The Way of The Superior Man, 10/10

[Ayham]

This book is just gold, I made this post to encourage anyone who hasn't read it to read it.

[Davino]

I recommend it also

[Princess Arabia]

Thank you.

[Princess Arabia]

I will post in the Audio book section.

[Lyubov]

I read it once. It’s good. I will reread it. 

[NoSelfSelf]

Its alright it teaches surface level stuff nothing that impactful.

[Davino]

2 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Its alright it teaches surface level stuff nothing that impactful.

Depends on when you read it. For young adults it's particularly impactful. If you are already a grown ass man, it's not something life hasn't already given you hints about.

[NoSelfSelf]

13 minutes ago, Davino said:

Depends on when you read it. For young adults it's particularly impactful. If you are already a grown ass man, it's not something life hasn't already given you hints about.

Its not really teaching you about manhood just about clues here and there.

[hyruga]

The actual book and the audio tapes of the way of the superior man actually have some content which are different (around 50% difference).

Edited October 13, 2024 by hyruga

[Ayham]

4 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Its alright it teaches surface level stuff nothing that impactful.

It was pretty insightful to me as someone who doesn't really have experience with relationships yet, I'm still 17

[Ayham]

10 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Thank you.

No problem!

Actually i think you in particular would like it, assuming from my limited knowledge about you from some forum posts 

[NoSelfSelf]

6 minutes ago, Ayham said:

It was pretty insightful to me as someone who doesn't really have experience with relationships yet, I'm still 17

It is insightful, i more said about the actual impact that will have on you, is close to nothing. That's my opinion.

[Ayham]

6 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

It is insightful, i more said about the actual impact that will have on you, is close to nothing. That's my opinion.

Got it. 

In my opinion, that applies to all self-help books, which is why I only listen to them as audiobooks, and keep the actual reading to heavier things, like science or philosophy or whatever.

 

[Davino]

57 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

It is insightful, i more said about the actual impact that will have on you, is close to nothing. That's my opinion.

It was the first book that opened my mind to the whole sexuality & masculine/feminine psychology. It lead me to reading many other books, watching dozens of videos about this content and getting huge experience with women and in my relationship.

I recommended this book to a friend going through a very tough break up and changed his life forever. He read it twice, firt in english and then in spanish. So I really consider this book from David Deida quite top for young adults.

2 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Its not really teaching you about manhood just about clues here and there.

What book would you recommend? Let's keep it to books, what book is out there which really teaches manhood?

Edited October 13, 2024 by Davino

[UpperMaster]

I've read it so many times, but there are still a lot of things I don't get. It really frustrates me when people in the mainstream talk about concepts from the book without having any idea what they're actually talking about.

One example is the idea of finding your purpose. The way he explains it is by saying you should "relax into your consciousness" and live from there, finding your purpose that way. He says you don’t find your purpose from your thoughts because they’re always changing and come from the feminine. I kind of get what he’s saying—he’s clearly talking about something we can all relate to—but I still don’t fully understand what he means by "relax into your masculine" or "relax into your unchanging consciousness" to find your purpose. 

Leo's approach to finding purpose heavily includes thought process, and it makes sense to plan out your life carefully. But Deida is talking about something completely different that I just don't get. He says we shouldn't get distracted by the feminine, which includes thoughts and anything that changes, while the masculine is consciousness. Like, okay cool thanks. 

 

Here's what he says about, please read it, and if you understand someone please explain it to me: https://deida.info/2016/02/14/deep-purpose/

 

[UpperMaster]

@hyruga the audio-tapes go more indepth but still like the basic terms have to be explained more I feel

[Ayham]

@UpperMaster 
Okay here is how I understand it, your purpose reveals itself to you in solitude and silence.
When you are distracted by the "feminine" or chaos, or thoughts, or whatever, you are constantly lost in the day to day activities, he describes life purpose as layers, like an onion, you have a superficial layer, which might be... build a sexy body and get bitches, then maybe a bit deeper layer which might be... get a car and a house... then something like contribute to society or family or whatever, the deepest layer would be spiritual realization. 

So, your current purpose changes constantly, you must sit in silence, in solitude, undistracted by the "feminine" and it will reveal itself to you, this can be done by just going on a retreat, taking a day off and just sitting with yourself with no distractions, etc.

Until you exhaust this purpose, which you will know when you feel so easy and capable and used to it, you just don't see the point anymore, it lost meaning to you, then you retreat into solitude and a new purpose emerges, a new layer of the onion peeled.

To be honest that's how I understood it, Leo's approach is cool, these are all maps, none of them is an objective truth, mix and combine.

Sitting as awareness undistracted would mean, basically just sitting, not trying a specific meditation technique or doing something or reading or whatever, just being and sitting, doing nothing.

Edited October 13, 2024 by Ayham

[Davino]

@UpperMaster Purpose is not his mastery. Sexuality and masculine/feminine psychology is.

The fact authors have opinions over other areas doesn't mean they are good. I find his comments quite poor. He is clear about the need for purpose and the big picture for the masculine psyche, but he can't deliver on the implementation of that need, which is a very niche endevour.

[NoSelfSelf]

6 hours ago, Davino said:

It was the first book that opened my mind to the whole sexuality & masculine/feminine psychology. It lead me to reading many other books, watching dozens of videos about this content and getting huge experience with women and in my relationship.

I recommended this book to a friend going through a very tough break up and changed his life forever. He read it twice, firt in english and then in spanish. So I really consider this book from David Deida quite top for young adults.

What book would you recommend? Let's keep it to books, what book is out there which really teaches manhood?

I didnt learn it from books.