I Slept With 100 Men in One Day | Jesus xd

[aurum]

8 hours ago, RendHeaven said:

The claim is:

"You can only be bitter about a [woman's sexuality] if it threatens you."

Threat is a core mechanic of shame. You can replace "women's sexuality" in brackets with anything you wish. This is infinitely profound and true.

Your dismissal is disappointing. I have nothing to do with PUA.

But how are you defining “threatening”?

If by threatening you mean “women don’t sleep with me”, which is what you said previously, that is wrong.

I apologize if I jumped the gun, but your explanation still is lacking.

[RendHeaven]

8 hours ago, aurum said:

But how are you defining “threatening”?

If by threatening you mean “women don’t sleep with me”, which is what you said previously, that is wrong.

I apologize if I jumped the gun, but your explanation still is lacking.

I mean threat in every possible dimension. It's a very broad net but it has perfect explanatory power.

Some aspects of threat are so subtle that they bypass the radar of conscious thought. Oftentimes various seemingly-disparate threat sensations coexist in multilayered fashion. But at root, there is always unintegrated aspect of Self knocking on the door, and the ego has to shut it out in an emotionally charged way to maintain its walls.

When I originally wrote "not invited to the party," of course that applies to men that can't get sex, but it also applies to men that can get sex. And it also applies to women, and all group dynamics. This explains everything.

For example a woman who slut-shames her female friend is "not invited to the party" in the sense that there is an aspect of reality that she has rejected (unleashed feminine desire), and seeing another woman embodying this possibility space makes her bitter about female sexuality, yes - her OWN sexuality - since it is directly threatening her identity, attachments, ideology, communal values, epistemology, and energy holding patterns)

Let me know what I'm missing!

[Emerald]

20 hours ago, RendHeaven said:

I mean threat in every possible dimension. It's a very broad net but it has perfect explanatory power.

Some aspects of threat are so subtle that they bypass the radar of conscious thought. Oftentimes various seemingly-disparate threat sensations coexist in multilayered fashion. But at root, there is always unintegrated aspect of Self knocking on the door, and the ego has to shut it out in an emotionally charged way to maintain its walls.

When I originally wrote "not invited to the party," of course that applies to men that can't get sex, but it also applies to men that can get sex. And it also applies to women, and all group dynamics. This explains everything.

For example a woman who slut-shames her female friend is "not invited to the party" in the sense that there is an aspect of reality that she has rejected (unleashed feminine desire), and seeing another woman embodying this possibility space makes her bitter about female sexuality, yes - her OWN sexuality - since it is directly threatening her identity, attachments, ideology, communal values, epistemology, and energy holding patterns)

Let me know what I'm missing!

I do mostly agree with what you're saying. There's also a control element there. But it is mostly shame and jealousy that someone is realizing a potential that's being repressed.

That said... there can also be Stage Blue and below societal dynamics that are punishing of the extended family of a woman who is labeled as a slut.

So, this is also a potential reason for slut shaming. I once coached a guy from Saudi Arabia with quite progressive values. But his older brothers were more conservative and religious... and beat his 18 year old sister for texting with a guy on Instagram.  And he tried to stop them and to mediate the situation so his sister wasn't in such a disempowered state.

But if it got out that his sister was texting a guy, his whole entire extended family would lose status and have a harder time surviving if his younger sister got a reputation as a slut. So, even though I think his brothers' actions are horrible, I can understand why there's such a strong reaction as there are major wide-reaching social consequences.

He explained to me that it would cost career opportunities, arranged marriage opportunities, and other life opportunities for everyone in the family... including grandparents, parents, siblings, nieces, nephews, cousins, etc. if there was a slut in the family.

But that's very regionally specific (and era specific though some places have kept the old ways despite technology progressing)... and is an adaptation of Stage Blue agrarian patriarchal farming communities to tightly control female sexuality so that land and property can pass from father to son without illegitimate heirs inheriting the property in a time where there were no paternity tests.

Overall, I agree with you that slut-shaming tends to come mostly from people who have shame about their own sexual desires. And women who sleep with a bunch of men tend to be common scapegoats for people who deal with sexual repression.

It's a bit like that scene in the Disney version of Hunchback of Notre Dame where Claude Frollo identifies so strongly with piety and chastity that he can't accept the fact that he feels sexual desire for Esmeralda. 

And so, he starts projecting blame onto her for his own repressed sexual desires and accusing her of being a witch... and saying "She will belong to me or burn as a witch."

 

[Princess Arabia]

35 minutes ago, Emerald said:

And so, he starts projecting blame onto her for his own repressed sexual desires and accusing her of being a witch...

I just quoted this one part...but, yeah, I've had guys in my field trying to call me out because I didn't agree to do some shit they wanted me to do. They knew what I did, called me, and i refused, then they tried to call me all sorts of names and try to belittle me. lol. I shut him up so quick, he didn't even get past first base. That's why I learnt to get so thick-skinned because I've been there and it's usually the one's who would love to but can't for some reason or another. Not just with me, but I've seen countless times how guys will call hot girls names and say how "they ain't all that" only because they're out of their league and they know they wouldn't give them the time of day. Big boobs and blonde hair females get this a lot. 

[gambler]

The copium in here is crazy.

Where you have conservatives who are brain-dead and think people can't be born attracted to the same-sex, you have liberals who think people are motivated by bitterness over their own sexuality when it comes to disgust towards human behavior that is so anomalous, non-relatable and carnal. Oh brother. I guess our collective disgust towards pedophilia, bestiality, incest is all bitterness and sexual repression too. Puh-lease. What an underwhelming echo chamber.

They need to hurry up and make apps on our cellphones that can change our genes in real-time. I want to see the reaction of liberals when they click on the option to experience being biologically conservative. A lot of your pet theories will be gone in no time.

Edited yesterday at 01:39 AM by gambler

[Emerald]

30 minutes ago, gambler said:

 you have liberals who think people are motivated by bitterness over their own sexuality when it comes to disgust towards human behavior that is so anomalous, non-relatable and carnal. 

The lady with the 100 men a day is certainly anomalous but ultimately banal... as is all porn.

So, I can understand people being disgusted by it in the same way that I might feel disgusted by people over-eating a bunch of food as a spectacle... but to me it's just "meh... bound to be someone out there that sleeps with 100 men a day. It's a little yucky to me, but to each his own.'

It's no surprise that someone exists who is doing it, and I don't understand the reactions of sheer terror from a few people on here.

But when it comes to run-of-the mill slut shaming there's usually some kind of bitterness and jealousy and projection behind it.

Like I experienced the vast majority of the slut-shaming I ever experienced in my life prior to age 16 when I was still a virgin. I was just pretty popular in my social group and had a lot of guy friends and had a naturally bubbly personality back then. And there was TONS of projection, jealousy, and bitterness from male and female peers.

And then, after about a year of middle school slut shaming I became a lot less bubbly and more reserved... and I would engage in slut shaming too towards other female peers because I'd internalized a lot of shame about my own sexuality and body that I was then projecting onto other girls. It took me until my mid 20s or so to really work through those issues.

So yes... slut shaming is largely about projecting repressed sexuality onto others... and (deep down) feeling jealous towards people who are less impeded in their sexual expressions.

[Emerald]

1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said:

I just quoted this one part...but, yeah, I've had guys in my field trying to call me out because I didn't agree to do some shit they wanted me to do. They knew what I did, called me, and i refused, then they tried to call me all sorts of names and try to belittle me. lol. I shut him up so quick, he didn't even get past first base. That's why I learnt to get so thick-skinned because I've been there and it's usually the one's who would love to but can't for some reason or another. Not just with me, but I've seen countless times how guys will call hot girls names and say how "they ain't all that" only because they're out of their league and they know they wouldn't give them the time of day. Big boobs and blonde hair females get this a lot. 

There's definitely a lot of insecurity behind that kind of reaction.

They try to diminish because they feel inferior to women they're attracted to. So, they try to make the woman feel inferior to lessen the sting of rejection.

Like... "You're not rejecting me! I'm rejecting you!"

[Princess Arabia]

4 minutes ago, Emerald said:

There's definitely a lot of insecurity behind that kind of reaction.

They try to diminish because they feel inferior to women they're attracted to. So, they try to make the woman feel inferior to lessen the sting of rejection.

Like... "You're not rejecting me! I'm rejecting you!"

Yep, exactly. 

[RendHeaven]

13 hours ago, Emerald said:

I do mostly agree with what you're saying. There's also a control element there. But it is mostly shame and jealousy that someone is realizing a potential that's being repressed.

That said... there can also be Stage Blue and below societal dynamics that are punishing of the extended family of a woman who is labeled as a slut.

So, this is also a potential reason for slut shaming. I once coached a guy from Saudi Arabia with quite progressive values. But his older brothers were more conservative and religious... and beat his 18 year old sister for texting with a guy on Instagram.  And he tried to stop them and to mediate the situation so his sister wasn't in such a disempowered state.

But if it got out that his sister was texting a guy, his whole entire extended family would lose status and have a harder time surviving if his younger sister got a reputation as a slut. So, even though I think his brothers' actions are horrible, I can understand why there's such a strong reaction as there are major wide-reaching social consequences.

He explained to me that it would cost career opportunities, arranged marriage opportunities, and other life opportunities for everyone in the family... including grandparents, parents, siblings, nieces, nephews, cousins, etc. if there was a slut in the family.

But that's very regionally specific (and era specific though some places have kept the old ways despite technology progressing)... and is an adaptation of Stage Blue agrarian patriarchal farming communities to tightly control female sexuality so that land and property can pass from father to son without illegitimate heirs inheriting the property in a time where there were no paternity tests.

Overall, I agree with you that slut-shaming tends to come mostly from people who have shame about their own sexual desires. And women who sleep with a bunch of men tend to be common scapegoats for people who deal with sexual repression.

It's a bit like that scene in the Disney version of Hunchback of Notre Dame where Claude Frollo identifies so strongly with piety and chastity that he can't accept the fact that he feels sexual desire for Esmeralda. 

And so, he starts projecting blame onto her for his own repressed sexual desires and accusing her of being a witch... and saying "She will belong to me or burn as a witch."

 

Great follow up. Funny enough, that's my favorite villain song in all of Disney

[RendHeaven]

12 hours ago, gambler said:

I guess our collective disgust towards pedophilia, bestiality, incest is all bitterness and sexual repression too. Puh-lease.

Yes, actually.

Your snobby tone is just a lack of adequate contemplation around these topics.

You're very emotional about who has sex with who.

[LordFall]

I feel like Leo's videos on sex addressed this perfectly. It was basically do whatever you can to have your dream sex life and offer it to your partner as well. Why do you care who has sex with who how many times? Discussing it won't help your own sex life. And if we're actually trying to dissect society I need a deep analysis by perplexity on claude on the effect of an individual woman's sex life on the stability of a society and obviously it will tell you it's basically irrelevant. Even as a trend I would like to see strong arguments for it.

Just learn pickup, social circle game and social media if you're a man that wants tons of sex and you'll get it morally. 

[PenguinPablo]

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