Leo’s advise about dating and sex are mostly aimed towards man

[Leo Gura]

I have girls send me unsolicited pictures of their tits just because I created Actualized.org.

That, in a nutshell, is why men need to focus on creating value.

Edited September 28 by Leo Gura

[Princess Arabia]

12 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I have girls send me unsolicited pictures of their tits just because I created Actualized.org.

That, in a nutshell, is why men need to focus on creating value.

Lol. I've gotten unsolicited pictures of men's penises just because they find me attractive. These weren't low-lives either but distinguished men in society. I felt violated. Lol

[Leo Gura]

16 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Lol. I've gotten unsolicited pictures of men's penises just because they find me attractive.

Because you have value for a man.

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These weren't low-lives either but distinguished men in society. I felt violated. Lol

Because what you need from a man is very different than what he needs from you.

It may sound funny, but for a man just to get noticed is 80% of the challenge of dating. For women, it's the opposite: being noticed means nothing.

Edited September 28 by Leo Gura

[Princess Arabia]

1 minute ago, Leo Gura said:

Because you have value for a man.

Because what you need from a man is very different than what he needs from you.

Yes, but still....can you ask first. My manners is very up-to-par and I think it's rude. Now, I don't think a man would think it's rude if i was to send naked pic's; another example of how some men think women like the same things they like or love the same way they do. Maybe not love - but you get the drift. They would love getting these pics, so they think we do too.

[AION]

33 minutes ago, aurum said:

Your girlfriend doesn't need unconditional love. Your limited, human love will do just fine.

Yea it was like casting pearls in front of a swine. She was Christian and kind of religious. I thought she would appreciate my unconditional love and we would figure things out together. Now typing this out I feel so ignorant. 😅

[AION]

31 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

I have girls send me unsolicited pictures of their tits just because I created Actualized.org.

That, in a nutshell, is why men need to focus on creating value.

You either increase your (attraction) value on the marketplace or become a better seller/negotiator. I know friends who have huge value but they can’t sell themselves. They need seduction skills. 

[Leo Gura]

3 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Yes, but still....can you ask first. My manners is very up-to-par and I think it's rude.

Of course dick pics are cringe and rude.

It shows a total cluelessness on behalf of the guy about how women work.

[Princess Arabia]

9 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Because you have value for a man.

Because what you need from a man is very different than what he needs from you.

It may sound funny, but for a man just to get noticed is 80% of the challenge of dating. For women, it's the opposite: attention means nothing.

Attention means a lot if it's coming from the right man. Women notice men all the time, but it's very subtle and these men miss the cues; another reason again is because of how they show interest, they expect the woman to show it in the same way. Another thing is the women that aggressively show interest in some men, the feeling isn't mutual.

[Leo Gura]

2 minutes ago, AION said:

You either increase your (attraction) value on the marketplace or become a better seller/negotiator. I know friends who have huge value but they can’t sell themselves. They need seduction skills. 

Of course there's no way around having skill with handling girls. Without that skill you will screw everything up even if a girl jumps into your bed.

Edited September 28 by Leo Gura

[Leo Gura]

4 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Attention means a lot if it's coming from the right man.

Exactly. The key word there is "right".

"Right" means of high value.

If Tom Cruise gives you attention that's gonna feel "right".

If Tom Cruise was blowing up my phone, I would feel good too. No homo.

Edited September 28 by Leo Gura

[aurum]

13 minutes ago, AION said:

Yea it was like casting pearls in front of a swine. She was Christian and kind of religious. I thought she would appreciate my unconditional love and we would figure things out together. Now typing this out I feel so ignorant. 😅

No that's not what I meant.

You are not capable of unconditional love, nor is she capable of receiving it. But neither of you need to be.

Your conditional love, assuming it's not too conditional, is enough. 

Edited September 28 by aurum

[Princess Arabia]

5 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Of course dick pics are cringe and rude.

It shows a total cluelessness on behalf of the guy about how women work.

Exactly.

[Princess Arabia]

6 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Exactly. The key word there is "right".

"Right" means of high value.

If Tom Cruise gives you attention that's gonna feel "right".

If Tom Cruise was blowing up my phone, I would feel good too. No homo.

Idk about Tom Cruise, maybe Mark Wahlberg, hehe.

Edited September 28 by Princess Arabia

[AION]

18 minutes ago, aurum said:

No that's not what I meant.

You are not capable of unconditional love, nor is she capable of receiving it. But neither of you need to be.

Your conditional love, assuming it's not too conditional, is enough. 

I will leave unconditional love for myself. And give human love to humans. And pig love to pigs. 

That was my whole ordeal in the last couple of years. Trying to get unconditional love from a woman. It is not possible. 

There are not a lot of hot 20 year old saintly girls with unconditional love for - special - me, unfortunately. 

[Leo Gura]

Stop seeking unconditonal love from humans. That is improper. If you want unconditional love buy a dog.

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[Tenebroso]

@Leo Gura Leo do you believe there is someone for everyone? Are some guys doomed or in your experience, can every guy improve and become desirable to some extent?

[Leo Gura]

5 minutes ago, Tenebroso said:

@Leo Gura Leo do you believe there is someone for everyone? Are some guys doomed or in your experience, can every guy improve and become desirable to some extent?

There are thousands for everyone. But they will not come to you, you gotta do the work to find them.

You have over a thousand soul mates walking around on Earth right now. But you are too lazy to find them all.

Edited September 28 by Leo Gura

[AION]

7 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Stop seeking unconditonal love from humans. That is improper. If you want unconditional love buy a dog.

Dogs are just wolves who adapted themselves to cater to human emotions to be able to survive in their niche.

I do believe there is saintly love. But it is very rare. And only the keen eye can recognize its beauty. 

[Lyubov]

2 hours ago, aurum said:

You mean like women having power and autonomy?

 

notice how the majority of the feminine beautiful women in the USA are never the ones pushing these notions of gaining “autonomy and power.” radically redefining long held beliefs will have consequences, both good and bad. I think there’s a little more going on here than simply categorizing women as less free then vs now. Roles have changed for better or worse. Just look at all the disharmony between the sexes.

Edited September 28 by Lyubov

[Tenebroso]

49 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

 

It may sound funny, but for a man just to get noticed is 80% of the challenge of dating

How do you get noticed?

Often when I get advice, it seems that there is a basic assumption that you are able to get a date or even an interaction in the first place but as you have pointed out just being seen is a huge challenge.