How to embrace balding

[Leo-Tzu]

Today i had a haircut and noticed half of my front hair were missing and even in the crown area they were starting to thin heavily. For context im 34, my dad and also the males on my mother side are bald so genetically im screwed, the question was always "when". When this thing started at 26-27 maybe i got a lot of anxiety but later it became less and less important, until today. Now its really gone so i have to cope with it. Also i dont wanna do treatments, dont wanna spray, drop, foam or any other shit to fight for a dead cause max i can do is a hair transplant dont know but even that seem pathetic and not really manly. The reason i'm writing in the mental health section is how do i cope with it, how do i not get disturbed by it. This becomes problematic mostly when i meet new people, or in work related enviroments where i want to be "the best version of myself" which in my mind is me at 25 witch a head full of hair and muscles. That self hasnt died yet and anything below that (the real me now) is a scary cat which just want to leave the room as quick as he can. Not to mention when taking pictures now im aware of things i didnt thought of before like if i got strong lights above my head and so on. How do I enjoy life when aging is so noticeble? People like Leo which i remember being bald since 2014 have no problem at all as it seems and i want to know their path. For me i believe it will be something like one day ill just shave my head and ill say ok this doesnt look so bad and from that moment ill just keep doing it. Until then ill be in a limbo between the 25 old me and the 35+ me, feeling insecure and trying to hide it with caps shadows etc. 

[Princess Arabia]

 Simple. Shave your whole head. 

[Schizophonia]

Daily head massages + dermaroller + minoxidil + ru58841 + castor oil + multivitamins.

Case closed

[Princess Arabia]

14 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

castor oil

That's a good one. Of course i'd endorse the more natural suggestion. I doubt it would grow back a full head of hair, though.

I remember I used to use it on my eyebrows for thicker natural lashes. Worked, but made sleeping and the eyes a bit challenging.

Edited November 3 by Princess Arabia

[Leo-Tzu]

@Princess Arabia @Schizophonia both of your answers are legit the problem is that the balding stage isn't that bad to shave and also i dont want to put rosmary oils castor oils tinkerbell oils etc because mentally it will keep me alert and mindful about it. Now im going with a short haircut which works fine for me visually but inner game wise i want to not even think of it. That would be ideal. I ve watched some videos of girls answearing if they did mind if their date was balding or bald and their answear was most of the times they didn't care as long as men didn't too. So it all comes to being stoic and adapting to your reality without worry and focusing on what you can work on. 

[Thought Art]

I embrace the bald personally, but to each their own. I think resisting what is happening is pointless.

[Davino]

Being Bald is sexy

That's how I would frame it in my mind

[Schizophonia]

12 minutes ago, Davino said:

Being Bald is sexy

That's how I would frame it in my mind

Ben voyons

Edited November 3 by Schizophonia

[Sugarcoat]

Leo is bald and look at how great he is doing 

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Leo-Tzu said:

. I ve watched some videos of girls answearing if they did mind if their date was balding or bald and their answear was most of the times they didn't care as long as men didn't too.

Men care about what they look like than women care about what men look like overall. Why? Men care about what women look like so they think we're obsessed about that like they are. Guys notice the small little physical details about women's appearance. All the time. Their nails, hair, clothes, shoes, smile, and the details about those things; everything, personality is usually last. So men will feel very self-conscious in this arena and start worrying about what women think and neglect what we really care about. Not surprised most of those women say they didn't care.

[Schizophonia]

20 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Men care about what they look like than women care about what men look like overall. Why? Men care about what women look like so they think we're obsessed about that like they are. Guys notice the small little physical details about women's appearance. All the time. Their nails, hair, clothes, shoes, smile, and the details about those things; everything, personality is usually last. So men will feel very self-conscious in this arena and start worrying about what women think and neglect what we really care about. Not surprised most of those women say they didn't care.

Baldness is a sign of bad health on a way or an other.

5 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

That's a good one. Of course i'd endorse the more natural suggestion. I doubt it would grow back a full head of hair, though.

I remember I used to use it on my eyebrows for thicker natural lashes. Worked, but made sleeping and the eyes a bit challenging.

👍

Yes, that's why i also advised the other things.

[Yimpa]

Buddhists willingly shave their head to appear bald.

[Max_V]

@Yimpa But they are not part of the bald community! (-Larry David)

[ted73104]

Don't fully embrace it, find a method of treatment that is affordable and healthy. Put in the effort, you hair really determines how you look.

[Yimpa]

@ted73104 Are you bald? 

(Your current profile pic is, but I mean in real life)

[Hojo]

Upgrade the sense of self to something more than hair. Your hair burned off cause you have so much energy

[M A J I]

Thinking too much and too deeply into things. Overthinking.

Poor diet & lifestyle, stress, no nature, no sunlight.

[Leo Gura]

There's no real trick to it. Its just gonna be painful. But if you try to hide it you will increase the pain.

If it's mild you can consider a transplant. But if it's heavy you just gotta bite the bullet.

Edited Monday at 12:20 PM by Leo Gura

[OBEler]

On 3.11.2024 at 4:46 PM, Schizophonia said:

Daily head massages + dermaroller + minoxidil + ru58841 + castor oil + multivitamins.

Case closed

Yes case closed for your hair.

But these are drugs with common negative side effects. From what I researched it's not worth (impotence, heart problems, depression).

[Lyubov]

I went bald at 20…. Just shave it and move on.