I would be drowning if I approached more

[Princess Arabia]

3 hours ago, Butters said:

Let me try to translate this. Normally, in or outside of nightclub context, women will give "choosing signals", which is a non-verbal signal that they want to be approached. This includes laughing, giggling, eye contact, adjusting (bra or top) or any other type of seductive non-verbal that a straight guy who's aligned with his sexual energy would pick up on instinctively. 

Women approaching guy is not the way it goes ordinarily. Why? Because she might get rejected and women can't handle that, so it's done indirectly like this. So if she approaches you and you're a young guy, it could imply that your opinion or energy carries 0 weight from her perspective, meaning she doesn't respect you. 

I had to say something here. "Laughing and giggling".....what's that, a day at the fair watching scoopydoo and kitty cat cartoons watching little Marky on his scooter and hoping he stops by and show me his weeny.

"Adjusting bra and top".....I hope if I'm adjusting my bra and top because it's falling down a guy doesn't walk over then because I'll shoo him away and then get up and go to the ladies room where that activity belongs. 

Why women don't usually approach is not because they can or can't handle rejection, it's mostly because of instinct. It's just not in their feminine nature. This is why feminine men find it uneasy to approach women. It's the feminine energy at play. It's the same with animals. Notice how they mate or call in their mates. The female animals are also subtle in their approach or cues.

A woman approaching a guy doesn't imply that she doesn't respect him nor his opinions, it simply means she made the first move and could be because of a variety of factors depending on the circumstance, environment, her culture, personality, his body language and numerous others.

The main thing to look out for when trying to read if a female is trying to get your attention is if she's stroking her hair, is her legs crossed towards you in your direction, subtle eye contact and a brief flirtatious smile. She might also drop something if you're close by with the intention of having you be a gentleman and suggests that you pick it up for her and then make her move if appropriate or hoping you do. Stuff like that, not laughing and giggling and adjusting their bra unless they are high school kids at the circus.

Edited October 1 by Princess Arabia

[Ulax]

3 hours ago, Nemra said:

I guess he will say that you'll feel shit because you don't have any game. 😑

Someone will ask why their mum died, and noself will says it because they didn't have game

[Princess Arabia]

2 minutes ago, Ulax said:

Someone will ask why their mum died, and noself will says it because they didn't have game

lmao😅

[Nemra]

3 minutes ago, Ulax said:

Someone will ask why their mum died, and noself will says it because they didn't have game

Aaaaaaa. 😭

You won! 🏆

Edited October 1 by Nemra

[Ulax]

4 hours ago, Oppositionless said:

But how do you make yourself approach

Work on your self talk.

Just experiment and reflect. Try out saying different things to yourself in the moment and see what helps you to approach. Experiment with saying a variety of things to say for yourself.

For example, i know 1) "I get to" or "She gets to" thinking helps me. I.e. "She gets to meet me". Or "I get to approach her". 2) "Who the fuck would have the ball to do that?" helps me too.

Edited October 1 by Ulax

[Ulax]

@NoSelfSelf What is your actual experience in game? How many approaches have you done?

[Princess Arabia]

4 minutes ago, Ulax said:

@NoSelfSelf What is your actual experience in game? How many approaches have you done?

He's given up on it that's why he can speak on it so.  It's called the power of letting go. Hehe.

[Ulax]

1 minute ago, Princess Arabia said:

He's given up on it that's why he can speak on it so.  It's called the power of letting go. Hehe.

I don't understand

[Princess Arabia]

Just now, Ulax said:

I don't understand

It's a joke. You know how in Spirituality they say things come to you when you don't care or when you've let go of the desired outcome. He's stopped approaching, so all the wisdom is coming to him now since he doesn't care anymore. Or so he thinks.

[Ulax]

1 minute ago, Princess Arabia said:

It's a joke. You know how in Spirituality they say things come to you when you don't care or when you've let go of the desired outcome. He's stopped approaching, so all the wisdom is coming to him now since he doesn't care anymore. Or so he thinks.

I see. The 'Wait in my mum's basement and let the girls come to me' technique lol

[Oppositionless]

42 minutes ago, Ulax said:

Work on your self talk.

Just experiment and reflect. Try out saying different things to yourself in the moment and see what helps you to approach. Experiment with saying a variety of things to say for yourself.

For example, i know 1) "I get to" or "She gets to" thinking helps me. I.e. "She gets to meet me". Or "I get to meet her". 2) "Who the fuck would have the ball to do that?" helps me too.

Im trying . I listen to a guided affirmation religiously, multiple times a day. I felt like I had a break through today and complimented the woman on her bike. That was the most confident I've felt in awhile . I'm gonna try saying the affirmations from the video to myself when I'm out.

noself completely destroyed my momentum though . 

 

Edited October 1 by Oppositionless

[Ulax]

3 minutes ago, Oppositionless said:

Im trying . I listen to a guided affirmation religiously, multiple times a day. I felt like I had a break through today and complimented the woman on her bike. That was the most confident I've felt in awhile 

noself completely destroyed my momentum though . 

 

My advice is about in the moment.

I think listening to self talk audio is also useful.

And yeah, negative people will disrupt your self talk. But, in my opinion, its just about tipping the scales in your favor. Just outweigh the bad external talk with the good external talk.

Edited October 1 by Ulax

[Ulax]

@Oppositionless Also, just remembering some other tips.

1. You can practice warming up each  time you want to approach. I.e. start by asking for directions, then ask for directions and a personal question, then approach indirectly, then approach directly. So, instead of going for 0 fear to 10 fear, you go from 0 fear to 1 fear, then 1 to 3, then 4 to 6. More likely you'll stick to it imo, and burns you out less.

2. When I started my last cold approach period, i literally had the following goal. To travel a couple hours to a city, went to where i wanted to approach and then went straight back home. I did that once a week for a few weeks. Because I knew it was easy to do, so i was likely to do it. And, it would build the habit of me showing up in the place i wanted to approach. It was a 0 - 0.5 step. Then I gradually introduced things like asking for directions (.5 - 2), then indirect (2- 5), and then direct (5-8).

[Oppositionless]

14 minutes ago, Ulax said:

@Oppositionless Also, just remembering some other tips.

1. You can practice warming up each  time you want to approach. I.e. start by asking for directions, then ask for directions and a personal question, then approach indirectly, then approach directly. So, instead of going for 0 fear to 10 fear, you go from 0 fear to 1 fear, then 1 to 3, then 4 to 6. More likely you'll stick to it imo, and burns you out less.

2. When I started my last cold approach period, i literally had the following goal. To travel a couple hours to a city, went to where i wanted to approach and then went straight back home. I did that once a week for a few weeks. Because I knew it was easy to do, so i was likely to do it. And, it would build the habit of me showing up in the place i wanted to approach. It was a 0 - 0.5 step. Then I gradually introduced things like asking for directions (.5 - 2), then indirect (2- 5), and then direct (5-8).

I'm at a coffee shop right now. There's a really cute girl at the other table, and I did a 0.5, meek hello at the counter . I feel pretty good. But I want to go over there and start a conversation.

[NoSelfSelf]

4 hours ago, Ulax said:

@NoSelfSelf What is your actual experience in game? How many approaches have you done?

Batman doesnt prove to nobody.

 

 

Edited October 1 by NoSelfSelf

[Schizophonia]

4 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Batman doesnt prove to nobody.

 

 

Ahah, i see.

Batman has a weakness for Zagreb escorts. 

Edited October 1 by Schizophonia

[Ulax]

6 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Batman doesnt prove to nobody.

 

 

 @NoSelfSelf Come on Mr Game. Let the people know. It is interesting that you have avoided the question.

[NoSelfSelf]

Guys it says Chamomile tea is good for period cramps since they are matching you can make it together ❤️

[meta_male]

19 hours ago, Oppositionless said:

But how do you make yourself approach

The same way you make yourself skydive, you just jump when the door opens.

[jacknine119]

@Oppositionless Guys is it also affective to listen to affirmations instead of saying?