A "high quality man"

[MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI]

1.  On this forum I hear too much of women's problem being finding  a high quality man. For men it's even finding a woman at all.
2. Women have it easier when it comes to dating. They are rarely without a partner. 
3. For us men we go long periods without a single female. Literally ask your local female when the last time she had sex was. Typically the longest you'll hear is "one month ago". 
4. I'm an attractive male and have been told numerous times that I should model(and that I look like Lenny kravitz). But it does nothing dating wise.
5. People think being attractive means you just get women and that is complete bullshit. 
6. For instance - my sister has not studied any "game theory". She always has a boyfriend. My older brother always Has a gf be cause he is very extroverted. 
7. Is it a problem of social circle?

Why do men struggle to get women but women can just wake up and find a man??? It makes no sense. I even make really great music(15k on spotify but have to repay the tunecore bill - so rn it won't appear there) but still it's hard to get women. 

 

I really believe for women that finding a man is a piece of cake. It's been 6 years since I've had sex or a meaningful relationship. I've  yet to find a girl that has been this way.

It's been making me very depressed and thinking very harmful thoughts lately. Is there something I'm not doing, which i should that can help my problem?

 

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This is my music so you know I'm not lying. Mixed, mastered, engineered, produced and written also sung by me. :

 

 

 

Edited October 6 by MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI

[Leo Gura]

If makes a lot of sense. Finding mates as an introvert is very hard. And women are much more social than men by default, so it's easier for them.

Your problem is that you don't socialize enough, so of course.

The solution is very simple: become much more social.

Edited October 6 by Leo Gura

[Tenebroso]

It seems in an unrestricted society, this is the way it is.

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nBt0ZKv9pBA

 

https://www.girlschase.com/content/who-has-it-harder-21st-century-romance-men-or-women

Edited October 6 by Raze

[Sandhu]

4 hours ago, MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI said:

I'm an attractive male

Your profile info says you're a female

[Kid A]

9 hours ago, MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI said:

Why do men struggle to get women but women can just wake up and find a man??? It makes no sense.

Today's men, especially young men, are poorly raised, particularly when it comes to the things that make men attractive. As a result, women are ridiculously more attractive and picky. The masculinity crisis is very real.

[gettoefl]

Like Leo says, you have to get out there and be vulnerable and humble

Put the hot shot vibes away

This is what women have to do too

Put yourself on the line and see what energy is all around

If I said to you, are you in lack?

Your instinct will be, hell no bro

Oh but yea sure give me a female

Contemplate and cultivate LACK

I am willing to tone myself down to have a partner, to compromise, to receive, to change

Be interested in a woman more than impressing upon her how much you are bringing to the table

Save your greatness until after she knows the unvarnished truth of you

Act like you are nothing in every interaction

This is authenticity and flowing with the moment

[AION]

It boils down to if you can protect and provide. 

[MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI]

So being more social is the solution. I'll start finding ways to do that.

[Godhead]

@MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI How often do you talk to women?

You could be the hottest guy on the planet, but if you don't put yourself out there, you won't get any women. Talking to more women will make you understand their psychology better, make you a better communicator, and ultimately make you more attractive to them. 

Edited October 7 by Godhead

[Applegarden8]

12 hours ago, Sandhu said:

Your profile info says you're a female

There are some fake profiles in different degrees and it's not being moderated unfortunately. There are people who use two accounts to reply to themselves. This is nothing in comparison.

[Sandhu]

1 hour ago, Applegarden8 said:

There are some fake profiles in different degrees and it's not being moderated unfortunately. There are people who use two accounts to reply to themselves. This is nothing in comparison.

It's not that critical of an issue to address I guess.

[Schizophonia]

13 hours ago, Sandhu said:

Your profile info says you're a female

It's a ladyboy 😂

[Sandhu]

3 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

It's a ladyboy 😂

A feminist according to little bio.

[Princess Arabia]

I don't know, but it seems these women you're talking about that can easily find a man, these men are also with these women. Saying women can easily find a man yet complaining how hard it is for men to find women seems like an oxymoron. Obviously it's not hard for men because these women aren't with themselves or other women. IT'S MEN THEY'RE WITH. 

Your post is a great example that we have belief systems that aren't true; and we make them up as excuses as to why we're not accomplishing our goals. This one isn't obvious and kind of hard to see through because so many also believe what you're saying about how women finding it easy. So, you'll hear, "yeah man, you have to go out more and socialize". Yes, that's true; but how about addressing the fact that you're believing something that isn't true and it's showing up in your direct experience as so.

I'm so sick of hearing about how women find it easy when that is also a misconception. Women can get laid whenever and by whomever, but women don't want to be, so they also have it hard finding the perfect lay, men are not as picky if it's just a lay they're looking for, as shown in your first sentence. Women have to usually feel something, men don't. It's not a judgement; it is what it is.

Edited October 7 by Princess Arabia

[Princess Arabia]

18 hours ago, MAHAVATAR_-_BABAJI said:

Women have it easier when it comes to dating. They are rarely without a partner. 

Who the heck are these women with, themselves? Makes no sense.

[Tenebroso]

56 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Who the heck are these women with, themselves? Makes no sense.

One man might be involved with many women on and off. So it follows, if every woman is having sex it doesn't mean every man is.

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Tenebroso said:

One man might be involved with many women on and off. So it follows, if every woman is having sex it doesn't mean every man is.

Might be is speculation. Women aren't having sex with themselves. 

[Tenebroso]

6 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

 Women aren't having sex with themselves. 

Of course, I don't deny. A good example if you follow Tik Tok is The West Elm Caleb situation. A guy in New York who went viral for sleeping with multiple women and leading them on, all these girls thought they were the only one until they started sharing notes and realized they were all sleeping with the same man. So all these women were having sex with one guy and many of the guys who they ignored were sleeping with nobody.

[Princess Arabia]

6 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

Of course, I don't deny. A good example if you follow Tik Tok is The West Elm Caleb situation. A guy in New York who went viral for sleeping with multiple women and leading them on, all these girls thought they were the only one until they started sharing notes and realized they were all sleeping with the same man. So all these women were having sex with one guy and many of the guys who they ignored were sleeping with nobody.

Don't care about tik tok and social media dating stories. Nothing new under the sun. Just more publicized because of social media and our obsession with it. Watching that stuff and focusing on those types stuff does nothing but embed in our brains what we think the world is like, when in fact; successful, great quality, and happy relationships don't make the news as much or shown as much because it doesn't satisfy the mind's quench for drama and problems. 

By watching these stories you are not empowering or helping yourself, you are weakening and disempowering the mind to be more in a victimhood state. What are you getting from it? CONFIRMATION OF YOUR EXISTING BELIEFS - beliefs that are not serving you. You are a victim to your own circumstances.

Edited October 7 by Princess Arabia