mr_engineer

Are your social comfort-levels your responsibility?

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26 minutes ago, Marcel said:

I’m not in the business of convincing you of anything lol 

That meme is socially calibrated by the way.

All in all, it’s a comedic commentary on your views and character, because that’s how you come across.
 

If she is so socially calibrated, why can't she hold her own abusers accountable?! What's the point of being socially calibrated, if you can't even exercise your rights in the world?! Isn't the meme a giant projection?! 

Why should I take this shit from a weak individual who cannot even protect her rights?! You have to understand that this is all she's capable of doing. Making memes about random anonymous people she doesn't know a goddamn thing about, while getting abused by actual criminals out in the real world. 

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Stop caring about what women are doing for the love of god.

 


There is nothing safe with playing it safe.

 

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Just now, NoSelfSelf said:

Stop caring about what women are doing for the love of god.

 

It helps me see through their BS. 

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4 minutes ago, mr_engineer said:

It helps me see through their BS. 

You are underestimating women,big mistake they can play you so fast you wont even see it.Focus on your Bs, better use of the time.

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There is nothing safe with playing it safe.

 

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2 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

You are underestimating women,big mistake they can play you so fast you wont even see it.Focus on your Bs, better use of the time.

When you say 'focus on your BS', you don't really have anything specific in mind, right?! It's just theoretical nonsense.

I mean, I can just say 'no, you focus on your BS instead of policing me' and what would you say to that?! 

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Just now, mr_engineer said:

When you say 'focus on your BS', you don't really have anything specific in mind, right?! It's just theoretical nonsense.

I mean, I can just say 'no, you focus on your BS instead of policing me' and what would you say to that?! 

Wow its like i stepped on the squeaky toy, i mean i can say them but you will say how wrong i am ,so i dont wanna waste my time on you.


There is nothing safe with playing it safe.

 

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And I who was so sure there would be a nice atmosphere in this thread.

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16 hours ago, mr_engineer said:

You got your boundaries, I got mine. 

Why do you get to have a monopoly on deciding what's 'appropriate social behavior'?! This is my rule for the people I associate with - do not use this term. For me, or for anyone. I prefer to deal with people who take responsibility for their own feelings and emotions, who do not blame others for them. 

You keep acting like I'm prying into your boundaries. But I'm not evenly remotely curious about what you have going on in your life.

I just happen to suspect that you're getting called creepy on the regular because of your fixation on this topic.

Either that, or you have some hypothetical situation (that'll never happen) playing out in your mind where you're just existing and being normal and a bunch of bat-shit crazy women come out of the wood work to randomly besmirch your reputation and call you creepy. 

I see no other explanations that fit. What else is there to assume?

But you're the one that's determining 'appropriate social behavior' by trying to police others uses of the word creepy.

And that's fine if you don't want to spend time around people who use the word creepy. But because 99.99% of people use that word to communicate something practical, you're going to be a bit lonely.

Like, if some guy on the street starts being sexually inappropriate towards you... you're probably not going to describe it to a friend you're seeking help from as "That guy's being a narcissist." Your friend won't really understand the jist of what you're saying. They'd be like "He was being selfish?"

Instead, you would say "That guy over there is being a creep/pervert/etc.." And then, the intended meaning would shine through.


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7 hours ago, mr_engineer said:

If she is so socially calibrated, why can't she hold her own abusers accountable?! What's the point of being socially calibrated, if you can't even exercise your rights in the world?! Isn't the meme a giant projection?! 

Why should I take this shit from a weak individual who cannot even protect her rights?! You have to understand that this is all she's capable of doing. Making memes about random anonymous people she doesn't know a goddamn thing about, while getting abused by actual criminals out in the real world. 

Holding abusers accountable is a big task but your child like mind cannot grasp that. You only start arguments by opening such threads. How successful are you in holding women accountable in real life with your so called bullshit principles of social calibration? Answer - (). You can just babble on anonymous forums lol. You are preaching others about social calibration when you can't even practice it in real life. You get so offended by the word creep because you are the weaker one. You are not in a position to point out others weaknesses when you don't even have the balls to step outside your online space and do it in real life, so keep babbling on a forum, not gonna waste time on your nonsense threads. So when is the next thread on the same subject again hahaha. Guys like you need a reality check to their fragile ego. Nobody gives a damn about your creepy social calibration, thank god for society. Keep babbling into hollow space and empty forum spaces to get some validation for your wicked ideas lol. Pitiful. This is not incel hub for your kind information. It's my bad I decided to give attention to your nonsense. Try doing what you want to do in real life instead of preaching your weak sauce online by opening threads for your ego validation. My meme wasn't about social calibration. It was a mirror to show you what you are, but you'll only understand it when you reach that social calibration lmao. And I know that instead of reflecting on your own ego and it's fragility you'll again give some fancy retort to this post as well. I guess it fulfills your ego that way. Well I'm glad to know that your so called creepy social calibration doesn't work in real life, ladies are protected from your mindset,so that's a huge victory. Keep holding to your illusions, they serve you well. Also the word creep is not going out of the dictionary, so that's another victory over your mindset. You can keep building castles in air. Guess there are too many squeaky toys people step on. 

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My name is Reena Gerlach and I'm a woman of few words. 

 

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2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

Holding abusers accountable is a big task but your child like mind cannot grasp that.

The point being, you're not doing that. You're the one babbling on anonymous forums instead. 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

How successful are you in holding women accountable in real life with your so called bullshit principles of social calibration? Answer - (). You can just babble on anonymous forums lol. You are preaching others about social calibration when you can't even practice it in real life.

Blah blah blah assumptions about the anonymous guy. 

You don't actually know me, because I'm anonymous. 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

You get so offended by the word creep because you are the weaker one.

So, the abuser is the stronger one? I should become an abuser, instead of telling you how to hold them accountable?! Maybe I should, it sounds more rewarding, given the way you're acting. 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

You are not in a position to point out others weaknesses when you don't even have the balls to step outside your online space and do it in real life, so keep babbling on a forum, not gonna waste time on your nonsense threads.

Where have I talked about my real life?! 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

So when is the next thread on the same subject again hahaha. Guys like you need a reality check to their fragile ego.

Projection. 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

Nobody gives a damn about your creepy social calibration, thank god for society.

Oh, they do. Women live in fear of what they call 'creepy guys', simps force other guys to 'be socially calibrated'. I'm the one who doesn't give a damn!! 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

Keep babbling into hollow space and empty forum spaces to get some validation for your wicked ideas lol. Pitiful.

Thanks for the validation. Not that I give a shit, but thanks anyways. 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

This is not incel hub for your kind information.

This is man-hate. 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

It's my bad I decided to give attention to your nonsense.

Actually, I agree. If you don't have anything logical to say, it's also a waste of my time. 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

Try doing what you want to do in real life instead of preaching your weak sauce online by opening threads for your ego validation.

Finally, someone saying 'try doing what you want to do in real life'. Maybe I will, because none of you had logical arguments against what I've been saying. 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

My meme wasn't about social calibration. It was a mirror to show you what you are, but you'll only understand it when you reach that social calibration lmao.

Your meme wasn't about social-calibration. I just said that it's not socially calibrated on your part, because you were being disrespectful. 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

And I know that instead of reflecting on your own ego and it's fragility you'll again give some fancy retort to this post as well. I guess it fulfills your ego that way.

I'm not giving your ego what it wants, that's for sure. 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

Well I'm glad to know that your so called creepy social calibration doesn't work in real life, ladies are protected from your mindset,so that's a huge victory.

You won the battle, but you lost the war. 

You don't need protection from what someone else thinks, you need protection from what someone else does. You're not holding the abusers accountable, so you're not protected from them. You're the one fighting the wrong battles. 

I'm telling you, don't waste your time with me, do something that's actually productive for your own life. 

2 hours ago, Buck Edwards said:

Keep holding to your illusions, they serve you well. Also the word creep is not going out of the dictionary, so that's another victory over your mindset. You can keep building castles in air. Guess there are too many squeaky toys people step on. 

It's out of my dictionary and I'm not going to entertain anyone or satisfy the ego of anyone who clings to it. I'm more evolved than this and I expect more evolution from the people I deal with. 

Keep in mind that you're the one giving attention to my 'weak sauce' thread. I'm not the one who asked you to comment. 

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6 minutes ago, mr_engineer said:

It's out of my dictionary and I'm not going to entertain anyone or satisfy the ego of anyone who clings to it. I'm more evolved than this and I expect more evolution from the people I deal with. 

Nobody gives a damn about your expectations. 


My name is Reena Gerlach and I'm a woman of few words. 

 

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1 minute ago, Buck Edwards said:

Nobody gives a damn about your expectations. 

Oh, so now the woman who can't hold abusers accountable is trying to speak for 'everybody'?! 

Get a grip. 

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12 minutes ago, mr_engineer said:

Oh, so now the woman who can't hold abusers accountable is trying to speak for 'everybody'?! 

Get a grip. 

You can't accept facts. That's the deal here. Your ideas won't fly in real life. So you use every possible attack to deflect your own reality. But anyway no wasting time on you anymore. Goodluck with your fantasies. 


My name is Reena Gerlach and I'm a woman of few words. 

 

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1 minute ago, Buck Edwards said:

You can't accept facts. That's the deal here. Your ideas won't fly in real life. So you use every possible attack to deflect your own reality. But anyway no wasting time on you anymore. Goodluck with your fantasies. 

But the abuser's ideas will fly in real life?! 

To me, you have zero credibility because you can't hold abusers accountable. 

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12 minutes ago, mr_engineer said:

But the abuser's ideas will fly in real life?! 

To me, you have zero credibility because you can't hold abusers accountable. 

That's a safety issue. It's something the law should deal with. You can't expect me to do karate with an abuser or rapist. Even a guy will find it tough to physically fight a strong man, how can you expect a woman to do that. Calling the cops looks easy to you, it's not easy in real life. But you're completely out of touch with reality itself, so who's gonna teach you. You can sit with your childish fantasies. Nobody said that the abuser's ideas will fly, it's just that society doesn't have enough ways to deal with it. It's not easy to punish someone who intends to harm people, so this is not an individual issue. Just because a guy cannot fight another guy doesn't make him weak. Then why call me weak. Anybody can be physically strong, this is not a big deal. And to be afraid for one's life is a genuine fear, so why are you mocking that.

It's easy for a girl to call a guy creep to make him back off, it's a fear tactic especially if he is acting like a creep. If someone called you a creep and you didn't do anything wrong to them, then they are just being awkward and wrong, why do you take it personally when they are being foolish. But if many people are calling you a creep, then maybe genuinely consider why they're doing it, it could be your fault in that case that you are probably doing something that is making people uncomfortable.

And when someone feels uncomfortable and they call you a creep, well that's their way of signaling you that you are making them uncomfortable. Try this. You approach a guy the way you approach a woman. Maybe even he might be creeped out. So who is at fault here. If majority of people are feeling creeped out, you might have to take responsibility that you are doing something that they are not liking, and this is your own responsibility and choice. Look, even if you don't do it, only you'll suffer because when people feel uncomfortable with your vibe, they automatically move away, you can't blame them, it's just how society works and nobody made these rules, society has evolved through our biological function, so if people feel uncomfortable by your words or gestures then that's their genuine biological reaction and you can't change someone's brain chemistry. 

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My name is Reena Gerlach and I'm a woman of few words. 

 

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2 minutes ago, Marcel said:

What are you talking about lmao 🤣 

How on earth did you manage to correlate making a meme with “holding abusers accountable”.

You are out of your mind hahahahah 

You people need to go learn what is a crime and what's not a crime, what rights women have vs what rights they don't have, before coming and lecturing me about 'social-calibration'. That's my point. 

You're trying to lecture me about how to win a game, when you yourselves don't even know the rules. 

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1 minute ago, mr_engineer said:

You people need to go learn what is a crime and what's not a crime, what rights women have vs what rights they don't have, before coming and lecturing me about 'social-calibration'. That's my point. 

You're trying to lecture me about how to win a game, when you yourselves don't even know the rules. 

With your mindset, you're obviously never going to land a woman, why fight so hard. And you as a man should have no right or place to talk about woman's rights lol. Why you should have an authority on women. Who cares about your views on women. Your talk is so regressive. As though you own women. Who cares. Women have come far in how they have progressed and you can't lecture them on women's rights. Your opinions belong to the caveman age. Frankly you're being sexist trying to own women's expression. 


My name is Reena Gerlach and I'm a woman of few words. 

 

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3 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

With your mindset, you're obviously never going to land a woman, why fight so hard.

Oh, so now the woman who can't hold abusers accountable is trying to speak for 'all women'. Just brilliant. 

3 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

And you as a man should have no right or place to talk about woman's rights lol. Why you should have an authority on women. Who cares about your views on women. Your talk is so regressive. As though you own women. Who cares.

You care enough to come here and talk smack about me. 

3 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

Women have come far in how they have progressed and you can't lecture them on women's rights. Your opinions belong to the caveman age. Frankly you're being sexist trying to own women's expression. 

Lol. You can't even hold your abusers accountable. Very good progress, very proud of you. 

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13 minutes ago, mr_engineer said:

Oh, so now the woman who can't hold abusers accountable is trying to speak for 'all women'. Just brilliant. 

The question is. Why not? Any woman can speak for women. We are all women. Who are you to tell me that I shouldn't speak for other women. There are many women who are victims of abusers the way I have been a victim. You don't have the right to shame me. I don't have to be some gangster or karate master to speak for all women.. I can do whatever I want. It's entitlement my as a woman. Who are you to question my authority over my own womanhood? I am not lecturing you on your manhood. I didn't say anything about your manhood. And if a woman called you a creep, why are you approaching her? Who gives you the right to approach and harass a woman? You have your rights as a man but don't go overboard. If you infringe on a woman's freedom of expression, then she will obviously call you a creep.

You're expecting respect out of women when you yourself are being totally disrespectful to them. If you cross her boundaries, she will call you a creep. You can approach women if you want, but stay within your limits. And if you don't, then being called a creep is completely justifiable. And yes I can speak for all women. You are a man. You have no right to decide my autonomy or freedom of my expression. You can sit and bark on a park bench. But if you bark at a woman, she will bark at you. It's you who doesn't understand the difference between rights of men and women. Nobody took your rights from you, so stop playing the victim card. If you infringe on others rights or their freedom to express their feelings, which you don't have the right to do, they will attack your feelings in return and that's completely justified and a fair game. It's you who should get a grip. 

Edited by Buck Edwards

My name is Reena Gerlach and I'm a woman of few words. 

 

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2 minutes ago, Marcel said:

I so so wish you were a women and actually had to fight for your rights or protect yourself from abusers.

You have no understanding of the real world

 

 

It is so easy to screenshot whatever nonsense this guy has sent and post it on twitter with #MeToo. Women have so many options! 

1 minute ago, Buck Edwards said:

The question is. Why not? Any woman can speak for women. We are all women. Who are you to tell me that I shouldn't speak for other women. There are many women who are victims of abusers like me. You don't have the right to shame me. I don't have to be some gangster or karate master to speak for all women.. I can do whatever I want. It's entitlement my as a woman. Who are you to question my authority over my own womanhood?

There are genuinely empowered women in the world who will not take shit from any man. Maybe you need to learn a thing or two from them. 

1 minute ago, Buck Edwards said:

I am not lecturing you on your manhood. I didn't say anything about your manhood. And if a woman called you a creep, why are you approaching her? Who gives you the right to approach and harass a woman? You have your rights as a man but don't go overboard. If you infringe on a woman's freedom of expression, then she will obviously call you a creep.

You are telling me that 'you won't land a woman', like you're giving me a curse. 

2 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

You're expecting respect out of women when you yourself are being totally disrespectful to them. If you cross her boundaries, she will call you a creep. You can approach women if you want, but stay within your limits. And if you don't, then being called a creep is completely justifiable. And yes I can speak for all women. You are a man. You have no right to decide my autonomy or freedom of my expression. You can sit and bark on a park bench. But if you bark at a woman, she will bark at you. It's you who doesn't understand the difference between rights of men and women. Nobody took your rights from you, so stop playing the victim card. If you infringe on others rights or their freedom to express their feelings, which you don't have the right to do, they will attack your feelings in return and that's completely justified and a fair game. It's you who should get a grip. 

Oh, so now the woman who can't hold abusers accountable is talking about 'respect'. Have you heard of self-respect?! 

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