Some insights about Humiliation trauma

[Javfly33]

 

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Resorting to a sense of shame is also a way of seeking to control what is uncontrollable by admitting or claiming one's part in it: the victim blames himself for doing wrong, not the person who has wronged him.

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Feeling guilt (like feeling shame) in response to humiliation is a way of trying to make sense of the inexplicable, of trying to impose a pattern on what otherwise appears as random, arbitrary behaviour. This is particularly common in childhood. It is safer, psychologically, for a child to see himself as a bad child, rather than as a child with bad parents. In doing so, he is able to cling to a sense of basic fairness and to avoid admitting the injustice of the humiliating acts.

Complete article here: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4560131/

 

It seems the mind resorts to this kind of mental justifications (like shame or guilt) because it needs the world to be fair or make sense.

Since it can´t change the perpetrator of the abuse or make the abuse dissappear, it adjusts itself within as the bad one (guilt, shame, etc), so the acts of humiliation or abuse "make sense". 

Edited October 10, 2024 by Javfly33

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