Leo's Video Why Women Fall For Assholes.. How Do I Become That Guy?

[JCShannon88]

greetings... Leo discussed in his video Why women fall for assholes the reasons why women are attracted to those... How do I become that guy? Leo said he did something similar, and the results were very different... how do I become that guy? I was raised as the nice guy, and it has never worked.. now I learn this, and I am distraught because I am nearly 47 years old and single.. too much of nice guy... really disheartening.. I need help with this.. recently, I met a woman, and she decided to go for an asshole instead of me.. I am really hurting and in pain.. it sucks.. thanks in advance...

[Dan Arnautu]

It's a good thing that you decided to change things around. Although, I don't think you should aim to become an asshole. You should rather aim to become confident and attractive.

Fortunately or unfortunately, it will require a lot of work. There are no magic pills here. If you want to attract a high quality woman, you will need to become a high quality man. Get your looks in check, your hygiene, your life purpose etc.

Also, your game needs to be on point. By game I mean the process of seduction. It won't matter if you have a bulging six pack or the prettiest model face; girls will flee in an instant if they see you crumbling on your words or project neediness.

A first good step would be to read and learn about the principles of seduction and sexuality in general. After that, adopt a proven method of seduction and go out and practice. You should commit to at least a year of doing this consistently.

I would suggest following this channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/thenaturaltv

A good book to read is ”How to be a 3% Man” by Corey Taylor

Also, here you have a 2 hour video on the ”Nice Guy Syndrome” 

 

Edited May 3, 2017 by Dan Arnautu

[egoeimai]

7 hours ago, JCShannon88 said:

How do I become that guy?

This is so stupid! Stupid goal ! 

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Leo said he did something similar, and the results were very different...

Nerds cant become bad guys. Nerds will be always nerds.

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how do I become that guy? I was raised as the nice guy, and it has never worked..

Never worked never will. Do you want to be another one similar to the masses? Sad.

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 recently, I met a woman, and she decided to go for an asshole instead of me.. I am really hurting and in pain.. it sucks.. thanks in advance...

Trying to change who u are is a total suffering. So you want to change radically and this doesnt work. Do You want to know why? It doesnt work that way. Unless you accept yourself,you cant be in a peaceful relationship as u wish to be. What you describe is another form of low self esteem. If you cant love yourself,nobody can.

Ps. Bad guys were raised in a good way as you did,but for them something went wrong in the middle. Dont wish to be one of them. Bad guys experienced plenty of rejection and they became such monsters. Of course they never got over their fears. Thats why they continue to be "bad".

Edited May 4, 2017 by egoeimai

[Guest Annetta]

14 minutes ago, egoeimai said:

Nerds cant become bad guys. Nerds will be always nerds.

 

[electroBeam]

@JCShannon88 hahahaha dude, I've tried being an asshole for the last 4 years, because my mindset is exactly like yours. 

Guess what? Being an asshole doesnt work that well either.

How do you become attractive? There's a whole series on youtube called rsdtyler which has hours and hours of content. And the only way youre going to 'become that guy' is by getting off your ass and watching those vids.

The thing is, you have to be authentic, and genuinely love yourself, before loving any other women. 

And that authenticity might come off as assholeish to some, especially if you start to genuinely tell people what you think, rather than being fake about things, but is has nothing to do with being an asshole.

[Loreena]

Well your goal is misdirected here. I know women fall for assholes. I fell too. The problem is that you don't go deeper into it. You said you met a woman and she decided to go for an asshole. What you didn't realize is that sooner or later she is going to be tired of him. I can say this from experience. She will get fed up and leave him. A woman cannot handle that. She falls in love(head over heels) because her emotions betray her intellect and she gets in trouble. Then she realizes her mistake and eventually settles with a nice guy.  Maybe she gets attracted to the bad guy but she can't keep it. 

Being a Nice guy is a very good thing. They are quite rare these days. Everywhere in the media and culture, there are images of bad guys portrayed as healthy and attractive. It's absolutely ridiculous. This is completely destroying men and men are buying into this false idea. It never works. A healthy family requires two healthy individuals. Sorry but the asshole types cannot keep a family. They always mess up. They ruin instead of building. And what you eventually get is - a single mother. It's not good. It's a faulty perception fed by society. 

And you can take it this way as well that a woman who loves fantasizing bad men (it's another thing if she secretly fantasizes that) is being foolish herself. She is being immature and will most likely end up in a mess with lot of baggage to drag through life. 

Stop living in the world of pop culture, magazines, media,movies, toxic social norms. See reality. Understand logic. Be simple and humble. See things for what they are and not what they are portrayed as. 

Don't believe because someone said so. Don't do because others do. Don't follow because you saw others doing and getting it. Follow your brain and intuition. 

Have your own individuality. Doesn't matter if you others don't like you. You're not here in this world for their acceptance, liking and validation. 

I would prefer a nice guy over  a bad one any day. 

[Prabhaker]

@JCShannon88 All morality of a nice guy is a politics, morality helps us in adjustment in society.  Nice guys are not nice guys in true sense, if a guy is really nice he will become mentally very strong. So called nice guys envy others. They are jealous of others success, happiness. They think too much about sex or watch porn. 

Try to become a real nice guy, improve your health and fitness, start your journey towards meditation.

[Prabhaker]

11 minutes ago, Loreena said:

What you didn't realize is that sooner or later she is going to be tired of him.

Some women love bad guys, sooner or later they become tired of nice guys too.

Edited May 4, 2017 by Prabhaker

[khalifa]

It's not the asshole trait their attracted to but rather the confidence, then again it's too hard to generalize all people having the same attractive feel trait

[JCShannon88]

thanks to everyone for their replies.. I really appreciate all your insights...

[egoeimai]

6 hours ago, Loreena said:

. What you didn't realize is that sooner or later she is going to be tired of him.  She will get fed up and leave him. A woman cannot handle that. Then she realizes her mistake and eventually settles with a nice guy.  Maybe she gets attracted to the bad guy but she can't keep it.

So true!

6 hours ago, Loreena said:

Sorry but the asshole types cannot keep a family. They always mess up. 

Yezzz!

[heisenburger]

@JCShannon88 No more mr nice guy Robert glover. Literally a book just about this problem ridiculous if you don't read it after it's been suggested to you.

 

also try 

the way of the superior man

the six pillars of self esteem.

[SFRL]

@JCShannon88

 

Edited May 6, 2017 by SFRL

[Harikrishnan]

Why God Why is to so hard to get laid ?  ?

[Prabhaker]

24 minutes ago, Harikrishnan said:

Why God Why is to so hard to get laid

God is not responsible , we are responsible. 

Energy has been going downward through the sex center continuously, so when any energy is created it will first try to move downward. When you have conserved something, the old, habitual passage is ready to release it. The mechanism is ready, the old passage is ready. Your mind only knows one passage – the lower one, the sexual passage.

You are just aware; then energy is conserved. Then the quantity of the energy becomes more and more intense and an upward thrust becomes necessary. Now the energy will go upward; by its very force, a new passage will be thrown open.

When energy goes upward you will be more sexually attractive to others, because life energy going upward creates a great magnetic force. You will become more sexually attractive to others, so you will have to be aware of this. Now you will attract persons unknowingly, and the attraction will not only be physical; the attraction will be etheric.

You will be attractive... and the opposite sex will be irresistably drawn to you. There are subtle vibrations that are created by your etheric body: you have to be aware of them. The type of attraction that will be felt by the opposite sex will differ – it will take so many different forms – but basically it will be sexual. At its root, it will be sexual.

 

Edited May 7, 2017 by Prabhaker

[Steph1988]

On 4-5-2017 at 0:23 AM, JCShannon88 said:

too much of nice guy

What makes you a nice guy in the bad sense specifically?

On 4-5-2017 at 8:34 AM, Loreena said:

A woman cannot handle that. She falls in love(head over heels) because her emotions betray her intellect

That is what many men want and if you are in a bar that is actually all you want.

On 4-5-2017 at 8:34 AM, Loreena said:

Maybe she gets attracted to the bad guy but she can't keep it. 

But she does get attracted.

On 4-5-2017 at 8:34 AM, Loreena said:

A healthy family requires two healthy individuals. Sorry but the asshole types cannot keep a family.

I completely agree with this but there is a problem.

DISCLAIMER: i know that the following is generalizing and not true in all cases but it is a problem otherwise u wouldn't have a whole industry made out of it that is the pickup industry.

So whats a man to do with this information if you keep in mind the longing for sex is real and powerful. 

As long as woman respond well to bad guy behavior then men are encouraged to at least display it for a while and as long as woman's emotions override their logic should men use this to their advantage if they can? i guess so, again for a while, because when i look at this thing it does seem like bad guys get all the fun and the nice guys have to wait until the woman finally make up their mind. I think overall woman have no clue what kind of signal this sends off to men.

Men are encouraged by mainstream society to be nice guys and at the same time society incentivizes to make you a bad guy that is kind of confusing.

So their is only one question,

What works?

And you got to do whatever works and at the same time be a good moral person with responsibility.

[Salaam]

Women are attracted to a man with an edge, but you can still have an edge and not be an asshole. You can be kind and a person worth building trust and relationships with, but at the same time have a fierceness about you that will see that you get shit done for you and yours if needed. It sucks that mainstream society has lost touch with this masculine archetype. It seems all they know or validate is the immature version for the most part.

Assholes are men with an immature, selfish edge. They are incomplete men, flash, with no substance. Doing things to prop up their self-identity and ego, rather than to engage and interact with women, in order to build positive experiences and bonds. A lot of women seem to fool themselves and say "yea he's an asshole, but he's like that to everyone BUT me, and that makes me special". But, that only lasts for as long as he's getting what he wants and then afterwards the fantasy fades and he's gone.

Both genders have to do better. Men need to set their sights on higher standards of maturity that includes having an edge and Women need to be more selective about the kinds of edge in men that they find attractive. Don't get lulled by the excitement and the fantasy, keep an eye out for how things might change in the long-term.
 

[SOUL]

Don't worry about nice guys and assholes stuff, be genuine and fulfilled with who you are.

This will attract a person that embodies the same spirit.

[Shin]

Just be who you are, who you really are, without the fears and discomfort you have now.
With the skills that you always had but never had the chance to truly embody/master.

If you do that, you will know/find the right kind of girl for you, my take would be that it wouldn't even matter if you can do all that.
Having a girlfriend for a man isn't that important really, only weak men are needy for women.

 

Edited May 12, 2017 by Shin

[Deep]

@JCShannon88 I agree with what the others have said. I think you've been in your comfort zone for too long. Maybe you can do something drastic to get yourself outside your comfort zone. You've been a slave to other people's ideas, that's why you're a nice guy. You need to embrace your sexuality and masculinity. 

My advice to you is hire an escort and fuck her a few times. You have a lot of concepts about sex and relationships that hold you back from attracting women. It would be good if you break free from all of that shit. Yes, they only like you for your money, but who cares? At least you get to have sex. People will tell you it's not respectable and bla bla bla but those are all just fucking stories. It might be easier for you to hit on women afterwards.