How to enjoy with group meeting?

[jacknine119]

I mean with relatives or traditional people. During partying they talk about very diferrent values than i appreciate like: Family, traditions, unconscious politics and i really can't enjoy with them. What do i do in this situation?

[caspex]

What I do is I let go of my need to impress anyone or appear a certain way. I drop all my usual behaviors and become as satisfied in the moment as possible. This way not a lot bothers me and often I become well liked in that group.

This is because that extra headspace allows you to think of talking points and also helps you know others better, instead of talking about yourself. Moreover, you drop a lot of seriousness regarding your own values so other values don't trigger you as much. Most importantly, since you get to know others better, you become less likely to be triggered by their values as you start understanding them.

It's very enjoyable for me in the moment, but later on it's very tiring as normally I am quite the introvert.

Edited October 24 by caspex

[jacknine119]

Thanks man. I am an introvert, too and its valuable advice. I always try to impress others in the conversation with my "smart" talk but i know it s doesn't matter.