In a rural area this means you meet less people. I have direct experience of both types of locations as well as working in customer service vs a factory or small office for example.

I don't buy that anyone in life can't find a woman, its just meeting enough of them.
 

[NoSelfSelf]

7 minutes ago, BlueOak said:

Its about numbers.

If you walk around in a city you see more women.
If you work in customer service you meet more women.
If you work outside or travel around more in your job you meet more women.

All it usually is about is meeting plenty of women and talking to them.

In a rural area this means you meet less people. I have direct experience of both types of locations as well as working in customer service vs a factory or small office for example.

I don't buy that anyone in life can't find a woman, its just meeting enough of them.
 

Its numbers to a degree, because yeah everyone can find someone but will it be on your terms or her's ? It is whats matters the most.

Edited Saturday at 09:13 PM by NoSelfSelf

[NoSelfSelf]

@MarkKol what practical? you cant even go talk to a woman so why would i go there.Need to fix your mindset first;but now its like looking to fix something that thinks its perfectly fine,since it has all this stories of how things are.

You are not coachable since you know everything.

Edited Saturday at 09:17 PM by NoSelfSelf

[Recursoinominado]

Because cold approaching in person is terrifying. 

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, MarkKol said:

I can tell you I don't like girls who get overly dressed up and beautified, some women just like to dress up for a wedding even though they're going to work, I like casual girls, Nike sneakers, slightly dirty maybe, thrasher hoodie, something like that.

The word wedding is a bit much, but yeah, some guys prefer that. I was mostly referring to the looks and not how they dress. If it's one thing guys can detect and that is who is more apt to satisfy their needs. Meaning, if a guy likes dirty sex, or somethings more risque, he usually knows what to fish for. Guys have a radar for this. That's why they really don't have to know you to be attracted, when they see you, they are already scoping and visualizing and can tell if that female is their type. Most times, anyway, as nothing is full proof and 100%. 

As far as your topic goes, the most beautiful person could still get views and compliments, but not necessarily picked. It all depends on where somebody is at mentally and in their lives. If you were a millionaire your taste in women would change. The most beautiful person could scare off an average person, or seem snobbish, or seem high-maintenance, amongst other reasons. I've seen enough to realize that people will see you according to how they see themselves or are attracted because of something within them and not the person they're attracted to. Stop paying so much attention to the outside world, it is very misleading, states of consciousness is more accurate when it comes to your outcomes in life.