Leo's Blog Discussion Mega-Thread

[Leo Gura]

10 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@Leo Gura As per my life I am not able to generate survival value such as getting a girlfriend but I am doing good in my career. I have watched your -- How to get laid series multiple times , read other dating book also. As per your advice I have approached 100 girls in my campus. I have noticed that when I approach girls they become insecure while afterwards they start dating someone else. Girls think of me as inferior in dating. I have hatred , resentment against them and also revengeful thoughts against those girls.

Maybe my desire to get a girl who has never been in a relationship is impossible and I am suffering due to it. By the way I am trying to accept my suffering. 😁.

I know it's hard, but keep in mind that I had to appraoch 450 girls to get my first one. The learning curve is steep in the beginning. You should also try other locations than college. Locations where girls are more receptive to sleep around, where sex is more socially acceptable.

Just because 100 approaches don't end in sex doesn't say anything about your worth.

I did 450 approaches to get a girl. Does this mean I am worthless? How absurd.

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Am I worthy or worthless . Haha.

Both categories are just silly human fictions.

You are God.

Edited Monday at 11:08 PM by Leo Gura

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura  Must I think of others of age Younger and similar to me who are more experienced than me as more successful than me in dating or I must stop comparing myself to them.

By the way what can I do when I see a beautiful random girl with her boyfriend and I become extremely angry ? Any solutions.

By the way I have flirted with many girls in my life but never been in a serious relationship. I am 24.

[Leo Gura]

9 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@Leo Gura  Must I think of others of age Younger and similar to me who are more experienced than me as more successful than me in dating or I must stop comparing myself to them.

There will be many people in the world more successful than you at endless various things. That's life.

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By the way what can I do when I see a beautiful random girl with her boyfriend and I become extremely angry ? Any solutions.

Just focus on the constructive action you will be taking in this domain. Don't waste your energy on destructing activity.

If you see a beautiful girl, tell yourself, I will get one like that with my actions.

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By the way I have flirted with many girls in my life but never been in a serious relationship. I am 24.

No problem. Just take more action and focus on identifying how to flirt better.

Realize that beating yourself up is not helpful or necessary at all. Go cheerfully into action-taking. Also, enjoy the process of talking to girls. It's supposed to be fun. The goal isn't just sex, it's fun. You can have fun today. You don't need to be a genius or a master to have fun. Measure your success in minutes spent having fun vs sex.

Edited Monday at 11:21 PM by Leo Gura

[Rishabh R]

10 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I know it's hard, but keep in mind that I had to appraoch 450 girls to get my first one. The learning curve is steep in the beginning. You should also try other locations than college. Locations where girls are more receptive to sleep around, where sex is more socially acceptable.

Just because 100 approaches don't end in sex doesn't say anything about your worth.

I did 450 approaches to get a girl. Does this mean I am worthless? How absurd.

Both categories are just silly human fictions.

You are God.

You already told this in your part 1 of the series. Yeah you tried way , way harder than me. By the way , must I approach girls who are receptive to me than girls who call me bro or don't treat me well ?

Any further advice other than the 3 part series . And also is it a fact of life that some other beautiful girl will be receptive to me.

Also, your advice is pretty mature Leo. Been following you since 2017. Would there be more content based on practical aspects of life as well as cognitive development such as Epistemology? Really liked your epistemology video of questioning assumptions. Thanks.

[Rishabh R]

9 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Measure your success in minutes spent having fun

Yeah , I had fun with girls and still do have it sometimes.

[RawJudah]

Anyone heard of Nicholas Carr? He’s got a great new book out that explains how social media warps our mind. This ties in with what Leo says in his recent blog post about social media.

[Ulax]

7 hours ago, RawJudah said:

Anyone heard of Nicholas Carr? He’s got a great new book out that explains how social media warps our mind. This ties in with what Leo says in his recent blog post about social media.

I haven’t.

What insights does he have regarding how social media warps our minds?

[RawJudah]

40 minutes ago, Ulax said:

I haven’t.

What insights does he have regarding how social media warps our minds?

He’s done a lot of podcasts/interviews on YouTube, and he’s got a book that recently came out called ‘superbloom’.

He’s a technology writer. He knows everything about how social media works against us.

[Yimpa]

 

^ click me 

Edited Wednesday at 09:52 PM by Yimpa

[Willie]

1 hour ago, Yimpa said:

 

^ click me 

So true. The limbic system has the faster response time every time.

[Princess Arabia]

@Leo GuraHere are my sandals from your blog post. Had them about 6mths now. They are tuly comfortable. My back story on them is a friend was wearing them and I put them on to go outside because my shoes were lace up and his were more convenient at the time. I was in awe at how they felt and never felt a more comfortable sandal in my life. He offered to get me a pair and the rest is history.

 

[Yimpa]

Wood Jesus approve of these sandals? 

[CARDOZZO]

Havaianas is the way 🇧🇷

[Leo Gura]

@Princess Arabia Great minds wear alike

[Princess Arabia]

30 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

@Princess Arabia Great minds wear alike

I like.....

[Princess Arabia]

57 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

Wood Jesus approve of these sandals? 

Who is Wood Jesus?

[Nemra]

I don't like sandals. They are so uncomfortable to wear!

[ItsNick]

On Actualized Quotes #132,

The very first time I did a full trip on a psychedelic (MDMA) and reached the peak of the trip
my entire state of consciousness became "Everything is perfect."

It was not just about me feeling good, I was actually struggling with long-term physical illness at the time.
I went into the trip hoping to heal the trauma and emotional struggle that came with being sick.

But in this state the "present moment" was realized to be Absolute; or rather, there was just a sense of this is it.
As if waking up to existence and consciousness. But it was more like a remembrance. Consciousness is absolute and it is perfection itself.


In the end that trip did not do much to heal me physically or even the emotional struggle that came with it.
But I am still deeply grateful for that first trip and what I became conscious of.

[AtmanIsBrahman]

On the latest blog post,
@Leo Gura Can you reveal anything about your process to understand that God is logical necessity and how this relates to logic and good and bad? It seems shocking that you now no longer consider these things to be relative. Are you using the word logic in the normal human sense, or is it some kind of divine, transhuman, or alien logic?

Is the transcendence of these concepts a higher level beyond relativity, that confirms the absoluteness of lower stages but in a different way?

Also, how is this different from absolute good like you've talked about previously?

[Leo Gura]

20 minutes ago, AtmanIsBrahman said:

On the latest blog post,
@Leo Gura Can you reveal anything about your process to understand that God is logical necessity and how this relates to logic and good and bad? It seems shocking that you now no longer consider these things to be relative. Are you using the word logic in the normal human sense, or is it some kind of divine, transhuman, or alien logic?

Is the transcendence of these concepts a higher level beyond relativity, that confirms the absoluteness of lower stages but in a different way?

Also, how is this different from absolute good like you've talked about previously?

It's a complex matter that requires videos.