Leo’s advise about dating and sex are mostly aimed towards man

[Keryo Koffa]

4 minutes ago, bambi said:

I always thought you were male! Same with nuwu!

Well, idk about nuwu, just remember someone referring to them as her & my gender is whichever you want it to be

Either way, it'd be hilarious if the universe synchronized itself just to nag you with this 😁

Edited October 1 by Keryo Koffa

[bambi]

1 minute ago, Keryo Koffa said:

Well, idk about nuwu, just remember someone referring to them as her & my gender is whichever you want it to be 😁

I will see you as non-binary

[CARDOZZO]

It is a shame that we don't live next to each other to talk in person  

Would love to go out with all you.

[CARDOZZO]

3 hours ago, bambi said:

For me this is childish narrative building. I dont subscribe to it. But I am sexually experienced.

All of your worries and issues are insantly solved with confidence and experience and development. All of this type of questions will not even appear to you

Ok.

2 hours ago, eos_nyxia said:

Better than being treated like an animal in public and a fragile princess in bed, I guess?

I don't know, I'm a male.

[Keryo Koffa]

4 minutes ago, bambi said:

I will see you as non-binary

Thanks. I like being both, either, and neither; though not limited to any for too long.
It's more about cultural symbolism though, the true self has no such divisions.

Edited October 1 by Keryo Koffa

[CARDOZZO]

13 minutes ago, Keryo Koffa said:

Thanks. I like being both, either, and neither; though not limited to any for too long.

I'm curious.

You are not limited to any gender but when it comes to sex, do you have a gender preference for sexual intercourse?

[Emerald]

43 minutes ago, Basman said:

He's quit successful with women though with a pedigree for making truthful and holistic statements. Why would he talk out of his ass considering?

He's not taking out of his ass either.

For men's pragmatic purposes, the things that he's learned will give a guy enough know-how to interact with and attract women... in lieu of deeper feelings of shame that might get in the way.

The reality is that, if you can interact with women in a way that shows you have objectively valued qualities, you will be more successful with women. And more women will be attracted to you if you possess more attractive qualities than if you don't.

But the issue is in believing that, just because these things that he's learned from dating experts work for him practically that he has an accurate understanding of how female sexuality and attraction really works subjectively.

And he makes tons of assumptions about how women are operating that fit as a puzzle piece into his pragmatic operating system regarding women... but that are totally off from how women are really operating.

And this leads to a lot of false conclusions about how women experience men they're attracted to... which leads to inaccurate narratives that produce shame in men.

[CARDOZZO]

@Emerald

If one day you could make a post, do it about how a woman show intent in a way that men can't understand/perceive.

Sometimes, women are giving signals but we just don't get it. It is not explicit enough. 

Like this one:

 

Edited October 1 by CARDOZZO

[Keryo Koffa]

7 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

You are not limited to any gender but when it comes to sex, do you have a gender preference for sexual intercourse?

 

If being "sexually unfulfilled" is anything like not finding the perfect meme from 5 years ago then I can relate though.

Psychedelics have opened me up quite a bit, which was interesting, but then it disappeared again with dissociatives 😁

[Yimpa]

48 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

She just has a different perspective than you. Why make it personal?

Sir, this is a personal development forum.

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, CARDOZZO said:

Sometimes, women are giving signals but we just don't get it. It is not explicit enough. 

That's not a bug, that's a feature. That's how women screen out the weak men. They don't want to give weak men explicit signals or help in mating them.

What you gotta understand is that women are not here to serve you. They are always doing what is best for them, not what you need. Don't try to change women, change how you see them.

It is not a woman's job to help you have sex with her. Her job is to put up obstacles.

Edited October 2 by Leo Gura

[Buck Edwards]

2 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

That's not a bug, that's a feature. That's how women screen out the weak men. They don't want to give weak men explicit signals.

What you gotta understand is that women are not here to serve you. They are always doing what is best for them, not what you need. Don't try to change women, change how you see them.

Sometimes women are confused about what they want in a man, so they can give mixed signals. It's not necessarily an indication that the man is weak. You make it sound very robotic, we don't screen so much based on strong or weak as much as on respect and behavior. And we're moody creatures, sometimes we're just not into it. We aren't hyper logical as you. 

[Leo Gura]

5 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

We aren't hyper logical as you. 

Your survival is not logical. You don't know you're doing it, you're just living.

There is enormous intelligence in how women screen out low value men. And it's all instinctive and unconscious, such that you'd have to study it for years like a zoologist to see it.

Edited October 1 by Leo Gura

[Leo Gura]

Watch this:

Now ask yourself, Does the Fossa logically know how it selects mates? It has no idea. But it is very good at it nonetheless.

Edited October 1 by Leo Gura

[Buck Edwards]

4 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

There is enormous intelligence in how women screen out low value men. And it's all instinctive and unconscious, such that you'd have to study it for years like a zoologist to see it.

We do it intuitively and organically. Also our emotions are wired into all this, hence we often make mistakes and fall for the wrong men, which wouldn't make sense in an evolutionary paradigm, we aren't genetic screening machines but one thing that we strongly sense in men is the presence (or lack) of authenticity and that is a major factor in initial screening of any guy. This is definitely a feature, not a bug. Our notions of low and high value men aren't as cut and dry as men would like to perceive them. 

[CARDOZZO]

14 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Watch this:

Now ask yourself, Does the Fossa know how it selects mates? It has no idea. But it is very good at it nonetheless.

I get what you are talking about.

Women can select based on smell, walking style, tone of voice, gestures, composure and many other unconscious features that we even don't imagine but for them it seems "the right guy".

[CARDOZZO]

25 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

Sometimes women are confused about what they want in a man, so they can give mixed signals. It's not necessarily an indication that the man is weak. You make it sound very robotic, we don't screen so much based on strong or weak as much as on respect and behavior. And we're moody creatures, sometimes we're just not into it. We aren't hyper logical as you. 

Appreciate your view  

[Buck Edwards]

Just now, CARDOZZO said:

I get what you are talking about.

Women can select based on smell, walking style, tone of voice, gestures, composure and many other unconscious features that we even don't imagine but for them it seems "the right guy".

Communication is very important to women. It's how you communicate what you like about her. She is going to judge that strongly. She doesn't want to know at the back of her mind that you are using similar tactics with other women, she will look for exclusivity. 

[Tenebroso]

On 30/09/2024 at 4:38 PM, Princess Arabia said:

I can tell from your online presence here that plenty of women would find you attractive. I'm not sure what you look like, but that doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. I'm speaking more about your personality. Not the constant words you use to demean yourself and the insecurities you bring forth in your line of questionings, etc, Take all that away, and your presence here is one of a respectable, kind-hearted gentleman that can attract a woman who will appreciate those qualities in a man. 

You don't speak down on women, you just express what you've noticed in their tendencies and the type of men you see they usually go for. If you didn't care, you wouldn't care. Anyone who can read/see behind the lines can sense this. I very rarely look at what's been put in front of me, what's staring me in the face visually; I can look pass the obvious and see what's in inside the package and what that package is really made of without too much effort; and with you, i can easily tell you are made of what women, a true woman, would appreciate, love and wish for in a man. It takes a woman of caliber to really appreciate a guy like you.

So, I encourage you to stop seeing with your eyes and start seeing with your heart because it knows best. The outside world is filled with chaos and madness and insanity; don't fall for it. It is not the true picture of what really is. What is, is what your mind makes of what you see. You have the power to interpret what you see however you like and that makes up who you are. So, start to see things differently and you will start to see different things.

Wasn't quite sure how to respond to this. This is very kind, thanks for taking the time to respond in this manner despite my negativity. The bolded especially resonates, I do need to learn to trust and see with my heart.

[Tenebroso]

@Emerald Thanks for your detailed, patient responses to me, you have been very helpful.