How to deal with aggressive people and drunks at clubs?

[Peo]

 @Kid A Wish i could trade place with you. 

[Nilsi]

32 minutes ago, Kid A said:

Spending the first five years of my adult life at home, smoking weed and listening to Radiohead, sure didn’t give me an advantage. I’ll give you that!

There are plenty of indie chicks out there who’d love to cuddle up with you and listen to some In Rainbows, or whatever.

But Kid A - now that really puts you in a tough spot, I have to admit.

[Lyubov]

3 hours ago, Nilsi said:

This is where I actually agree with Andrew Tate. You need friends who have your back and are ready to defend you when shit hits the fan. That’s why men fundamentally need to be tough and know how to protect themselves and their people.

It’s like a form of nuclear deterrence - most of the time, just showing strength is enough. And when you approach things with good will, you simply apologize for the misunderstanding, buy the other party a drink, shake hands, and walk away.

Yep, you need to actively hit the gym and cultivate a tough look. Doesn’t hurt to do some boxing once a week. You don’t need to be a dick and deescalation is key. Just cause you have the ability to defend yourself doesn’t mean you should seek scenarios to use it. And 99% of the time an apology and walking away is the best choice. It’s a balancing act. Some guys are trigger happy. Be chill, have fun but Definitely feel confident in your ability to keep yourself safe. Some nightlife attract bigger baboons than others. Places you have to pay to get in are better for security and civility than free or cheap places. 

[Peo]

32 minutes ago, kray said:

Or learn to fight.

I honestly consider doing this, but also i see a lot of police outside at night time. Best to let them handle it, then seeing me fighting some drunk dude and risk getting arrested. When the police is close by i approach girls regardless of a guy walking by her. Who would be stupid to fight me infront of the police right?

[Lyubov]

1 minute ago, Peo said:

I honestly consider doing this, but also i see a lot of police outside at night time. Best to let them handle it, then seeing me fighting some drunk dude and risk getting arrested. When the police is close by i approach girls regardless of a guy walking by her. Who would be stupid to fight me infront of the police right?

The thing is 99% of the time it can be de-escalated by just walking away. Just cause you got fire power doesn’t mean you have to use it. The thing is this power can be intoxicating and guys can get trigger happy. Just because someone calls you names it doesn’t mean you should let it ruin your night or fun. Be like flowing water. If they haven’t put their hands on you just walk away. 

[Kid A]

13 minutes ago, Nilsi said:

There are plenty of indie chicks out there who’d love to cuddle up with you and listen to some In Rainbows, or whatever.

But Kid A - now that really puts you in a tough spot, I have to admit.

Well, I'm optimistic that one day, I might have everything in it’s right place.
Could be because I've finally learned how to disappear completely…

[Nilsi]

1 minute ago, Kid A said:

Well, I'm optimistic that one day, I might have everything in it’s right place.
Could be because I've finally learned how to disappear completely…

I must admit, it’s my favorite Radiohead album as well (which really isn’t saying much). There’s just something about its harshness that gives it a timeless quality, while other Radiohead albums, for me, seem to be trying too hard to please the critics.

[Peo]

8 minutes ago, Kid A said:

disappear completely

Did you go far into the woods deep inside the amazon jungle?

[Kid A]

13 minutes ago, Peo said:

Did you go far into the woods deep inside the amazon jungle?

That’s one way to disappear, but I highly doubt it would do me any good!

[AION]

Just knowing how to fight will already change your demeanor and other guys will have second thoughts before bashing you. If you know how to fight you don’t need to fight most of the time. 

Edited October 26 by AION

[Davino]

3 hours ago, kray said:

Or learn to fight. Drunk people have shit Motor skills, so it’s easy to punch them in the face if you know how to.

Horrible advice 

Violence should be the last resource 

You should know the last resource 

[Yimpa]

I wouldn’t know. I only fancy clubs where they don’t provide alcohol.

[Peo]

8 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

I only fancy clubs where they don’t provide alcohol.

Do such thing exist? How would a sober nightclub look like?

Edited October 26 by Peo
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[Yimpa]

5 minutes ago, Peo said:

Do such thing exist? How would a sober nightclub look like?

Well, the one I go to is for neurodiverse folks. Perhaps people like us are already drunk while sober by default 

[hoodrow trillson]

2 hours ago, Peo said:

Do such thing exist? How would a sober nightclub look like?

Hookah lounges where there’s strictly no alcohol allowed.  Although, you’ll find it be a little be less diverse and cliquey.  Still, if you’re like in a city/metropolitan area you’ll find diversity there!  Same music, same vibes and lighting except with hookah! 
 

Personally, middle eastern women are super hot so YMMV

Edited October 27 by hoodrow trillson

[kray]

On 10/26/2024 at 10:07 PM, hoodrow trillson said:

Hookah lounges where there’s strictly no alcohol allowed.  Although, you’ll find it be a little be less diverse and cliquey.  Still, if you’re like in a city/metropolitan area you’ll find diversity there!  Same music, same vibes and lighting except with hookah! 
 

Personally, middle eastern women are super hot so YMMV

It’s haram to touch a women before marriage in Islam