Why women share emotions instead of solve?

[Leo Gura]

A man needs to achieve a material result. A woman wants to relate to others instead.

Because men and women have different responsibilities. A woman usually doesn't have a gun to her head to deliver a material result, but a man does. So for a man sharing feelings is irrelevant. When you are on a battlefield your feelings do not matter.

Edited December 4 by Leo Gura

[Buck Edwards]

Maybe men are more hard wired to look for a solution to achieve something that matters to them. I often tend to express myself and ignore the solution. Because I don't look at problems as something to solve, rather something I need closure on. 

Expressing it means it probably no longer bothers me. Maybe expression matters more to women than some conclusive solution. 

[Oeaohoo]

In my experience, which is not saying much, women don’t like it if you share your emotions with them. They will start trying to solve your problems for you like your mother.

So this dynamic only applies one way around. Women want to share their emotions with men - or rather, want someone who is calm and detached enough to not be emotionally reactive - but they don’t want men to share their emotions with them.

[Alex4]

5 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

A man needs to achieve a material result. A woman wants to relate to others instead.

Because men and women have different responsibilities. A woman usually doesn't have a gun to her head to deliver a material result, but a man does. So for a man sharing feelings is irrelevant. When you are on a battlefield your feelings do not matter.

Do you think these differences are due to biological factors, or are they learned behaviors based on the different ways we socialize boys and girls from a young age? Do you have any videos or article where you explain this in depth?

[Leo Gura]

3 hours ago, Alex4 said:

Do you think these differences are due to biological factors, or are they learned behaviors based on the different ways we socialize boys and girls from a young age?

It's a combination of both.

Biologically, men and women have different responsibilities that come from a biological division of labor. But this is not set in stone, you can flip it around through lots of socialization and neuro-divergence. But socialization happens with the grain of biology as opposed to against it. Socialization was invented to enhance biology. It is useful for women to be emotionally sensitive and for men to not be. That's the fundamental division of labor.

Edited December 4 by Leo Gura

[Hojo]

Think of life as if you were in a chair and people were pushing you around. Women are ok being pushed and won't complain about that but will complain you pushed them next to a person who is mean to them. A man says I will not be pushed around im going get out of the chair. Women don't live their lives fully for them and don't want to. Men do. Women or God  need to trick men into pushing them around for them if they didn't they would have to get up and thats being a man. God made it so both sexes work together perfectly and they both counter eachother and fill the counters they have. Women try to force men into their logic and its man's job to say no. The problem is men have been tricked into playing mind games that they are not good at.

Edited December 4 by Hojo

[CARDOZZO]

Emotional regulation.

[Salvijus]

I think women are more in pursuit of love and men are more in pursuit of understanding. 

A loving and accepting relationship can help you heal from whatever burdens you carry on the shoulders. Women are more heart based so they look for someone who they can trust that they could share and open up and in process of doing it to heal. 

Men are more interesting in understanding so for that you mostly need to sit alone and contemplatate. 

[TheEnigma]

It all comes down to different survival needs. My two cents, men probably have to fight a lot harder to receive tangible gains and they're judged much more for what they can do, and not what they think. For a woman, our survival, our relationships depend more based on socializing and being liked.