Leo's Blog Discussion Mega-Thread

[Leo Gura]

10 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@Leo Gura As per my life I am not able to generate survival value such as getting a girlfriend but I am doing good in my career. I have watched your -- How to get laid series multiple times , read other dating book also. As per your advice I have approached 100 girls in my campus. I have noticed that when I approach girls they become insecure while afterwards they start dating someone else. Girls think of me as inferior in dating. I have hatred , resentment against them and also revengeful thoughts against those girls.

Maybe my desire to get a girl who has never been in a relationship is impossible and I am suffering due to it. By the way I am trying to accept my suffering. 😁.

I know it's hard, but keep in mind that I had to appraoch 450 girls to get my first one. The learning curve is steep in the beginning. You should also try other locations than college. Locations where girls are more receptive to sleep around, where sex is more socially acceptable.

Just because 100 approaches don't end in sex doesn't say anything about your worth.

I did 450 approaches to get a girl. Does this mean I am worthless? How absurd.

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Am I worthy or worthless . Haha.

Both categories are just silly human fictions.

You are God.

Edited Monday at 11:08 PM by Leo Gura

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura  Must I think of others of age Younger and similar to me who are more experienced than me as more successful than me in dating or I must stop comparing myself to them.

By the way what can I do when I see a beautiful random girl with her boyfriend and I become extremely angry ? Any solutions.

By the way I have flirted with many girls in my life but never been in a serious relationship. I am 24.

[Leo Gura]

9 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@Leo Gura  Must I think of others of age Younger and similar to me who are more experienced than me as more successful than me in dating or I must stop comparing myself to them.

There will be many people in the world more successful than you at endless various things. That's life.

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By the way what can I do when I see a beautiful random girl with her boyfriend and I become extremely angry ? Any solutions.

Just focus on the constructive action you will be taking in this domain. Don't waste your energy on destructing activity.

If you see a beautiful girl, tell yourself, I will get one like that with my actions.

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By the way I have flirted with many girls in my life but never been in a serious relationship. I am 24.

No problem. Just take more action and focus on identifying how to flirt better.

Realize that beating yourself up is not helpful or necessary at all. Go cheerfully into action-taking. Also, enjoy the process of talking to girls. It's supposed to be fun. The goal isn't just sex, it's fun. You can have fun today. You don't need to be a genius or a master to have fun. Measure your success in minutes spent having fun vs sex.

Edited Monday at 11:21 PM by Leo Gura

[Rishabh R]

10 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I know it's hard, but keep in mind that I had to appraoch 450 girls to get my first one. The learning curve is steep in the beginning. You should also try other locations than college. Locations where girls are more receptive to sleep around, where sex is more socially acceptable.

Just because 100 approaches don't end in sex doesn't say anything about your worth.

I did 450 approaches to get a girl. Does this mean I am worthless? How absurd.

Both categories are just silly human fictions.

You are God.

You already told this in your part 1 of the series. Yeah you tried way , way harder than me. By the way , must I approach girls who are receptive to me than girls who call me bro or don't treat me well ?

Any further advice other than the 3 part series . And also is it a fact of life that some other beautiful girl will be receptive to me.

Also, your advice is pretty mature Leo. Been following you since 2017. Would there be more content based on practical aspects of life as well as cognitive development such as Epistemology? Really liked your epistemology video of questioning assumptions. Thanks.

[Rishabh R]

9 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Measure your success in minutes spent having fun

Yeah , I had fun with girls and still do have it sometimes.

[RawJudah]

Anyone heard of Nicholas Carr? He’s got a great new book out that explains how social media warps our mind. This ties in with what Leo says in his recent blog post about social media.

[Ulax]

7 hours ago, RawJudah said:

Anyone heard of Nicholas Carr? He’s got a great new book out that explains how social media warps our mind. This ties in with what Leo says in his recent blog post about social media.

I haven’t.

What insights does he have regarding how social media warps our minds?

[RawJudah]

40 minutes ago, Ulax said:

I haven’t.

What insights does he have regarding how social media warps our minds?

He’s done a lot of podcasts/interviews on YouTube, and he’s got a book that recently came out called ‘superbloom’.

He’s a technology writer. He knows everything about how social media works against us.