Suspended from college for a year | My life is a catastrophy

[Rigel]

37 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

This is very thoughtful of you. Somehow, something in my heart stirs when I see acts of kindness and a wiling to help instead of judging and criticizing. That's easy to do. We are still learning how to love ourselves and this shows that you are loving yourself more by showing acts of love yourself.

Happy to see you’ve learned from the dedicated thread you made just to lash out at the guy when he was suicidal.

[lostingenosmaze]

@Rigel Geez man you didn't have to rub it in

[Rigel]

26 minutes ago, lostingenosmaze said:

@Rigel Geez man you didn't have to rub it in

You’re right. That was condescending of me. Let’s not side track the discussion.

[Thought Art]

@Rigel What are you talking about man? Don’t spread negativity if I am reading that correctly. 

[Princess Arabia]

59 minutes ago, Rigel said:

Happy to see you’ve learned from the dedicated thread you made just to lash out at the guy when he was suicidal.

Did you also see the lengthy response I gave to him from the heart and soul trying to help him in his time of need THAT HE TOTALLY IGNORED which led me to make that thread. It's because I too am very grateful to people when they lend a helpful hand and I'm also willing to lend a helpful hand.

The downside of forum conversation is that we seldom see the full picture and we make assumptions from what we see and not from a place of knowing the whole picture.

I welcome your comment here though and I am not offended because I know where my heart lies and my intentions for doing what I do and saying what I say.

[Princess Arabia]

2 minutes ago, Thought Art said:

@Rigel What are you talking about man? Don’t spread negativity if I am reading that correctly. 

It's oK because it's the actions of others that allows for me to understand the teachings of the mind and how it operates from a place of ignorance and not knowing exactly why it thinks the way it does and why certain thoughts become more attractive to others to engage in. I use everything as a learning  opportunity. It's just, for me, it's harder to learn from my own mistakes. Knowing my true intentions makes a world of indifference to spot the mis aligned criticisms.

 

[Rigel]

@Thought Art It’s ok if you didn’t see the thread in question. I was wrong to point that out. I wasn’t trying to be negative, the double standard just jumped out at me.

We all live & learn, I’m not above it either.

it was misguided of me.

Edited October 4 by Rigel

[Yimpa]

On 10/3/2024 at 11:51 AM, Husseinisdoingfine said:

"No more taking shit from people, if someone yells at me, I will yell back twice as hard. If someone were to hit me, I will hit back twice as hard."

This ended up backfiring on me severely, as I was reported to the University Police. 

Of course this has backfired. It is not funny when U P on someone else.

[Thought Art]

@Rigel All good. I am not familiar with the thread. But, yeah, anyone can see beauty in kindness and love. Even people we find ourselves judging some of their actions. 

@Princess Arabia Thanks for the kind comment! 

Edited October 4 by Thought Art

[Princess Arabia]

45 minutes ago, Rigel said:

You’re right. That was condescending of me. Let’s not side track the discussion.

It's ok. No heart feelings. We sometimes, take for granted that we could be wrong about our assessments of a person based on a simple forum post whether it's negative or positive and react from that. I do it too do so it's not just you.

[Princess Arabia]

5 minutes ago, Rigel said:

@Thought Art It’s ok if you didn’t see the thread in question. I was wrong to point that out. I wasn’t trying to be negative, the double standard just jumped out at me.

We all live & learn, I’m not above it either.

it was misguided of me.

If I had to do it all over again, I would. I didn't lash out at a genuine suicidal and the thread I made was more voicing a concern as to whether he was doing OK or not and my dislike for him not responding to my response to him. The only thing i learnt was I'm not entitled to a response.

[Princess Arabia]

5 minutes ago, Thought Art said:

@Rigel All good. I am not familiar with the thread. But, yeah, anyone can see beauty in kindness and love. Even people we find ourselves judging some of their actions. 

@Princess Arabia Thanks for the kind comment! 

You're welcome. I do notice you have a kind heart and like to help people in distress. You have been tremendously helped along your journey when you were down and out and you're trying to give back any way you can and it shows. Tell me I'm wrong as that was just a total assessment on my part.

[Thought Art]

@Husseinisdoingfine

This experience you are having doesn't define you. This week I by mistake had an inappropriate angry outburst for about 30 seconds. It actually brought me and my housemates closer together as we saw that we respected and cared for each other and were willing to work through stuff that this going on beneath the surface. I am generally a chill guy, but I have long struggled with the emotion of anger and have gotten in some trouble in the past. I have always had a short fuse in some contexts. I long struggled with emotional regulation in general as a kid, and have always been super sensitive.

I've read a lot of books on anger, resentment, shame, emotional intelligence over the years and I've seen massive results and I know you can to if you invest the time and effort into developing your psychology. It is also worth investing in some professional help. It's worth looking into why you relate to others and your emotions the way you do and perhaps speaking to someone who specializes in anger could be a huge help.

I have a list of books that may likely be available in audio form if you would like.

Remember that these experiences don't define us. That your life isn't a catastrophe and that you can learn from this. Emotions are challenging. Anger especially. Be kind to yourself over the coming days and months. You are loved and you have our support.

Edited October 4 by Thought Art

[Yimpa]

Groupthink? Never heard of him. Let’s have a grouphug instead! 💗

[Husseinisdoingfine]

@Princess Arabia Sorry for not responding to your replies in that thread. I did read them.

To be fair to me, I read by did not reply to just about everyone's post in that thread, with exception to Leo. The reason for this was because I view Leo as an authority and almost like a father figure.

Edit: Also I wanted to only reply to Leo in that thread because of his background. He was a former engineering student who switched his college major to studying philosophy. So I was wondering if he could understand my situation better. 

Edited October 4 by Husseinisdoingfine

[Princess Arabia]

2 minutes ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

@Princess Arabia Sorry for not responding to your replies in that thread. I did read them.

To be fair to me, I read by did not reply to just about everyone's post in that thread, with exception to Leo. The reason for this was because I view Leo as an authority and almost like a father figure.

Ok. Big mistake though. Not about responding back to me, which I'm over (I guess because I felt every word I typed and it was heart felt but never mind that), do not exclude people who doesn't fit the obvious criteria as leader or who has public influence. Sometimes we overlook the "small" person who may be the one to make that big impact in our lives. The Universe works in mysterious ways, and no one is above another in it's eyes.

Me personally, I'm always aware of the small things, the not so obvious things, the hidden from plain sight things - so-to-speak because that's exactly how the Truth gets by everyone. It's right here in plain sight staring us in the face. We're just so used to things being complicated and sometimes we overlook the simplicities of life. Everyone has a contribution to make. EVERYONE. Why? They are all you and you put them there.

Do you, though, and I'm glad to see you're at least alive.

[Husseinisdoingfine]

And also I was going through a crisis, had to call a crisis hotline. Very dark times.

[Yimpa]

12 minutes ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

And also I was going through a crisis, had to call a crisis hotline. Very dark times.

I’ve called them numerous times. 

[Thought Art]

49 minutes ago, Husseinisdoingfine said:

And also I was going through a crisis, had to call a crisis hotline. Very dark times.

It’s good you are using the resources you have available to you. 

[Alex_R]

so how are you feeling right now