Going to university to study when you are 25 years old

[Something Funny]

So, I've been thinking abaout going to university and studying either psychology or english philology. Not really to get a degree, but for the sake of learning.

I think it could work for me because I struggle studying on my own due to adhd.

On the other hand, it's a 4-5 year commitment which sounds kind of scary to me. It would be a weekend program so on top of a 40 hours a week job, I am afraid I won't have any free time to enjoy life left at all.

Plus, I am really turned off by all the bureaucracy and superficial standards in academia. 

Is it something worth commiting to?

[Princess Arabia]

9 hours ago, Something Funny said:

which sounds kind of scary to me.

 

9 hours ago, Something Funny said:

I am afraid

Even in your comment to me in my journal you mentioned the word afraid. "How people aren't afraid to.....", you said.

I'm pointing this out to you with love and compassion to allow for the awareness on your part to see how you're living your life with fearful thoughts. Seems you're riddled with fear and cannot allow for love to shine through. Fear and love cannot abide in the same place; one needs room for the other - which one will it be. Trust in yourself and know that you are one with the Universe and it will help to guide you in the right direction. You just have to overcome the fear that's locked inside your egoic body mind complex, which is just a form of energy by facing them and showing them some love. Stop judging yourself and others the way you do and show the side of you that you harshly judge so much some loving kindness and tell it that it's OK to be the way it is because it just lack ignorance of who it truly is and is just acting out in fear. Showing it love dissolves it because, like I said, both can't live in the same place.

Sorry, if I seem to have diverted from the actual question, but maybe this might shed some awareness for you to shift where your potential decisions will not become so fearful and lack the discernment you can cultivate on your own and can shows up in other areas of your life where important decisions need to be made. 

I never went to University; so maybe someone else can give you a more educated opinion on your inquiry.

Edited November 7 by Princess Arabia

[Something Funny]

@Princess Arabia thank you. I was wrong to think that everyone should be afraid to post their pics here, it just depends on how you use the site, I guess.

 

[Princess Arabia]

8 minutes ago, Something Funny said:

@Princess Arabia thank you. I was wrong to think that everyone should be afraid to post their pics here, it just depends on how you use the site, I guess.

 

I'm not concerned with that. It's up to me to feel how I want to feel concerning your remarks. I deliberately put myself out there (within reason), to build, nuture and water my courage energy. It's how I build upon the courage I already have and to not be afraid of what people think. When I see how nothing came of it but just some personal remarks on what the seer felt personally, and how my on fears are being created by me, it gets easier to overcome. 

This might sound a bit off to you and might not see the correlation, but for me it's there. The ego is very fearful and sees itself as needing to defend it's territory and fight for it's identity and feels small in a big Universe. This is not the case, and when one can build upon courage and start to recognize that certain fears are self-made, life becomes less fearful and we become more open and expansive. There's a method to my madness. This doesn't mean to become careless, just to see how some fears are created within the mind.

Edited November 7 by Princess Arabia

[Something Funny]

@Princess Arabia I am not in the mood to talk about all that stuff right now, sorry.

[Petals]

if you do it for the sake of learning, why jump through all the hoops? there is so much stuff online and books, so you can pick and choose what really interests you. if you consider getting a job in these fields, then you probably need to do it. or if you love socializing and want the experience of community.

there are also online courses from renowned universities and professors. those might also keep you on track. 

that's my opinion, but you probably already had some of the same thoughts.

(edx.org for example)

Edited November 7 by Petals

[Something Funny]

@Petals that's what I am starting to think right now. But I kind of want to have the social aspect as well though.

[Petals]

in the end, you can only know by testing it. so why not go to some seminars and lectures and see how you like it? you have a job, so there is no risk in dropping out if you don't like it.

[daydrinking]

i've started my studies this year, while being 27years old so there is no need to be afraid. like @Petalssaid, just try it and if you don't like it you can easily stop doing it.

[Something Funny]

@daydrinking how am I supposed to "just try it" though. You other enroll and start paying the tuition or not.

[Petals]

if you are not serious enough about it to pay one tuition, then why do it? I don't know how much it is for one semester. apart from that, is it not allowed to visit some lectures without enrolling? 

[Schizophonia]

There is no age.

[Basman]

You should go to uni if it helps you accomplish your goals. Career goals are the best justification in my opinion, especially if it costs money to go.

If you don't need the degree strictly speaking, then consider alternatives first. Most info is already available for free with the internet.

[Optimal_Prime]

I'm 29. I enrolled in one university class to see if I liked it. I paid about $600 CAD for all the tuition etc. 

I get to taste what it's like coming back to school, being on campus, socializing, having volunteer/recreational opportunities open up for me because I have a student ID, and I get to experience what it's like to be an adult and yet hang out with people a little yonger than me, and I get to experience what it's like to have deadlines and exam/performance pressure again. 

I'm very glad I took one class to test this out. 

I am not sure whether or not it's a fit for me to go back to a full time program and student-life yet, but, instead of fantasizing in my head about what it MIGHT be like, I took action and went and found out through my own direct experience, which means when I do decide whether or not it's right for me, it'll be based on reality, and i'll make the right decision. 

But I'm doing this because I'm considering dropping a high paying corporate career to go back and start working with youth. 

I don't see you sticking it out if it's "just for fun" or because you don't have the motivation to learn on your own. You won't get to pick and choose what you want to learn. Even if you're not interested in it, you'll have to learn it anyways if you want to pass the class. ADHD people struggle much more in university than neurotypical individuals, so, if you're going to do it, have a reason that's worth putting up with the suffering for. 

Don't go to enjoy learning, go to accomplish something, even if it takes sacrifice to accomplish it. 

Or don't go. 

If you want to learn for learning's sake, considering joining a chess club, or a discussion group, or some interest-based club where you get to learn about what YOU'RE interested in (important for ADHD) on a pace that works for you, while still living your normal life. 

PS: if you want a bachelor's while working a full time job, it'll take more than 4 years. 4 years is how long it'll take for full time students. TBH it kinda just sounds like you're lost so you're thinking about doing something "normal" to pass the time. 
 

[hyruga]

People go to university for the degree or certifications. 

If you don't need one, you can easily join an online course or private course to see what coming back to school is. 

 

[Rigel]

57 minutes ago, hyruga said:

People go to university for the degree or certifications. 

If you don't need one, you can easily join an online course or private course to see what coming back to school is. 

 

Depends on the field. Some go for the people & networking opportunities.

[LordFall]

@Something Funny I'd say only if you have a seriously strong reason as to why. If you're just bored of life without a purpose and think maybe this will be interesting then I wouldn't advise it. You're gonna be in debt and have worse quality of information than if you self studied.

What is the goal you hope to achieve at the end of those 4 years? 

[Optimal_Prime]

23 hours ago, Rigel said:

Depends on the field. Some go for the people & networking opportunities.

OK point remains though people only really go and get value when they have highly specific career purposes. 

There's the "general" benefits of extracircular experiences, growth, meeting new people, and expanding your mind to new horizons, but let's be real a lot of that just naturally happens anyways between the ages of 18-24, with or without school, school just allows you to focus on it fully because someone else is paying for your life (parents or debt). 

Then there's the few serious people who pay for their own education even at that young age. They're exceptional. 

[Rigel]

11 hours ago, Optimal_Prime said:

OK point remains though people only really go and get value when they have highly specific career purposes. 

There's the "general" benefits of extracircular experiences, growth, meeting new people, and expanding your mind to new horizons, but let's be real a lot of that just naturally happens anyways between the ages of 18-24, with or without school, school just allows you to focus on it fully because someone else is paying for your life (parents or debt). 

Then there's the few serious people who pay for their own education even at that young age. They're exceptional. 

Let me guess, you didn’t go to university? Plenty of people get plenty of value for plenty of different reasons.

Also, some countries have a less shitty education system than US & don’t put you into thousands of dollars of debt.

[Sugarcoat]

Do you really have to work 40 hours a week job while you study? Can’t you work less? That is what I’ll do when I study, just work a little bit on the side