Why does being mean to a girl pull her in?

[Actualising]

Why do girls like being treated mean?

[NoSelfSelf]

Because its better than manipulation.

Mean=hes not trying to fuck me,he has women so he treating me like this is authentic.

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WEe2aq3qKmc

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LlJLLjE9_To

https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-girls-bad-boys
 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QMTKZW7lQJc

 

Edited November 10 by Raze

[Actualising]

@Raze thanks

[Sugarcoat]

Mean meaning teasing? It displays confidence . You’re secure in yourself enough that you’re able to focus on her. You’re shining your spotlight of attention on her. When you’re insecure you tend to be too in your own head focused on yourself kinda

 

Edited November 10 by Sugarcoat

[Ajax]

1.       Who said women like to be treated mean?

2.       One should be willing and able to experience the many forms of human experience.

3.       Solidity and seriousness is an undesirable condition. One should strive to be less solid and more unserious.  A good rule of thumb is if you cannot laugh and smile you are off the path. (if you are off the path, you are lost)

4.        The game Life could be said be infinite forms of reaching for something and pulling away from it. It’s a reaching and pulling away. An exchange of giving and taking. (Play your cards right and you are initiating a game of trading of push and pull.. you pursue her, she pulls back.. you pull back she comes toward you)  What makes it good/evil is your power of choice and how much you are enjoying the game or not (and vice versa).

5.       You give a woman hell, she takes it and gives you hell back.  Do you think all the nagging, button pushing, criticism and not being in “the mood” all happened by random accident?

6.       The “grand secret” to proper control  is real communication. Invest your actions and resources in ways to improve your communication (consistently and on a daily basis)... only this and nothing more. And the magic happens. The rest are in "high powered decisions" like decide to do, decide to like, decide to approach, Decide you can experience anything, rejection or not.  Decide to admire decide to create and assume infinite viewpoints. Decide to be willing. Decide to communicate. If you have control over yourself, you can simply decide, and it is. Like decide to move your hand, since you are in communication with your hand you move your hand. 

7. I never had problems bringing women in. I simply decide to give women as many happy moments as I can, through conversation (for no reason at all... no agenda, no goal... nothing) and I receive in abundance. That's love... to give for no reason at all... to want to be with women for no reason at all. To share may space for no reason at all...  That's what "pulls in women" because I love women.

8. If you have trouble pulling in women, it is because you are unknowingly pulling away from women, you are not loving women enough.  You are not giving enough you are only giving a little to prevent from getting hurt... when you do that what are you doing? You are actually taking yourself away from women. 

GIVE AND YOU SHALL RECIEVE 

Why don't people do this? 

Because, of something in the past told you that if you give you will end up with nothing and get nothing in return. That you did it before, but it ended in a bad way. 

But see... that's the problem when you stop giving you end up dying why? Because to live you have to give and receive from the world. To the degree you don't have that you will lack and have more scarcity and less abundance.  You are pulling away from life, which is dying. The result is more seriousness, solidity, unhappiness, lack of energy, loss of life... who is the one pulling away? Who is doing it to themselves?

I could get more in depth but I am done.

[Applegarden8]

Authenticity and not being boring

[Tenebroso]

@Ajax Interesting post. However, judging by how women describe their experiences, it does not sound like being a 'giving man' is the x factor that attracts women. They seem to find players and bad boys, who never offer commitment or any kind of emotional closeness irresistible. So is 'giving' really the key? 

[Princess Arabia]

You will find out the hard way when you come across a female you really like and start to treat her mean and see how fast she disappears. Mean can be interpreted in different ways and that's the trap. Some guy will see this and go out and start to treat women in a mean way and turn them off. Know exactly what you mean by mean and try to understand the difference in descriptive words, rather than just take every common slang word at face value. Understand what she's really finding attractive and understand that no woman of sound mind wants to be treated mean.

Edited November 10 by Princess Arabia

[Princess Arabia]

28 minutes ago, Applegarden8 said:

Authenticity and not being boring

If these traits are what acting mean is about, they can keep their authenticity and excitement to themselves.

[Schizophonia]

« Nice » guys match well with girls with a though character. 
For exemple a guy like Leo (slim, introvert, cerebral, dry persona in general) would please a slightly aggressive curvy basketball player.

 

Assuming that this character is not neurosis or simple cowardice.

Edited November 10 by Schizophonia

[Applegarden8]

33 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

If these traits are what acting mean is about, they can keep their authenticity and excitement to themselves.

and you are waiting to disagree with me which proves my point. A "nice guy" won't challenge you. I am a nice guy in real life and I laugh (internally) at the doormat treatment I sometimes receive.

Edited November 10 by Applegarden8

[Atb210201]

Don't be mean to girls.

Be truthful and stand up for yourself if attacked wrongly.

That's just it.

Try as best as you can to never be mean and always be polite and respectful with good manners in serious arguments; as best as you can.

Edited November 10 by Atb210201

[Princess Arabia]

42 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

For exemple a guy like Leo (slim, introvert, cerebral, dry persona in general) would please a slightly aggressive curvy basketball player.

Lol. Where do you dream up these fantastical fantasies of yours I don't know, but they are certainly entertaining.😅. Poor Leo, being matched with a curvy female basketball player. He'd have to look hard as there aren't many curvy ones around. Tennis player would probably be more his type or a Chinese gymnast. Goo goo gai gai, me like you long time.🤣

Edited November 10 by Princess Arabia

[Ajax]

1 hour ago, Tenebroso said:

@Ajax Interesting post. However, judging by how women describe their experiences, it does not sound like being a 'giving man' is the x factor that attracts women. They seem to find players and bad boys, who never offer commitment or any kind of emotional closeness irresistible. So is 'giving' really the key? 

Awesome Question. Very good question.. thanks for taking the time to read my post!

Here is some definitions of the word "Player" from the 1913 Webster's dictionary.

Play"er (?), n.1. One who plays, or amuses himself; one without serious aims; an idler; a trifler. Shak.

2. One who plays any game.

3. A dramatic actor. Shak.

4. One who plays on an instrument of music. "A cunning player on a harp." 1 Sam. xvi. 16.

5. A gamester; a gambler.

 

You could say that a Player(player of women) knows how to GIVE women the experiences they want to have? Could you not?

When you give, you have to have the viewpoint of what someone wants, needs or how you can help in the best way possible.  

These "dating gamers" just know how to give women excitement, pleasure, fun, intrigue, suspense and amusement.  You have heard of love languages Yes? Well, they know the "love languages" of attraction and you don't. They know how to communicate ideas you don't. They have been playing for years... You can't shoot a couple of "hoops" and expect to be an expert basketball player... when you know the basketball game and know how to play, the game is almost effortless for you.

 

Bottom line, you have to give people and women, what they actually want... not what you think or assume or want them to want. If they are not hooked, that is just an indicator that you did not give them what they wanted or did not sell (communicate) your value well enough.

 

Look at it like this. Have you ever had the greatest idea... and nobody seemed to see it? You told your family, and friends and inner and outer circle how amazing it was... but it was like talking to a brick wall... like it was invisible to them?

That's the same thing... the value you are trying to provide to the woman is invisible to them, they do not see it. 

Why?

-The idea is not real to them. It does not exist for them when they compare it to their past or experiences... it's not real. For them... 

-Things simply don't exists in your (or anyone's) awareness until you create it or agree to it. You have to have the intention to create and use give and receive and exchange to make it so. 

-The other side  of this answer is the ideas of creating excitement, interest and fun and exciting experiences don't exactly exist for you. You don't know how to create them. 

 

Ok, yeah... I know this is starting to get complicated so I will simplify it. What I said is relevant.. but it would take me hours to explain the concept... so let me return to giving.

When you Give. Just give, but give to all areas of life. Your work, your friends, your goals and targets, your "training" (your self-improvement practices), your health, your finances... give all while maintaining a lighthearted and unserious attitude, a playful and fun mentality, who is willing to experience and admire whatever comes his way.  Organize your life to give as much as possible to the parts to your life. 

You see you give just to give... Of course, you will receive... but if your intention is just to give... without reason... you cannot use that reason to prevent you from giving. 

I suppose it takes a matter of "faith" to give and give and give... but as long as you keep creating that idea... it will happen as that is the real law of manifesting in its raw form. Of course, you should expect exchange and focus on the areas that give you more exchange as you can give more.... but the more you give, the greater your potential to get. 

Another way of looking at it is if you wanted to get alot of emails... or leads... you send out (give) an ungodly number of emails and you will get a buttload of emails and responses in return. That's why virtually every online business has a newsletter... to give information of your service and product and get some interested buyers in return.

 

Is this clear or real to you? Does everything make sense to you? @Tenebroso

BTW as always when I say "you" I don't mean you personally... I mean it in general. It's not personally directed at you. 

Edited November 10 by Ajax

[Emerald]

10 hours ago, Actualising said:

Why do girls like being treated mean?

If being mean works on a woman to pull her closer to you, she probably has parents that treated her very mean since childhood.

And so, now she has been conditioned to associate mean-ness with the drive to seek connection and love.

But a healthy woman who lacks that trauma or has healed from that trauma will disappear super fast if you treat her mean.

The same is true for men, of course. Everyone is subject the allure of a repeat of abusive familial patterns. It's not really a gender thing.

[Emerald]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

« Nice » guys match well with girls with a though character. 
For exemple a guy like Leo (slim, introvert, cerebral, dry persona in general) would please a slightly aggressive curvy basketball player.

That's a very specific conjecture that I can't really see the logic behind.

Why do you pair a guy like Leo with an aggressive curvy basketball playing woman?

What is your rationale?

[Schizophonia]

59 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Poor Leo, being matched with a curvy female basketball player. He'd have to look hard as there aren't many curvy ones around. Tennis player would probably be more his type or a Chinese gymnast.

Yes buy the thing is that Leo is this guy who lay a 2h video to explain you with a mean look how you're immature and he were more mature that everybody from middle school, it's the guy who do random instagram photos with a poker face or with an african mask, it's the guy who do topic about crocodiles and alien pizza, it's the guy who do a video with a kind "helllo" before cooking the most horrible recipe of soup possible (it's a anglo-saxon so i forgive him, i'm not going to ask him to have taste) etcetc. 

Imagine him in relationship with a Chinese gymnast, i can already see them in my imagination getting bored like dead rats 80% of the time between making love and "How you see it's rainy (with a chinese accent*)🤔 ", and then Leo who respond "Oh yeah that's true🤔" with a shy smile to pretend he doesn't give a fu** of a such useless sentance.

While with my curvy basketball blayer, he's no going to have to cross dress his persona, she will tease him, do/say "stupidities", create dramas and he will just have to juggle all that. That's what he built inself on, "the mature who who correct the world, the other". 

 

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Emerald said:

What is your rationale?

See above.

I troll a bit but that's the idea

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said:

Lol. Where do you dream up these fantastical fantasies of yours I don't know, but they are certainly entertaining.😅. 

Eheh, i just have an overflowing imagination.

Ok i have work to do.

 

 

 

 

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Takes out his phone*

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