If a girl sits on the opposite couch ?

[UpperMaster]

55 minutes ago, Bando said:

"Why are you sitting so far it feels like I'm talking with my bro"

bro landed safely w that one I cant lie 

[Xonas Pitfall]

@Princess Arabia Thank you so much! <3 Helpful stuff!

[Princess Arabia]

36 minutes ago, Xonas Pitfall said:

@Princess Arabia Thank you so much! <3 Helpful stuff!

🥰

[Leo Gura]

Criticizing her for sitting in the wrong place is a bad move. This will put her in a bad mood and then no sex for you.

You shouldn't use logic to solve problems like this.

Edited October 18 by Leo Gura

[Javfly33]

It can only mean two things, she was either not completely safe/comfortable or she just didn´t like you/is attracted to you.

[Davino]

When dealing with women tests this attitude is to be taken:

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DAUjTVsPFxL/?igsh=aWhnYWp5N3F0Nnc1

You gotta feel comfortable in the midst of the storm. Penetrate all her layers and infuse your milky love in her Heart.

 

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

This will put her in a bad mood and then no sex for you

Sex isn't that special by your standards so who cares. The rest of your comment is pretty much what I mean by "earning it". He was careful in his approach and didn't take it for granted. Just like people do with "earning respect", and "earning trust". Same kind of thing.

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Javfly33 said:

or she just didn´t like you/is attracted to you.

This means nothing to a woman's "standoffishness". She could be mesmerized by you and still place herself apart/away from you. (this isn't a game she's playing, it's an instinctual thing). BTW, when a female really likes you is when, in the beginning, she treads on thin ice, for fear of sending the "easy" signal or likes you so much she wants to prolong the initial stages or for any other reason and wants you to really like her back also. There's a reason she was at his place to begin with; don't know the details so this is all speculation; but women get reserved sometimes when they really, really like you. Guys can only know these types of things from other women.

[Majed]

@Princess Arabia i think what he means by sex isn’t special for men, is that men look at sex as a material not a spiritual activity. It’s like eating food, eating food can be a spiritual activity, you can delve healthy nutrition, or try cuisines from different cultures refining your tastebuds... but for most people they just eat food in a material way to fill their hunger primarily. 

Same with sex, sex can be a union of two souls or whatever but for most guys it’s just about busting a nut. 

[Leo Gura]

5 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Sex isn't that special by your standards so who cares. The rest of your comment is pretty much what I mean by "earning it". He was careful in his approach and didn't take it for granted. Just like people do with "earning respect", and "earning trust". Same kind of thing.

The reality is that women don't treat sex as special either. They just act like they do. But in practice women sleep around based on mood.

Edited October 19 by Leo Gura

[NoSelfSelf]

Sex is not special then making it about sex is next level cognitive dissonance.

[Lyubov]

Whenever I had a girl come over I used to get sloppy and put a clean unfolded pile of laundry on my one seater so there was only the coach. This was years ago. Do not follow my lead. 

[The Renaissance Man]

@NoSelfSelf make a distinction between special as in a "deep experience" and something you just physically want. By not special I think Leo refers to the first one, and you're referring to the second. No dissonance there.

[NoSelfSelf]

11 minutes ago, The Renaissance Man said:

@NoSelfSelf make a distinction between special as in a "deep experience" and something you just physically want. By not special I think Leo refers to the first one, and you're referring to the second. No dissonance there.

If the whole purpose of asking a woman to come to your place is sex(or in genera), then you gonna think about how to get it,you gonna look to manipulate the situation and sex is in your mind not you, when you place something above yourself its special.If sex is not special then you know it will happen just because you are "the guy" but if you dont think you are "the guy" you gonna make sex special.

Edited October 19 by NoSelfSelf

[gettoefl]

4 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

The reality is that women don't treat sex as special either. They just act like they do. But in practice women sleep around based on mood.

I counter that there is minimal advantage for a woman sleeping around

High risk, scant reward, poor mental health

I say that casual sex leave women feeling shitty, unfulfilled and jaded

To most men it's a major part of life purpose at least while young

Notches on the belt are his pride and joy

She will not tell a soul for the shame and judgement she will face

Sex is visiting the innards of a woman body and for her cannot be treated that lightly

Edited October 19 by gettoefl

[Princess Arabia]

5 hours ago, Majed said:

Same with sex, sex can be a union of two souls or whatever but for most guys it’s just about busting a nut. 

Yeah, most guys I guess when you casually meet them and give it up easily. 

[Princess Arabia]

5 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

The reality is that women don't treat sex as special either. They just act like they do. But in practice women sleep around based on mood.

I guess. I forget.

Edited October 19 by Princess Arabia

[Javfly33]

12 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

This means nothing to a woman's "standoffishness". She could be mesmerized by you and still place herself apart/away from you. (this isn't a game she's playing, it's an instinctual thing). BTW, when a female really likes you is when, in the beginning, she treads on thin ice, for fear of sending the "easy" signal or likes you so much she wants to prolong the initial stages or for any other reason and wants you to really like her back also. There's a reason she was at his place to begin with; don't know the details so this is all speculation; but women get reserved sometimes when they really, really like you. Guys can only know these types of things from other women.

Nothing like that has ever happened to me. When Girls have been really into me is clear and noticiable. Everything is offensively "easy".

The other ones...well, maybe you can "fight It" and try to seduce them/Win them over. But...is usually a Lost Battle. 

When a girl is attracted to a Guy/feels comfortable with, is very easy for the man to escalate. Is not even escalation is walking the stairs and she is waiting for you 

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Javfly33 said:

Nothing like that has ever happened to me. When Girls have been really into me is clear and noticiable. Everything is offensively "easy".

The other ones...well, maybe you can "fight It" and try to seduce them/Win them over. But...is usually a Lost Battle. 

When a girl is attracted to a Guy/feels comfortable with, is very easy for the man to escalate. Is not even escalation is walking the stairs and she is waiting for you 

Yes, I get that, just saying what I'm saying could also be the case. I'm not saying she's cold and distant and you have to really wonder if she likes you. What I'm saying is, you know she likes you because you can sense or feel it, but she still acts reserved to take things slow. She wants you to talk to her, play around with her and so on but just because she seems a little distant and she's not touchy touchy doesn't mean she doesn't like you. IOW, don't use a female's physical cues as to whether she likes you or not, use her eyes, the fact that she's smiling and appears to be enjoying your company and her body language. 

[Lyubov]

I agree sex isn’t as a big of deal for women as it’s understood by most men, but I do think on average they take it a bit more seriously and take on more physical risks which they are aware of, the dynamic which most women have sex also makes it so that they also tend to get a little more quickly attached and fall in love quicker than the man. I’m not sure I entirely agree with this but generally women will go after men they see as above their pay grade on the dating chart in their mind while men date women at their pay grade or down in their mind. So it sets it up so the woman has more invested in it in her expectations than the man, at first. So you see a lot of women this make a big deal after sex when it doesn’t work out, cause to them they lost an opportunity.