I feel too "ugly" to go out and pickup girls

[Schizophonia]

7 hours ago, Asia P said:

As a woman, i would FEAR a man with this specific requests about the appearences of a woman. Theres a huge difference between saying "i need a beautiful girl" and "i need this measure of tits and this type of ass". Its scary because it seems like ur choosing your girl like an object in a store. 

You do the same with guys, actually i remember you did a topic where you explained hesitating between some men lol.

You supposedly weigh the pros and cons differently, but in fine you always have criterias.

Edited November 2, 2024 by Schizophonia

[Asia P]

23 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

You do the same with guys, actually i remember you did a topic where you explained hesitating between some men lol.

You supposedly weigh the pros and cons differently, but in fine you always have criterias.

i wasnt talking about beauty, i had a problem with feelings. U like criticize a lot my friend😂

 

[Sugarcoat]

Don’t make the women feel you’re only into them for their appearance. Can be a turn off

this thought just came to me spontaneously. Maybe it has value or not

Edited November 3, 2024 by Sugarcoat

[Sugarcoat]

To answer your question yes some women date down in looks. The guy must have had above average game in those cases . Or woman has lower standards

[Schizophonia]

17 minutes ago, Asia P said:

i wasnt talking about beauty, i had a problem with feelings. U like criticize a lot my friend😂

 

Beauty contributes to feelings.

Your dichotomy is useless, in fine it's always about using a men as an object of satisfaction ;A nd it's normal, it's the purpose of a relation.

There is no objective value, it's only a subjective substance and that's why we have difficulties to say the other is an object, because by projection it induces we have no objective value, and it's difficult relatively to secondary narcissism.

That's why there is more and more idealists peoples (vegans for exemple, there is plenty of other ones) in developed society, people become too soft to confronting and transcend illusion of secondary narcissism and will try to cancel everything that potentially remember them that ("we born alone", "we die alone", "everything is possible", "there is no place to hide", etcetc.)

[Schizophonia]

12 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Don’t make the women feel you’re only into them for their appearance. Can be a turn off

this thought just came to me spontaneously. Maybe it has value or not

OP was bullied as a child for not being good looking enough or something. Now he's acting out that querulousness so he doesn't have to confront his trauma by exposing himself to what would be a demonstration that he's actually not good enough.

A bit like the obese women who cope by having an unpleasant character, but in man version.

[Schizophonia]

If tomorrow a nice 6/10 wants to get in a relationship with him, the topic will be deleted within the hour lol. 😂

100% guaranteed

[Sugarcoat]

1 minute ago, Schizophonia said:

OP was bullied as a child for not being good looking enough or something. Now he's acting out that querulousness so he doesn't have to confront his trauma by exposing himself to what would be a demonstration that he's actually not good enough.

A bit like the obese women who cope by having an unpleasant character, but in man version.

How is unpleasant character a cope for an obese woman? What would be a demonstration that he’s actually not good enough?

[Sugarcoat]

2 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

If tomorrow a nice 6/10 wants to get in a relationship with him, the topic will be deleted within the hour lol. 😂

100% guaranteed

You really think he’s ready to commit to an average girl when he has hotties and ass and tits on his mind?

[Schizophonia]

15 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

How is unpleasant character a cope for an obese woman? What would be a demonstration that he’s actually not good enough?

If you have been humiliated on being ugly (for exemple) you will repress the possibility of loving ugly person, because loving an ugly person tacitly means you are not so attractive yourself and it will revived the trauma, because the psyche has eventually been structured around the deny of the emotion.

Loving a non attractive person = Tacitly, eventually means (according to your history) you're not attractive = Living again the trauma (emotions)of being considered non attractive, sometime with violence.

Many fat women (not all, I mean proportionally, relative to thin women) have a bad character because in their imagination they have to defend themselves against a signifier, a hostile "other", ready to destroy and humiliate them.
Becoming "normal" again, chill, would put them in a weak position in their paranoid delirium.

Being fat is also associated with higher estrogen level, estrogen increase aggression and the chose of a strategy of conflict/deny instead of pity.

People who are hormonally weaker, or simply neuro-endocrinally weaker, will be more likely to harm themselves and feel sorry for themselves.

13 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

You really think he’s ready to commit to an average girl when he has hotties and ass and tits on his mind?

Naa, don't worry.

It's a mental gymnastic, a neurotic whim.

 

Edited November 3, 2024 by Schizophonia

[Sugarcoat]

8 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

If you have been humiliated on being ugly (for exemple) you will repress the possibility of loving ugly person, because loving an ugly person tacitly means you are not so attractive yourself and it will revived the trauma, because the psyche has eventually been structured around the deny of the emotion.

Loving a non attractive person = Tacitly, eventually means (according to your history) you're not attractive = Living again the trauma (emotions)of being considered non attractive, sometime with violence.

Many fat women (not all, I mean proportionally, relative to thin women) have a bad character because in their imagination they have to defend themselves against a signifier, a hostile "other", ready to destroy and humiliate them.
Becoming "normal" again, chill, would put them in a weak position in their paranoid delirium.

Being fat is also associated with higher estrogen level, estrogen increase aggression and the chose of a strategy of conflict/deny instead of pity.

People who are hormonally weaker, or simply neuro-endocrinally weaker, will be more likely to harm themselves and feel sorry for themselves

Okay I see. For once I could somewhat understand what you wrote

[Schizophonia]

Just now, Sugarcoat said:

Okay I see. For once I could somewhat understand what you wrote

☹️☹️☹️

 

[Sugarcoat]

11 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Naa, don't worry.

It's a mental gymnastic, a neurotic whim

maybe if he lacks success with hotter girls he would eventually be able to settle with an average girl. But for now it seems he is pretty set on getting a hottie

Edited November 3, 2024 by Sugarcoat

[Sugarcoat]

1 minute ago, Schizophonia said:

☹️☹️☹️

 

😂

[Schizophonia]

2 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

😂

 

[Schizophonia]

3 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

maybe if he lacks success with hotter girls he would eventually be able to settle with an average girl. But for now it seems he is pretty set on getting a hottie

Well that's his problem.

[Sugarcoat]

2 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Well that's his problem.

This post sounds more like he hasn’t approached many “hotties” YET and is asking if it’s doable or cringe. So I’m saying if he does do a lot of approaches on hotties and keeps failing over and over even after trying to improve his game maybe then he’d be able to settle for an average girl. 

[Schizophonia]

1 minute ago, Sugarcoat said:

This post sounds more like he hasn’t approached many “hotties” YET and is asking if it’s doable or cringe. So I’m saying if he does do a lot of approaches on hotties and keeps failing over and over even after trying to improve his game maybe then he’d be able to settle for an average girl. 

For me the tacit real goal is to express his neurotic by yelling at us that he deserves a "hottie".

He probably don't approach girls at all.

[Sugarcoat]

3 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

For me the tacit real goal is to express his neurotic by yelling at us that he deserves a "hottie".

I don’t see that really

[Sugarcoat]

3 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

He probably don't approach girls at all.

Doesn’t seem he has done much of it as of YET no.