Leo please consider this.

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura Please improve the way you interact with your audience in the forum. I am also guilty of this myself as I behaved badly with my mother on multiple occasions( in real life )and now I feel that I have done something wrong since, she has passed away 2-3 years ago. I know that not everyone likes me and only a few will like me but that doesn't mean that you will bludgeon others with truth but rather stretch them so that they can bear the truth. I am writing this because I was hurt by your comment on multiple occasions. Also I was hurt a lot by different people on different occasions both in real life and on the forum. In the spirituality forum the I will give you the background for my 2nd most recent comment. Girls (in real life) hurt me , bully me , ignore me are rude to me and then they start dating other guys despite me taking action and being vulnerable that is why I mentioned that. So I have moved on from them.

[Leo Gura]

Your feedback has been heard, I will keep improving on this front.

To be clear, that comment I made about pigs was not an insult of your physical appearance, it was a deep insight about the nature of bias and love. I am sorry it hurt you.

The truth is that it does hurt when girls ignore/reject you. Facing that is part of the challenge of life as a man. Most girls will not be attracted to you. But don't give up. Some girls will like you.

Edited September 27 by Leo Gura

[Scholar]

14 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Your feedback has been heard, I will keep improving on this front.

To be clear, that comment I made about pigs was not an insult of your physical appearance, it was a deep insight about the nature of bias and love. I am sorry it hurt you.

The truth is that it does hurt when girls ignore/reject you. Facing that is part of the challenge of life as a man. Most girls will not be attracted to you. But don't give up. Some girls will like you.

Reading this makes me think you went through lots of suffering lately.

[Keryo Koffa]

It's nothing personal, Leo is probing and pushing us all out of our comfort zones.
Being at the frontier, he already went through most of these challenges himself.
It was an exaggerated yet poignant example, that hits some more than others.
We are consistently going through many topics regarding suffering on the forum.
The example of the monkey torture thread from last month speaks for itself.
It's never meant to hurt someone's feelings but to teach and prepare you for life.

Yet it's all a balance, each person carries different experiences, feelings & regrets.
We're all doing our best, to walk the line between profound, humorous & sensitive.
And each conversation and thread like this adds to our mutual understanding.

[Davino]

His post made me reflect and have a nice insight. However now seen from your perspective it feels quite nasty. It's hard to take into account others interpretations when the full context is lacking. Or we might just be feeling insecure one day and it's the straw that breaks the camel's back. Sometimes writing in the forum is like taking a walk in a field of mines.

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura ok thanks. By the way I was ok for the pigs comment as was true, I was just talking about the comment of that before the pig one. By the way it's ok as I also recognised at that time about my biases also. My self help journey began with you so you are great . Thank you.

Edited September 28 by Rishabh R

[Leo Gura]

4 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

I was just talking about the comment of that before the pig one.

Which? I don't know what I said that hurt you.

[Rishabh R]

That , I am girl are the same chasing the things that fit our biases. Yes I recognise that I am biased and the girl is also biased but she abused me , bullied me for saying her I love you online . Her friend also threatened me  and she started dating other guy. However, that is the thing of past as that girl is not longer in my life. It's ok Leo , now it no longer hurts me.

[Leo Gura]

10 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

but she abused me , bullied me for saying her I love you online . Her friend also threatened me  and she started dating other guy.

I see. Well, I wasn't aware of nor considering your personal context in that discussion.

When it comes to the topic of bias, it's important to keep in mind that while everyone is biased, some people are way more biased than others. So I'm not saying all is equal. Some people are monsters. So if you meet one of those don't equate yourself with them.

Try not to let a few bad experiences with girls sour your view of girls as a whole. A few girls are monsters, but most girls are sweet.

Edited September 28 by Leo Gura

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura ok. I  confronted them, then I moved on. By the way thanks again for your contribution to my self actualization journey as I focussed more on self actualization and common self improvement than spirituality but your content is still great.

[Leo Gura]

@Rishabh R Okay, good. I'm glad we cleared this up. Keep investing in yourself.

Edited September 28 by Leo Gura

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura I am also grateful that I made an investment in myself. Can I ask a youtuber Cole Hastings for a conversation with you on YouTube as I am a member of his self mastery community?

[Leo Gura]

3 minutes ago, Rishabh R said:

@Leo Gura Can I ask a youtuber Cole Hastings for a conversation with you on YouTube as I am a member of his self mastery community?

I've never heard of him before so I don't know.

[Rishabh R]

[Leo Gura]

@Rishabh R I appreciate the offer but frankly it's not a high priority for me right now. I need to focus on my own work which people are waiting for. Perhaps another time.

Edited September 28 by Leo Gura

[Fluran]

cole hastings def give commentaries on modern problems, he touched well on lonely incel man, Gen Z crisis etc

[NoSelfSelf]

Instead of working to be less soft, lets censor others, i mean to which extent humans gonna get soft? everyone will be so fake as robots i guess...women will date bears...

[Buck Edwards]

1 minute ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Instead of working to be less soft, lets censor others, i mean to which extent humans gonna get soft? everyone will be so fake as robots i guess...women will date bears...

Sensitivity can swing on both ends of the spectrum. 

[NoSelfSelf]

1 hour ago, Buck Edwards said:

Sensitivity can swing on both ends of the spectrum. 

I see,what im refering to specificaly is when someone makes a joke/tough love comment that has deeper meaning behind it, other person takes it like a baby...

[Leo Gura]

46 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

other person takes it like a baby

Well, I sympathize with that because many people are starting this work from a weak and difficult position, a position of lack and hurt. So a delicate touch is necessary or those people lose hope. I am working to improve myself in that regard.

Edited September 28 by Leo Gura