Leo’s advise about dating and sex are mostly aimed towards man

[Lyubov]

4 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Except for the countries part,(only because I think it's just a matter of preference), spoken like a true man of status. I can tell you have class and is a man of status. This is how they usually speak about the women they are looking for.

Thanks for the compliment. I agree I do believe I treat women well. I’ve never cheated and if you only knew what I did for me ex… sometimes at my own expense. I think this is a life lesson to not put another person before myself until I can really support someone. 

[Leo Gura]

Just now, Tenebroso said:

How do you get noticed?

That's the whole field of game. Everything I said in How To Get Laid series, plus building up your career and life style.

Easiest way to get noticed is to socialize a lot. You can't get noticed sitting online all day.

[Buck Edwards]

2 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

How do you get noticed?

Often when I get advice, it seems that there is a basic assumption that you are able to get a date or even an interaction in the first place but as you have pointed out just being seen is a huge challenge.

Why are you so worried about a relationship? 

[Buck Edwards]

1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

That's the whole field of game. Everything I said in How To Get Laid series, plus building up your career and life style.

Easiest way to get noticed is to socialize a lot. You can't get noticed sitting online all day.

So you're the kind of guy who will simply dump a girl just because she got fat? Lol. 

 

[Tenebroso]

1 minute ago, Buck Edwards said:

Why are you so worried about a relationship? 

Because I am human I have desires and want to experience many things. Is that so bad? Am I not allowed to want to have sex and have a love life?

I find the people who say these things don't matter are the ones who have had all the sex and relationships they want and can honestly detach without resentment. It's like a person born into wealth telling you to not worry about money. 

[Lyubov]

2 hours ago, RendHeaven said:

Damn, I made that comment with love though.

Why not fly to SE Asia if you want to bang SE Asian women??

It's perfectly reasonable and there's no shame.

No offense taken, I get you.  

I just think we as guys have to come real clean these days when chasing women. My issue with the passport bro movement is how juvenile it is. This movement is blowing up all the hot spots and we aren’t sending our best and brightest. How many gringos get drugged in Colombia messing with prostitutes? 

if SE Asian women were my type I would but they aren’t. I want to go there though for the culture and beaches. Heard it’s amazing. Language is very difficult to learn though so it’s hard to integrate. I’m into Russian, Ukraine, Belarus women and latinas from Brazil, Colombia and Argentina. 

 

[Buck Edwards]

8 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

Because I am human I have desires and want to experience many things. Is that so bad? Am I not allowed to want to have sex and have a love life?

I find the people who say these things don't matter are the ones who have had all the sex and relationships they want and can honestly detach without resentment. It's like a person born into wealth telling you to not worry about money. 

The thing is there's a fine line between desiring something and being completely obsessed with it. With you it seems to be the latter. You're completely into it. Your every post is asking about how to get a woman to notice you or how to attract women. Nothing wrong or bad with wanting to attract women but constantly wanting it seeks of desperation. Desperation is a huge turn off for majority of women. Maybe your approach reeks off of desperation. The desperate vibe in a man is easily sensed by women from a mile away and to be honest it's the biggest turn off for women, just being honest with you, whether you care or not, not my worry. You could be a very high value man yet the desperate vibe will make a woman not want you at all. So maybe focus on that. You need a woman, I know. A woman needs you too. But nobody finds desperate attractive. Just saying because I noticed this sort of vibe in your posts. So wanted to give you a honest feedback. 

Also this kind of neediness or desperation is unhealthy for you if it doesn't have a boundary where it ends. It will take over your life and you'll be miserable just because you don't get a woman. In life there are so many beautiful things to experience besides love and romance. Don't make a woman(or for that matter anyone) the center of your life. 

Edited September 28 by Buck Edwards

[AION]

6 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

The thing is there's a fine line between desiring something and being completely obsessed with it. With you it seems to be the latter. You're completely into it. Your every post is asking about how to get a woman to notice you or how to attract women. Nothing wrong or bad with wanting to attract women but constantly wanting it seeks of desperation. Desperation is a huge turn off for majority of women. Maybe your approach reeks off of desperation. The desperate vibe in a man is easily sensed by women from a mile away and to be honest it's the biggest turn off for women, just being honest with you, whether you care or not, not my worry. You could be a very high value man yet the desperate vibe will make a woman not want you at all. So maybe focus on that. You need a woman, I know. A woman needs you too. But nobody finds desperate attractive. Just saying because I noticed this sort of vibe in your posts. So wanted to give you a honest feedback. 

Women can be desperate too and it is very off-putting. It is like a stench but on an emotional level. And it can be smelled although the other one tries to cover it. 

Edited September 28 by AION

[Buck Edwards]

Just now, AION said:

Women can be desperate too and it is very off-putting. It is like a stench but on an emotional level. And it can be smelled although the other one tries to cover it. 

I never said women can't be. Men don't like clingy gfs and I'm well aware of it. 

[Tenebroso]

1 minute ago, Buck Edwards said:

The thing is there's a fine line between desiring something and being completely obsessed with it. With you it seems to be the latter. You're completely into it. Your every post is asking about how to get a woman to notice you or how to attract women. Nothing wrong or bad with wanting to attract women but constantly wanting it seeks of desperation. Desperation is a huge turn off for majority of women. Maybe your approach reeks off of desperation. The desperate vibe in a man is easily sensed by women from a mile away and to be honest it's the biggest turn off for women, just being honest with you, whether you care or not, not my worry. You could be a very high value man yet the desperate vibe will make a woman not want you at all. So maybe focus on that. You need a woman, I know. A woman needs you too. But nobody finds desperate attractive. Just saying because I noticed this sort of vibe in your posts. So wanted to give you a honest feedback. 

How do you not be desperate when you only know rejection?

Guys who are not desperate obviously have had romantic success and sexual experiences so they know they are attractive to somebody, so a rejection is not the end of the world for them. 

[aurum]

25 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

notice how the majority of the feminine beautiful women in the USA are never the ones pushing these notions of gaining “autonomy and power.” radically redefining long held beliefs will have consequences, both good and bad. I think there’s a little more going on here than simply categorizing women as less free then vs now. Roles have changed for better or worse. Just look at all the disharmony between the sexes.

Dude, you are going to less developed countries so you can take advantage of the fact that women have less power.

This is not some enlightened perspective you have on the limitations of egalitarianism in dating.

Edited September 28 by aurum

[AION]

2 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

I never said women can't be. Men don't like clingy gfs and I'm well aware of it. 

But the thing is you telling him this won’t make him less desperate. It will only make him self conscious. 
 

That is what I was trying to say. 

[Buck Edwards]

Just now, Tenebroso said:

How do you not be desperate when you only know rejection?

Guys who are not desperate obviously have had romantic success and sexual experiences so they know they are attractive to somebody, so a rejection is not the end of the world for them. 

It becomes a cycle. More desperation. More rejection. Do you see how you're getting trapped in your own cycle? This is about freeing yourself and seeing the bigger picture. We all want stuff to make yourselves happy. If you free yourself of this desperation, you'll give out a more confident vibe. Confidence is a huge key in attracting women because to women confidence means you're sure about what you want and that in turn means authenticity. So as long as you are desperate it won't communicate authenticity. Can you now connect the dots? 

[AION]

Antidote to desperation in inspiration. It can be done through stacking up small wins and creating a winner effect. 

[Tenebroso]

2 minutes ago, Buck Edwards said:

It becomes a cycle. More desperation. More rejection. Do you see how you're getting trapped in your own cycle? This is about freeing yourself and seeing the bigger picture. We all want stuff to make yourselves happy. If you free yourself of this desperation, you'll give out a more confident vibe. Confidence is a huge key in attracting women because to women confidence means you're sure about what you want and that in turn means authenticity. So as long as you are desperate it won't communicate authenticity. Can you now connect the dots? 

Doesn't confidence need to be based on something? So I should stop wanting to date and ignore sexual desires?

[Lyubov]

4 minutes ago, aurum said:

Dude, you are going to less developed countries so you can take advantage of women with less power.

This is not some enlightened perspective you have on the limitations of egalitarianism in dating. 

Blah blah blah heard this same crap a billion times. Nothing more sexist and supremacist than the western feminist mind thinking it’s so superior that they’ve somehow escaped victimhood and know what’s right for the women of other countries. Why western feminists think women are victims in other countries cause the women there don’t want to be turned into men 😁 I thought you guys were fighting for self determination yet you cry when women choose to be feminine women. 

[Princess Arabia]

13 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

How do you not be desperate when you only know rejection?

Guys who are not desperate obviously have had romantic success and sexual experiences so they know they are attractive to somebody, so a rejection is not the end of the world for them. 

Your responses wreak of victimhood and helplessness. These are valid points you're making but your tone is much of comparison and too focused on other guys. I understand your whole rhetoric and all you're saying, but you need to understand where you place your energy and focus is what you get more of. Your responses tell a lot more about how you're doing this than someone who's really trying. 

What I've done mostly in the last couple years with my life is to see where I've been weak at and try to make improvements, not double down on them and find faults and excuses. I still have a lot more work to do but these are mostly ways of thinking and mindsets, so it can be done anywhere.

If plenty of people can achieve something you can too. Go and study their mindsets and try to see how they think VS trying to solve your issue with your existing mindset, won't work. That resentment you harbor towards women is the exact same thing that's hurting you. No one else is being hurt by it but you. Love yourself enough to let that go because it is rotting your insides up and causing you pain.

Edited September 28 by Princess Arabia

[Leo Gura]

13 minutes ago, aurum said:

Dude, you are going to less developed countries so you can take advantage of the fact that women have less power.

This is not some enlightened perspective you have on the limitations of egalitarianism in dating.

There's nothing wrong with shopping at the store which isn't overcrowded, as long as it's not done in an exploitative way.

It makes sense to shop around overseas. There are many good girls overseas who would love a chance to upgrade their life. But I feel that most guys who do this are just looking for girls to exploit and then rationalizing it to themselves.

Edited September 28 by Leo Gura

[Buck Edwards]

I'm myself a south Asian girl who was picked by a western guy who married me and I get to upgrade my life because of that. I don't consider it exploitation. We like each other so don't know why it should be considered exploitation. 

 

[Leo Gura]

11 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

when women choose to be feminine women.

The notion that America is not overflowing with feminine women is insane.

That is unless your definition of feminine is: go make me sanwiches.

I've rarely had a problem with a girlfriend not being feminine enough. If anything the problem is that they are so feminine they're wacko. My most stable relationship was with the least feminine girl because she was sane and low drama. It's not as hot but it lasts longer.

Edited September 28 by Leo Gura