The Psychology Thread ✍️

[Genius100x]

THE CONCEPT OF "REACTANCE"  : 

a psychological response people have when they perceive their freedom to choose or act is being restricted. It was introduced by psychologist Jack Brehm in 1966. Reactance arises when someone feels their autonomy or control is threatened, prompting them to reassert their freedom by doing the opposite of what they're being told, often as a form of resistance.

For example, if someone is told they must not engage in a certain behavior, they might be more inclined to do that exact thing as a way of re-establishing their sense of freedom. This is commonly seen in children, teenagers, or even adults when they face strict rules, punishments, or prohibitions.

Reactance is often linked to rebellious behavior and can make attempts at control, like punishment, backfire if they feel too authoritarian or unfair. 

 

Edited October 23 by Genius100x

[Genius100x]

VIDEOS RELATED TO SUICIDE : 

 

Edited October 25 by Genius100x

[Genius100x]

REMINDER FOR MYSELF: 

NOT TO INDULGE IN TOO MUCH MENTAL MASTURBATION. AND FOCUS ON REAL ACTIONS. 

Edited October 25 by Genius100x

[Genius100x]

LIFE ADVICE 

Don't be moody, grumpy or irritable while talking to people, otherwise you will miss many important things. 

People will hesitate to tell you things. They won't share their feelings with you. They won't share their sweet things with you.

They might even hesitate to tell you important things you wouldn’t want to miss. 

Because nobody wants to talk to a moody person. They want beauty, softness, politeness and people full of life. 

Edited October 25 by Genius100x

[Genius100x]

Journey of a Mother's Grief: A Year-by-Year Timeline After Losing a Child 

 

 

[Genius100x]

A Survivor's Timeline of Recovery After Sexual Assault 

 

[Genius100x]

Some insightful posts : 

Edited October 27 by Genius100x

[Genius100x]

Why Rapes Happen? 

1. Toxic masculinity. Patriarchal mindset. Male ego. Lack of heart. Lack of life. Lack of feelings. Lack of understanding of females. Apathy towards females and no interest in understanding females. 
2. Many animals are produced in the society who don't have anything other than body and savageness. So they don't have even 0.001% empathy. They are stone hearted wild animals. That's why they do extreme brutality while raping.
3. Violent porn. Sexual urges plus objectification of women.
4. It's in the cultural DNA of many humans that a woman is an object of consumption. Everyone in society is programming us to : consume, consume, consume.
5. Toxic males like Andrew Tate, misogynistic songs, misogynistic movies. 

More in-depth contemplation and research is required on this issue. 

Edited October 27 by Genius100x

[Genius100x]

Why Logic & Debates are full of Shit? 

In 10 days of joining the forum, I had arguments with some of the members, and I am now really sick of arguments and debates. [Some members do very well in handling arguments and understanding other's POV, like Evelyna. I appreciate them. ] 

I saw the big picture and became conscious of what's really going on. 

People don't understand the big picture. They don't understand that everyone has different worldviews and different experiences.

They are stuck in their own words/thoughts/bubble rather than looking at the other person's POV, the source from which words are coming. Why someone is saying something? 

There are many cases : 

• Often there are many subtle ways a message can be interpreted. Often people don't interpret things in the same way the speaker intends them to. They CHANGE THEIR DIRECTION (MEANING) IN A SUBTLE WAY AND START DEBATING. 

• Sometimes a message can be utterly illogical, in that case, you can debate. But then there is no point in debating that. Just leave it. 
• Sometimes people won't accept their mistake even after realising they were wrong. In that case too, it's pointless debating with them. 

People have immaturity and lack of understanding. 

So the formula is : 

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Show a willingness to learn and consider multiple points of view, rather than only pushing your own.

If someone has to argue nevertheless, then I am not talking to them. 

If I m considering their POV. They should also consider mine. It cannot be one-sided. There must be mutual understanding. Only then a debate can end. 

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Excerpt from a Leo's video : 

Reason cannot be trusted. This throws a lot of people for a loop, and this is very counterintuitive, but reason and rationality cannot be trusted.

All the highest insights and truths are trans-rational—not irrational, not less than rational, but trans, meaning beyond rational thinking.

Think of it this way: every single criminal, terrorist, murderer, rapist, thief, religious fanatic, con artist, wrongheaded scientist who did bad science, every single political party, every single tyrant and dictator—what do all these people have in common? Reason. You might think, "No, Leo, these people are all unreasonable." No, every single one of these people has very good reasons for why they do what they do and why what they do is exactly right and good and why they should continue doing it. So how can you trust reason? By definition,

REASON ALWAYS FEELS REASONABLE TO THE ONE WHO’S REASONING.

This is what I mean by self-deception and self-bias.

You see, you’re self-biased to your own chains of reasoning, and what you don’t understand is that reason is not a vehicle towards truth. It was never intended for that. Reason is concocted by your mind—by your lawyerly mind, mostly your left hemisphere for most people—in order to justify your egoic agenda. That’s the real function of reason. So, reason, just like a good lawyer, will be able to craft a case and argument for any position, any egoic agenda that you have. So, reason cannot be trusted.

Any time that you hear a speaker who is making appeals to reason, arguing, and framing the situation in such a way that all those people are unreasonable but I’m the reasonable one, and it's through reason that we get to the truth—anytime you hear that, anytime you see a person trying to be extra reasonable—that’s exactly the same as looking at a person who’s trying to be extra moral. You should become immediately suspicious that the person who’s preaching morality and how good he is, and how good everyone can be but how they’re all evil and should be as good as him, and that morality is going to solve everything—you should be immediately suspicious and expect that moralizing person has skeletons in their closet and they’re actually not moral. Well, it’s the same thing with reason, with these people who tout reason as a sort of ideology or a solution to everything. If only we were all more reasonable, then mankind would get along. 

 

When they overlook any point of the other person, debate arises. Both sides must go beyond words and understand each other.

See with a broader lens and get big picture understanding. 

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Sometimes a message is too subtle and complex to explain in words. We shouldn't waste our time in explaining such things. We know what we know, that's enough. No need to share to others. 

Also : No need to reply to every bullshit. 

Edited October 27 by Genius100x

[Genius100x]

I will not give a fuck what anyone thinks about me. What image they create of me.

(in real life, my image matters to some extent...but on social media and online forums...Not at all.) 

Because I am who I am. No one knows the real me. 

Everyone has a different image about a person. Everyone is in illusion. Me too. 

And the image they create doesn't change a thing about me. 

I have to stop being so self judgemental and fully accept myself. 

When I was going through my posts on my profile, I was doubting myself. Am I full of shit? What others might me thinking about me? Etc. 

Edited October 28 by Genius100x

[Yimpa]

Swell work!

[Genius100x]

A beautiful and mature human being demonstrates an admirable quality:

When someone inadvertently hurts them or causes a significant harm, they don't react harshly or scold the person, recognizing that they likely already feel embarrassed and guilty. Instead, they offer understanding and forgiveness. This is greatness. 

We have a tendency to react when someone hurts us. Being conscious even in difficult times is a great quality. 

After all, anyone can make a big mistake. 

They are already feeling bad, don't make them feel worse. Don't focus only on your problems and your sorrows. 

Edited October 29 by Genius100x

[Genius100x]

Everyone is trying to survive. Everyone is in a bubble fighting for their own survival needs. I am not talking only about food, water, etc. I am talking about other subtle needs as well. 

Notice this next time you are in a crowd. Look closely at the people around you. What every "insect" is doing ? 

I am not excluding myself. 

Edited October 29 by Genius100x

[Genius100x]

Both aggression (energy, speed) and peace (sadness, peace, stillness) are important. 

Both HEROISM and SURRENDER (seeing our limitation that we can't do everything) are important. 

Both anger and softness are important. 

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Other such points : 

Both demotivation and motivation are important. 

Both pain and pleasure are important. 

Both depression and happiness are important. 

Both night and day are important. 

Both failure and success are important. 

Being both HERO and VILLAIN are important for me. 

Both BEGINNING and END are important. Both creation and destruction are important. Both sunrise and sunset are important. Both LIFE (sunrise, freshness & enthusiasm) and DEATH (sunset, emotions, peace) are important. 

💬

We cannot know one without the other. 

Edited October 29 by Genius100x

[Genius100x]

Goodbye.