Mature and immature attraction

[Chadders]

I believe there are three key dimensions to attraction: personality, physicality and availability (I.e. being less available)

I believe the first two make up authentic attraction where there is a synergy (a universal match between two people) and both can be developed to reach the fullest potential e.g. personality wise is being your most authentic self and physicality is good diet and exercise so your body is in the best shape

But the attraction of availability is different. It’s a kind of inauthentic attraction because it’s not based on a synergy but approval seeking. Often this third aspect can override the other two if you are that desperate for approval, which leads to chasing emotionally unavailable people that are not right for you. It’s not a surprise that younger men and women have this issue to a greater degree. 

I think it’s important to watch out for this in yourself and other people that you’re dating as I am doing. Are you becoming attracted to this person because there’s a genuine synergy or are you getting taken over by desiring their approval once they become unavailable? It’s a mark of how mature you are 

A lot of these toxic dating gurus are basically teaching you to be more attractive from the third dimension of availability (gaming women) which I see as a reflection of how the population has generally pretty poor levels of self esteem. We all ultimately want connection but we’re too busy seeking validation and approval

[Atb210201]

Mature attraction: Respectful towards the other side

Immature attraction: Disrespectful towards the other side

[Chadders]

@Atb210201 very true

[Butters]

You guys seem so respectful. 

I literally want insert my hard cock into a woman so she feels me penetrating her, and then shoot my sperm all over her tits and face. There is nothing respectful about that. 

Makes me thing you guys are a little dishonest to yourselves about your raw attraction to women. 

[Chadders]

@Butters Treat women with respect and like goddesses

Yes in sex you want to fuck her brains out. I agree be honest about your sexual desire in a loving way. I’m working on being more direct and honest about that

 

[LoseYourvelf]

4 hours ago, Butters said:

You guys seem so respectful. 

I literally want insert my hard cock into a woman so she feels me penetrating her, and then shoot my sperm all over her tits and face. There is nothing respectful about that. 

Makes me thing you guys are a little dishonest to yourselves about your raw attraction to women. 

Fucking butters man

[Ulax]

5 hours ago, Butters said:

You guys seem so respectful. 

I literally want insert my hard cock into a woman so she feels me penetrating her, and then shoot my sperm all over her tits and face. There is nothing respectful about that. 

You can do that respectfully.

Could even say "Excuse me kind Madam, would you mind awfully if I dispensed myself on your upper apparatus?". That would be extra respectful.

Edited October 6 by Ulax

[Tenebroso]

On 03/10/2024 at 4:34 PM, Atb210201 said:

Mature attraction: Respectful towards the other side

Immature attraction: Disrespectful towards the other side

What makes respect mature and disrespect immature? Explain it like I am 5, I am not seeing the connection.

[Tenebroso]

@Chadders Your point is simple but perceptive. I think you are correct, there is seemingly a self-esteem crisis and that 'third' approach to attraction has become very important. I am imagine people with strong self image, little to no trauma, stable attachment find each other and pair off quietly.

[Atb210201]

13 hours ago, Butters said:

You guys seem so respectful. 

I literally want insert my hard cock into a woman so she feels me penetrating her, and then shoot my sperm all over her tits and face. There is nothing respectful about that. 

Makes me thing you guys are a little dishonest to yourselves about your raw attraction to women. 

This wasn't about sex yes in sex do whatever you two both want.

[Atb210201]

8 hours ago, Tenebroso said:

What makes respect mature and disrespect immature? Explain it like I am 5, I am not seeing the connection.

Well you aren't a 5 year old.

Can't you see it yourself?

Isn't it obvious?

Edited October 7 by Atb210201