Can someone experienced help me?

[fabger]

Sooo I've been nightgaming since november consistently. Thanks to GG I found some great wings but they are not always available. Today I went solo. Because of approach anxiety I made 0 approaches today. I feel pretty lame. With wings I can make at least 5 approaches a night.

It's hard to admit but I pussied out today.

Maybe someone can give me some actionable advice.

PS: Im the guy who wrote the I fucking hate doing game post. My perspective changed since then. Yes, game can be very fun. 

I know Im on the right track at least.

 

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBWtLFysmns

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPCU03Dp8Zw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ddfiZXyLM2Q

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fybtO4gN1Tk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YhTJFk--aro

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BlMfJU2mATY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y9ALIRDr5_w

https://www.girlschase.com/content/8-useful-mindsets-meeting-women-nightclubs

  https://www.girlschase.com/article/how-pick-girls-bars-and-clubs

[Majed]

@fabger it's not about quantity but quality of approaches 

[something_else]

If you learn to have fun and make friends while you are out solo, the whole thing becomes a lot easier. If you go out just to lurk on your own at the side of a club and pick out women to approach, you're probably not going to have a lot of success. This is for many reasons, but the two major ones are that you get stuck in your own head and women can sense that you don't belong here.

The better approach is to go out and make lots of friends at the place you go to. Find a new group of people to hang out with, dance with, and have fun with. This will make your approaches feel much more natural, maybe even effortless. Because you are naturally introduced to a lot of different people by being a part of a social group. You should also push yourself to approach women too, but you'll find it's much easier when you are able to make a new group of friends for the night.

[Schizophonia]

You can use anxiolytic coumpounds here and there to break a bit your learned helplessness and so anxiety.

Then you have to practice, and at the same time treat your anxiety problems.

 

[Davino]

@fabger Night gaming alone is pretty hard, it's best for day game alone. Night go with your wings or a group, interesting social dynamics happen that do not via solo. To make it work alone at a night club you gotta have serious skills or a lucky night.

[Dean Raymond]

There is a new kid on the block:

 

[Dauntment]

I might be the only one that will give you advice from "this angle", but: Less Theory, Just Do it.

Example, @Raze just attached 102 video links, which will be a bunch of more content, which will just get you thinking even more (theory/content is not useful in cases where you are a "pussy" + the outcomes are not lethal).

Just do it. Face "Truth" and just act. If you get "burned" (rejected) then that is the TRUTH (the case of what IS), but will make you stronger; and if you don't get rejected....then you win lol. Its a win-win.

You want to be the man that other guys want to invite to boost THEIR confidence/ego/comfort zone.....not the other way around.

Be easy bro

[Recursoinominado]

What worked for me doing solo game:

Walk around, be social overall, don't drink, don't check your phone, don't go to the bathroom or whatever before you have done a couple of sets.

The first set has to be the easiest one possible.

Usually I choose: girls who are alone or sets of two. Find the most approachable girls possible (nice, open expressions), average or below average in looks, never mix sets (unless you are positive its a gay friend). Short and sweet at first, no agenda besides get some social momentum.

Do NOT stay too much on a set unless it is going great (the girl is flirting, you are kissing, there are some closing possibility).

Do that over and over, gain some momentum and when you are feeling good, approach harder sets, prettier girls etc.

[Emotionalmosquito]

On 11/28/2024 at 10:07 AM, Schizophonia said:

You can use anxiolytic coumpounds here and there to break a bit your learned helplessness and so anxiety.

You’ve said this a few times but you never provide a list of the exact compounds. Please, do tell. Dm me if you’d rather