A chick ghosted me because I sent a YouTube link and she thought I wanted to hack her

[Lucasxp64]

I'm always impressed of the tiny million ways we can screw things up... Or, better off, how little they give a shit about us. Un-fucking-believable. 

That was minutes into an online conversation (It didn't come from an in-person cold approach phone close), with even back and forth audio message exchange, she seemed pretty excited. 

Edited Friday at 01:34 PM by Lucasxp64

[Schizophonia]

It was an excuse.

[Hojo]

You talked to a woman online for a couple minutes and they left and you consider that a ghost? Or did you communicate before that?

[whh2222]

I feel your pain, but all I can say is charge it to the game. 

[NoSelfSelf]

Im always impressed how much you guys give a fuck what women do.

[meta_male]

The lesson is you got too invested too fast. Not you screwing anything up.

[Basman]

Don't panic and keep it pushing.

[Optimal_Prime]

if she thought a youtube link was a hack, imagine what she'd think if you two were in a relationship and you got a call from an unknown number and didn't answer it. 

She'll think it's your mistresss, calling you for a booty call, and that you didn't answer because you weren't alone. 

Girl was crazy. Move on. 

[Lucasxp64]

20 hours ago, Hojo said:

You talked to a woman online for a couple minutes and they left and you consider that a ghost? Or did you communicate before that?

Nah. We didn't.

I think I just made this post out of emotional response anyway.

20 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

It was an excuse.

I'm just trying to analyze technically what I did wrong. Actually the problem wasn't that. It was something else I said before.

I'm actually having very high volume of those kinds of chats, and I'm learning proper online chat game. I can sometimes feel when something abruptly changed. Like this one.

It's my teasing. It's uncalibrated. My teasing is coming off as an insult. I get an impression of rapport too early, and I see it safe to say certain things. But it's not.

Early on they give less benefit of the doubt, and they almost never accept apologies.

I use a lot of irony. Here are some examples of things I said that blew it off:

(THOSE ARE ONLINE WOMAN, FIRST INTERACTIONS. I Only mention interactions that we had a back-and-forth and those messages stopped it abruptly...)

Quote

 

"So, not all Brazilian women twerk to the sound of samba at the Ipanema beach?"  

-- (I'M BRAZILIAN, SPEAKING TO A BRAZILIAN ABOUT OUR CULTURE)

I wanted to make irony of the stereotype foreigners might have. She might have interpreted the worst out of me.

. And she said before how she finds our culture boring and prefers European culture.

 

Another example... (another chat)

Quote

"So, when do you get off from work? [So we can talk]"

"So, when do you get off from work? Does your boss want your soul all for himself?"

After seeing her response pattern changed, I sent her a message apologizing. And said that it was very commendable that she is so hardworking, and I didn't mean to be insensitive. (I got blocked after that.)

-- She works at 3 jobs and goes to university. I had joked before she was like the character of a famous TV series that works at many jobs. She said in an amusing fun tone that her friends tells her the same thing.

Another...

Quote

CONTEXT: A WOMAN NAMED WILLY. We exchanged a few messages and audio only.

"Hahah did anyone ever joke with Willy wonka with you? WIlly [her surname]"

She proceeds to say that she got bullied for that before. I apologize. She never sees the apology. She never gives me the benefit of the doubt.

Another...

Quote

Context: We had very intense friendly message exchange, she was being very friendly. And she showed a screenshot of a guy proposing marriage to her on his first messages on the same plataform which she found cringe.

Then I proceeded to mock the hell out of him by impersonating his attitude as a joke to her.

She literally said to me to stop it. I did. I did apologize.

Then she said our friendship was over, but tried to be nice and said it was ok. And blocked me a day later.

 

There are other similar stories of how I know it put them off like that. But it's kinda hard to recognize what makes me interesting vs what makes me boring. I should be extremely careful with my teasing. I over do it... Or perhaps those were just other excuses that I perceive as something of my fault.

Edited Saturday at 11:24 AM by Lucasxp64

[NoSelfSelf]

1 minute ago, Lucasxp64 said:

Nah. We didn't.

I think I just made this post out of emotional response anyway.

I'm just trying to analyze technically what I did wrong. Actually the problem wasn't that. It was something else I said before.

I'm actually having very high volume of those kinds of chats, and I'm learning proper online chat game. I can sometimes feel when something abruptly changed. Like this one.

It's my teasing. It's uncalibrated. My teasing is coming off as an insult. I get an impression of rapport too early, and I see it safe to say certain things. But it's not.

I use a lot of irony. Here are some examples of things I said that blew it off:

(THOSE ARE ONLINE WOMAN, FIRST INTERACTIONS. I Only mention interactions that we had a back-and-forth and those messages stopped it abruptly...)

Another example... (another chat)

Another...

Another...

 

There are other similar stories of how I know it put them off like that. But it's kinda hard to recognize what makes me interesting vs what makes me boring. I should be extremely careful with my teasing. I over do it... Or perhaps those were just other excuses that I perceive as something of my fault.

Your problem is that you talk about bunch of nothing that leads nowhere.

You just want to fuck her anyway so this all you writing is mindfucking yourself.

[Hojo]

@Lucasxp64 It sound like you are beating yourself you are using very strong self deprecating words for something very little. If every time someone throws a rubber ducky at you you treat it like a sledge hammer one day a woman is gunna throw a rubber ducky at you playfully and you will treat it as a sledgehammer and blow the chances with your future wife.

[whh2222]

12 hours ago, Lucasxp64 said:

Nah. We didn't.

I think I just made this post out of emotional response anyway.

I'm just trying to analyze technically what I did wrong. Actually the problem wasn't that. It was something else I said before.

I'm actually having very high volume of those kinds of chats, and I'm learning proper online chat game. I can sometimes feel when something abruptly changed. Like this one.

It's my teasing. It's uncalibrated. My teasing is coming off as an insult. I get an impression of rapport too early, and I see it safe to say certain things. But it's not.

Early on they give less benefit of the doubt, and they almost never accept apologies.

I use a lot of irony. Here are some examples of things I said that blew it off:

(THOSE ARE ONLINE WOMAN, FIRST INTERACTIONS. I Only mention interactions that we had a back-and-forth and those messages stopped it abruptly...)

Another example... (another chat)

Another...

Another...

 

There are other similar stories of how I know it put them off like that. But it's kinda hard to recognize what makes me interesting vs what makes me boring. I should be extremely careful with my teasing. I over do it... Or perhaps those were just other excuses that I perceive as something of my fault.

yo

 

really take a second to look at this post objectively. It sounds insane. You just need to fuckin chilllllll 

[Lucasxp64]

Yeah. I have some more clarity now.

I need to chill.

That's not a healthy perspective to hold.