Multiple fears

[Buck Edwards]

I have a deep fear of Abandonment, anxiety, feeling neglected, outcast, isolated, dumped, lack of acceptance and validation, betrayal of trust, brokenness, negligence, void, fear of chaos, authority, arguments, conflict, fights, hostility, fear of judgement, policing, cold shoulder treatment, feeling of being unaccomodated, distrust, mistrust, fear of being policed, fear of being watched, stalked or invaded on, rejection sensitivity, inability to cope with tension, repression around sex, multiple Phobias, excessive need for validation, excessive apprehension around people, fear of missing out on, insecurity about my present and future, desperation to fit into social structure, inability to cope with social pressure, wanting to be attached but fearing such attachment, excessive vulnerability around judgement, validation, social acceptance, rejection. 

How to overcome? 

[NoSelfSelf]

By changing the perceptions about self and the world easily put if there are no deep wounded traumas.For this its hours and hours of talk and practice with someone who knows what they are doing.

[Raze]

Try internal family systems therapy

[Princess Arabia]

18 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

I have a deep fear of Abandonment, anxiety, feeling neglected, outcast, isolated, dumped, lack of acceptance and validation, betrayal of trust, brokenness, negligence, void, fear of chaos, authority, arguments, conflict, fights, hostility, fear of judgement, policing, cold shoulder treatment, feeling of being unaccomodated, distrust, mistrust, fear of being policed, fear of being watched, stalked or invaded on, rejection sensitivity, inability to cope with tension, repression around sex, multiple Phobias, excessive need for validation, excessive apprehension around people, fear of missing out on, insecurity about my present and future, desperation to fit into social structure, inability to cope with social pressure, wanting to be attached but fearing such attachment, excessive vulnerability around judgement, validation, social acceptance, rejection. 

How to overcome? 

Sounds like the sum of 8billion egos😅Luckily you have that much. Don't have to deal with one after the other after the other. Face them all at one time by turning away from the mirror. Don't look into the mirror, see the one looking at the person looking in the mirror.

[Ulax]

@Buck Edwards I think a depth psychotherapy can be useful, so I second IFS therapy.

I'd also recommend looking into somatic healing modalities, where you work with the becoming comfortable in your body. Things like deep tissue massage, TRE and Yoga.

I understand that finances might get in the way though .

Edited November 3 by Ulax

[Buck Edwards]

3 hours ago, Ulax said:

@Buck Edwards I think a depth psychotherapy can be useful, so I second IFS therapy.

I'd also recommend looking into somatic healing modalities, where you work with the becoming comfortable in your body. Things like deep tissue massage, TRE and Yoga.

I understand that finances might get in the way though .

I switched my therapist once again 

 

My first therapist was Steven. He was too old and did not understand my needs and situation. He was just babbling his own philosophy. It sucks that we can't try them first. We already have to pay and find out later it's not a good fit. The next therapist was Simon. He was only slightly better than the first but he began treating me like a child and not taking my symptoms seriously. He went on to say how everything is labeled as a disorder these days. But I have serious and severe mental issues and I suffer a lot. I'm stuck in a rut. So for a therapist who claims 18 years of experience, it felt a bit odd for him to say that everything is a disorder when I'm genuinely suffering from disorders. I mean I don't want to hear that from a therapist who is trying to normalize everything, the job gets easier for him then, he has to treat nothing. I mean it's not even about treatment, what exactly is he gonna do than just talk like a friend. I have friends for that, I don't need a therapist for a casual chat. 

 

I switched to a younger therapist whose name is Chris. He has 3 years of experience so I will see how that goes. I found it hard to get an IFS therapist. 

[Ulax]

32 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

I switched my therapist once again 

 

My first therapist was Steven. He was too old and did not understand my needs and situation. He was just babbling his own philosophy. It sucks that we can't try them first. We already have to pay and find out later it's not a good fit. The next therapist was Simon. He was only slightly better than the first but he began treating me like a child and not taking my symptoms seriously. He went on to say how everything is labeled as a disorder these days. But I have serious and severe mental issues and I suffer a lot. I'm stuck in a rut. So for a therapist who claims 18 years of experience, it felt a bit odd for him to say that everything is a disorder when I'm genuinely suffering from disorders. I mean I don't want to hear that from a therapist who is trying to normalize everything, the job gets easier for him then, he has to treat nothing. I mean it's not even about treatment, what exactly is he gonna do than just talk like a friend. I have friends for that, I don't need a therapist for a casual chat. 

 

I switched to a younger therapist whose name is Chris. He has 3 years of experience so I will see how that goes. I found it hard to get an IFS therapist. 

@Buck Edwards I can certainly relate to your frustrations.

It sounds good to me though that you have been able to quickly identify that you don't fit with particular therapists and move on. That's something I've struggled with personally in therapy. So kudos to you there.

I've been with quite a few therapists now, I guess I try to see each new one as a learning experience. And if it doesn't work out with them, then its all part of the overall recovery process.

[Raze]

Try when therapy doesn’t work by Shelly Young

[Yimpa]

I would look into self-compassion. Ask your therapist if they know about it. There is great research on it.

Here is a PDF to get you started

 

Building Self-Compassion - 01 - Understanding Self-Compassion.pdf

[Schizophonia]

Stop identifying as someone mentally ill.

[Sugarcoat]

Meditate and breathe deeply to calm your nervous system in general. Observe the fear, be present in it. 

Edited November 3 by Sugarcoat

[Ulax]

@Buck Edwards You might find value in this too: IFS Buddy Chatbot: https://www.ifsbuddy.chat/

Its an AI powered IFS therapist.

[Buck Edwards]

On 05/11/2024 at 2:46 AM, Ulax said:

@Buck Edwards You might find value in this too: IFS Buddy Chatbot: https://www.ifsbuddy.chat/

Its an AI powered IFS therapist.

 

On 04/11/2024 at 0:17 AM, Sugarcoat said:

Meditate and breathe deeply to calm your nervous system in general. Observe the fear, be present in it. 

Thanks.